• Apr. 25, 2009 - What to do, what to do ...

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As we bring this school year to a close (only 13 days to go!), I'm starting to evaluate and pray about changes to make for next year. I know, I know, I'm a little late to this - most of you probably already had next year planned by mid-March!

One thing that I've realized is that as much as I enjoy having my kids at home with me and building our relationships with each other, all that time at home isn't really productive. My son gets bored and just wants to watch TV. And, to be honest, I'm not entirely cut out emotionally for 24/7 with the kids. When I get stressed and overwhelmed, I don't model the best attitude. A friend recently commented to me that she is building better relationships with her kids since putting them back in school because she is more emotionally able to handle the time with them. I understand what she's saying, but I'm not led to put my kids in school. (I recently joked with friends that God roped me into homeschooling, and He won't let me out of it.) There has to be a middle ground - one that allows me to keep my sanity and give them some productive activity without me feeling like I'm punishing my kids for the 3 of us not being perfect. Some of my friends accomplish this by putting their kids in a one-day-a-week school program, but when I had my kids in that program, it was just a huge stress on all of us. My son in particular finds the long day to be too much and utterly exhausting. And I was running around every morning getting lunches and backpacks put together, rushing my daughter out of bed, and then pushing everyone through breakfast so we could get out on time. So for now, I don't think that's a good option for us.

I'm praying about other options that might reduce our day-to-day stress. I thought about a 4-day school week, but that could drag our school year out a lot longer than I'm willing to do - and then we also have one full day of "what to do," so it wouldn't solve the boredom issue. I may look into enrolling them in one or two classes at a local homeschool-support program. Or I may look into the Christian school where my son attended Kindergarten - at the time, they were very supportive of homeschoolers and open to having kids attend one or two classes instead of a full day.

When I step back, I really do feel blessed to have my children at home with me. But I want to do what's best for all of us. So I'm thinking and praying about the next year and what changes, if any, I need to make.




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• Apr. 25, 2009 - Maybe. ..

Posted by Reagan
It sounds like you are just realizing your limitations. Everyone has different levels of tolerance and patience especially with homeschooling. Mason and I aren't always on track. We will go gangbusters for a few weeks on English because that's what he in to at the time, other time we won't touch it for weeks. I have had to learn to "LET GO" of the process a bit. We take it as it feels right. Mason learns in everything he does. The only thing that I insist on is absolutely no TV (mon-fri). And 20 minutes of video games only after 10 school lessons have been completed. He is allowed one website at any time www.brainpop.com. Since we limit the electronic time, he find many many more constructive, inventive, creative things to do that I would never have thought to bring into a lesson. We are still of the mind that he must learn certain things (english, math, etc), but now that he can read, he also does a lot of self directed discovery. Hope this helps!! hang in there and don't stress about it. Even though it can be a bit "much" at times, it's still easier that battling a teacher and system that really don't understand your children. My biggest benefit is that our family is the primary influence on our son. When he was in public school, every afternoon I got back a stranger's child. Good luck!!!
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• Apr. 25, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by smallworldathome.blogspot.com
We do our support group's enrichment classes weekly, 10 weeks in the fall and 10 in the winter/spring. We absolutely love them. We pretty much have an activity of some sort every single day, so that by 3 p.m., we are heading out most days to something. They like having something to do every day, and that busyness makes a day at home, totally at home, all the much sweeter.
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• Apr. 27, 2009 - an idea

Posted by Anonymous
What about 1/2 day school? I think CCA does most of their core (3 R) subjects in the morning. The afternoons are scheduled with PE, art, music, science and history. It's fun, eduational stuff taught by people who love Jesus. My kids are enjoying being part of a musical, and particpating in science fairs, and art fairs...and, let's face it, PE is more fun when it's more than just you and your mom.

I know CCA is pro-homeschool, so I'm sure they'd be willing to work with you. Then you'd get to tailor J and M's 3Rs to their needs AND they'd get some sanity time, and you wouldn't have to push the kids out the door in the AM. Plus I know of a few kids who would be DELIGHTED to see their friends at recess -
Okay this whole idea may be a bit self-serving - we'd love to see more of you. But even still...I think an option like that has potential.
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• Apr. 28, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by socalval
I think you are doing a great job in questioning things and praying. The Lord will show you what to do - He is faithful. Sometimes homeschoolings is a calling for only a season - other times its for life. It's the freedom we have as mothers to decide. Praise God we have a listening ear to yield to what is best for our families. I will pray for you and your decisions.

Many hugs because I know it is a difficult time.

Love,
SoCalVal
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• May. 11, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Anonymous
I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes it gets overwhelming and I am really bad about getting in these moods of where I just want to do what I *want* to do. Right now, I want to devout all my energy into photography and learning to sew. I have devoted 13 yrs to homeschooling and getting burned out. When this happens, I will change to a curriculum for awhile where it is more self-directed to give my kids a chance for more independence and me a little more time to pursue my own interests. I pray you can find a balance for what works best for you.
Adena @ Friendship Alley (dot) com
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