In light of Valentines coming up and in my utmost adoration of my husband, I have decided to publicly blog my valentines gift for him this year.....no, you don't have to run and hide the kiddo's from the computer screen or close the shades....this is simply 5 easy reasons why I adore my husband, and at the bottom my "gift" for him out of the love and respect from my heart. It is something that he will delight in, though it may seem silly to the rest of you...and it is GUARANTEED to "spice up" our marriage...although not the way you may be thinking....(oh! don't be downcast sweetie, ...of course we can always talk more about that subject between you and I later *winks*...I promise you will love my "gift" Joe...and I never did say it was the only one did I? *grins*)

Top 5 things I love about my man:

5) When I am weak you keep me strong, and when I need someone to plant my feet back on the earth, you do that, and in the most gentlest kindest ways. You keep me balanced on this hirewire of life, and for that I am most graeful!

4) You have a spirit that never quits. I love your determination and your drive! you keep me inspired to "keep on keeping on." Nothing is off limits to you or to this family because of your unwillingness to give up. The sky really is the limit! I love that about you.

3) While neither of us are perfect, I sometimes expect you to be and am quick to point it out, and yet you hardly ever point out my shortcomings or failings! Instead, you constantly reaffirm me....in this you have become a daily example of God's forgiveness and grace. I am sorry for the ways I've been harsh with you. I hope you know I adore every hair on you, and I am trying to be more like you are to me...more reaffirming and less critical/demanding.

2) You have one of the biggest compassionate hearts I have ever known. For people whom you love, your family and all your friends...when they hurt you hurt, when they get angry you get upset, and when they are downcast you rack your brain trying to think of ways to help them.All your friends should know they can truly trust you. you are not a fairweather friend! And how you react when the girls get hurt, you literally cry with them. And while this bothered me at first because it helps to calm the child down when they see a calm parent, I later realized this is what I love about you!! Your heart is never cold, it is always soft, and when a 3 year old cries, you cry with them. I love that you are a man unafraid to cry.

and the #1 reason I love my man.....? Simple!

You are my husband! and if all the things above fail, if you were to stop doing the things I love and start doing all the things that drive me crazy and I couldn't trust you and didn't want to...I still would love you.... why? simple!....YOU ARE MY HUSBAND...and I will have it

no other way,

no matter what! 

I promise.

and now for my "Gift"......

Joe, you now have my permission, in all playfulness to jump out and scare the bageebees out of me!! (As long as I am not carrying a baby) This is my gift to you!! I love you sweetie!

**for years Joe has been yelled at, hit, and given the silent treatment for jumping out and scarying me. This has been quite contrary to his playful nature and there have been countless times he has had to make himself more aware of how he was walking into a room, with no intentions of scarying me at all, just to ensure I didn't "accidently" startle. Seeing as how I startle quite easy, this had become quite a task for the man!! And not only was he willing to "undo" part of his own playful nature that God ingrained into him because it was more "comfortiable" to me, but he'd go even a step further, to protect me even when he had no intentions of scarying me at all!

In all these ways,

all these times,

all these years, Joe, that you have gone out of your way to meet my requests to not jump out at me, I now give that back to you. Have compassion on me dear friend lol...but no more holding back, no more fear (on your part) of upsetting me. I love being your wife and your main playmate in life. I give you full permission to teach me to laugh more! I love you so very much!!

~kris

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