Dakota's Days

Aug. 20, 2006

I dont like this

& I dont know why it is starting. The other day Dakota got mad at me because I told him no about something. He grabbed my arm & squeezed & pressed his chin into me hard. He has done that before when he is mad but usually stops right away when I tell him no. This time he kept doing it. I was holding the baby so I only had one free hand & when I would try to move away he would follow me & continue. When I pulled my arm away from him he went behind me & did the same thing only pressing into my back. It may not sound like it but trust me, when a strong 6yo is using his chin to press into your body as hard as he can it does HURT.

I finally got him to stop but the next day he did the same thing because I wouldnt come sign him onto the computer while I was nursing the baby. Except this time instead of doing it to me he did it to the baby, pressing his chin into L's back. This is the first time he has EVER done anything like that. I have seen him get upset with the other dc & push them away from him & I know he has done the chin thing to my 12yo a few times but not in a long time. He is usually so very careful around L. I do not like that he is doing this, it scares me. Im not sure how to deal with it.

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Aug. 20, 2006 - My Four Year old...

Posted by HouseMouse

... does the chin thing too! Where do kids get those ideas? I guess because they know better than to hit, so they do something else to hurt. My kid just gets a time out if he doesn't stop it when I tell him to. My 7 year old used to head-butt people when he got mad (when he was much younger I mean), and he actually gave me a black eye! Who says being a mother isn't dangerous?

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Aug. 20, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by hugabunchmom

The hurtful behavior to us and to himself stopped after six weeks on the gluten free/casein free diet, but I remember those days. Awful. For him it was about not feeling the pain and so he didn't realize how much pain he was causing. It is so hard to have your child hurt you, even worse when you find that he is also doing it to siblings. I would try removing him from the situation, repeatedly. Sort of a time-out, but could be done anywhere, not necessarily to a specific spot. If it means moving him to a spot on the floor and then moving him back to the spot two seconds later and again and again until he stays for a minute, I would do it. Perhaps if he finds that he will lose time with people, considering it is your attention he wants, he will figure out that he needs to not hurt you. Oh yah, we also have been known to cry...rather loudly if need be. For any of our children if they did this. Particularly with our ASD kids, it is very hard for them to understand that they have actually hurt someone, so that helped a lot with him as well. I will keep you in my prayers.

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