• Jun. 25, 2007
A Memory for Monday... and the challenge
Eighteen years ago I became Mrs. Dan. We have been reminiscing all weekend on what we were doing at certain times of the day 18 years ago. Dan even talked about it in his sermon (it fit, there was a point made I promise). We were married on June 24, 1989 at 10:00am. We got married so early in the morning for two reasons... we had waited four years and we were just ready to be married to each other AND we were planning about a 1000 mile trip for our honeymoon and wanted to get halfway there before dark. Oh, and one more reason... we had lots of friends that were in ministry and had to travel so we wanted to make sure they had time to get on the road and back to their churches before too late at night.
We laughed about how we did not get to eat ANY of the food from our reception except the bites of cake we shoved in each other's mouths. We were so hungry when we left around noon that we had to stop for a Dairy Queen burger on our way out of town. We were in an old blue pickup truck and we broke down 20 minutes out of town. The Dairy Queen was right by the mechanics place! LOL I remember sitting in a little trailer house parked next to the shop with the mechanic's wife. She was such a darling lady! She was sitting at a table clipping the biggest stack of coupons I had ever seen while three children played around her. She let me sit and eat my burger while the men were working on the truck. About half an hour later we were back on the road. We did not have one more problem with that truck but every vehicle since then has been a challenge on occasion. It is the way it is with old vehicles but they have such character. I often drive a 1989 Chevy Suburban now and I LOVE IT!!! Dan bought it for me... LOL
We honeymooned in Colorado and I learned to flyfish on that trip. We have been flyfishing almost every summer since and now our children are learning. We have had rough times and tough times but we have always hung on together. Dan is my best friend! I would do it all over again if I had the chance. Every day has been worth it. He is an amazing husband and father. I am not always the most wonderful person to live with but he is always so patient with me.
In honor of our 18 years together I am going to be joining in the focus on Honoring My Husband for the next 30 days. I will be writing about some of the things as I go.
1. My focus is to respect my husband even when we don't agree on everything. It is ok not to agree. We are different people and have different personalities. The way we disagree is important though and I have spoken out of turn in front of our oldest some lately. I will be working on keeping the discussions and disagreements private. We don't yell and fuss but sometimes discussions should just be between us without little ears hearing all we say. That is my focus this week and ongoing...
2. I also struggle with being frustrated over his parents. They live 10 whole miles from our home and can be a bit intrusive if we let them. Dan's dad in particular is hard to deal with. The issue is that I need to stop being so outwardly frustrated and stop voicing it to Dan. He knows... I don't have to keep reminding him... he is annoyed by his dad too a great deal but we need to stop letting it be a part of our conversation. Part of honoring our husbands, I think, in some way means honoring their parents, too. I will try to do that more.
3. One more... I will set my studies and work aside and just focus on him every day. There needs to be a time that everything is put aside for just us. We need more of that... with four kids and me in school it is very hard but NOT impossible. I will work on that, too.
So, if you would like to join you can check out Fruit in Season's site for more information on both Marriage Monday and Honor Your Husband.
Comments
• Jun. 25, 2007
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Posted by Anonymous
Blessings to you, and your marriage.
• Jun. 25, 2007
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Posted by The Artist
Wow! That was a great post! I'm doing some of the same that you are - the whole parents thing! Great blog!
How do you do the snap shots thing? I absolutely LOVE that!
You can link to my blog via Fruit In Season!
• Jun. 25, 2007
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Posted by Anonymous
Dear Leann,
I am so glad you joined. The love for your husband shows through your post and blog. May the Lord bless you this week and always. I look forward to getting to know you better.
In his endless love,
Angel ( Angel Mama Pearls of Wisdom)
http://www.angelslisteningheart.blogspot.com
• Jun. 25, 2007
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Posted by Anonymous
Psssst! Thirteen years ago today, I became Mrs. Andy!
Happy Anniversary to ALL FOUR of us!
love,
aj
• Jun. 26, 2007
Challenge
Posted by Anonymous
May God bless you and your husband with many more years to come!
peace, Alida
• Jun. 26, 2007
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Posted by tookshire
I really do like your posts reflecting on your marriage, so I'm excited to read your future endeavors. Praying that they'll be fruitful for your sons as well. I live very close to my parents, who are the very definition of intrusive...and I will say that Franklin is very respectful to me in not sharing his every thought, although he could (and he'd be right!). Their intrusiveness has cut down extreemly as we as a couple decided on boundaries that could not be crossed, and decided as a couple what we "reaction" we would have to each "action" ahead of time. Consistency is not always my strong point, though. On the other hand, my in-laws live an hour away from us, see us rarely and have injured my heart so, that I often don't exchange the favor as Franklin hear's my feelings. I've slowed on this considerably (now it comes up maybe three, four times a year...but they are doozies). Will you be writing about how to achieve these goals of yours? ( I know, right? Just stop doing it, LOL. Seems there should be more instruction.)
• Jun. 26, 2007
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Posted by Anonymous
Wonderful goals and what a sweet walk down memory lane. Thanks for linking up and I pray God blesses your marriage through this challenge!
