Aug. 6, 2005 - How easily it slips |
Once again I see how easily it slips... the little things creep back in and I don't even notice it.
Twice today I noticed myself getting irritated with my daughters... each of them separately. I made a request of them, or rather a directive and rather than immediately doing what I asked, they came back with some kind of retort. Rather than doing what I should have, I returned with a retort and so it went....
We really tried to raise our girls to obey us immediately... no questions asked. When we said go, the only response would be "Yes mom". Slowly, as they matured, the response could be "Yes, mom... but do you think it would be possible..." as they were on their way to doing what we asked...
But, as always, over time... when we're not conscious of it... the "Yes, mom" is no longer there, and the plea is no longer happening while they're on their way to obedience, it becomes disobedience with a "But, mom..." instead of a "Yes, Mom."
The sad thing is, it's my own fault. I let the world into my day so much that I don't even see the subtle slip and I find myself engaged in a debate. And then it reaches the point, today, where it just hits me at the right moment and I realize how far it's come... and I'm irritated and I don't like it.
That's where I was today. Thankfully I had a few minutes to realize why I was irritated and a moment to think it through, pray it through and address it with at least one of my daughters. Her sweet tender heart, however, immediately was broken too as she realized her part in it. My heart was breaking even more now as I saw her tears... realizing how my sinfulness caused her to sin. I admitted my fault, asked for forgiveness from her and all is well, of course. I still need to discuss it with the other daughter.
Oh how I wish I could be more observant about these things... to see them at the first hint of slipping ... and I know, again, that it's my own fault. I let myself get too busy. I don't stop for those quick seconds to make sure that it's happening as it should. It really doesn't take more time to do this... I'm just lazy and focused on the unimportant that seems urgent. So much to learn....
Annette
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Aug. 6, 2005 - Beautiful! |
| Posted by HappyApple |
It is so easy to debate!
It is wonderful that you prayed with your daughter.
I think as parents our children need to see us be humbled as well.
Di |
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Aug. 8, 2005 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by KeepingtheHome |
| I just love this post! You've made me aware of how my 10yo is slowly starting to change his words. Instead of "Yes, ma'am" (we live in the South, although I wasn't raised Southern and dh wasn't either, we think it is so polite of the kids to say this), he always adds something to it. His words are usually, "But I was just..." Words I used to say as a teenager! Thanks for the warning and reminder! |
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