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I've been watching a few people I know over the last few months. Over those months a girl (let's call her Meghan) has become very close friends with a guy (let's call him Tim). However, Tim has now got a girlfriend (Hailey), and seems to be completely distacted from everything else. Now Meghan and Tim hardly ever talk.

Meghan's heartbroken, because she hoped he would be her Christian, big-brother mentor she's always watnd. She dreamed of having a guy-friend who could give me good advice and brotherly love. Because of that, however, she made herself vulnerable to him. Opened up to him. Poured out her soul. She let him have enough of her heart that he was able to break it. And he did break it, when he decided that he would give back her heart and take Hailey's.

Now there's a choice Tim has to make.

two girls want two different-yet strangely similar- things from the same guy. Meghan wants brotherly love and affection while not being in a relationship, but Hailey wants his love WHILE being in a relationship.

he has to choose. If he chooses to keep Meghan, he loses both the girl he believes he loves as well as the thrill of being in a relationship. He loses one more thing as well--his security. He has placed his worth in her, and when she's gone, so is his worth. He placed his worth in something temporary.

If he chooses Hailey, he gains the joy of having his "love" all to himself, and has the thrill of being loved back, but he loses Meghan, his Christian mentor who has been with him during his spiritual walk for quite some time. He secludes hiself with his newly found girlfriend from all his old friends, including Meghan.

He chose Hailey. Meghan hasn't talked to him in two months, because he's not interested in talking on facebook anymore, since he's too busy talking with Hailey. Also, he just moved, so she can't see him anymore.

Why do teenagers seem to seclude themselves from everyone else when they're whisked off to their "land of fairytales and dreams come true" relationships? I've been forced to stand by and watch while my friend has had her heart broken by a perfectly nice Christian guy!

Just remember that your girlfriend or boyfriend might not always be with you, but your friends will. If you don't push them away from you. I know a lot of you don't have relationships at the time, but is there anything else that's separating you from your friends? A bad attitude? A best friend? (not that best friends are bad, but remember that there's always other people who you might be able to help, and if you push everyone else away and you and your friend just go and hang out you won't have anyone when she's gone.)

What's your answer? why do teens do this to each other? It happens every day, but no one seems to DO anything about it!

What can YOU do?

Go and reach out to that person who needs a friend right now. It doesn't matter what they're like--everyone's the same in God's eyes.

BeCcA