Day By Day - Ok - I'm angry...

Dec. 14, 2005

Ok - I'm angry...

I have raised an ungrateful brat! Yesterday I went out and got him new pants and new shirts. Well, he doesn't like them and is CONSTANTLY complaining about every little thing about them. Oh, yes - he is wearing them. And, I'm seriously considering making him wear them everyday for the next week or maybe longer!

But I'm not sure if I'm angry or just hurt? Was I this ungrateful as a kid? I sure don't remember being like this - but I've yet to meet a kid yet who is truly unselfish!

I think this child needs to get a dose of how good he's got it...not sure how to accomplish that at his age. And, it doesn't help that Christmas is right around the corner and all he can think about is what he's getting. Sort of takes the fun out of getting him anything when he's like this! Of course, I got him something that I think he will be thrilled with - but it's not a big deal and it't not one of the 100s of things he said he wanted - so I doubt he'll appreciate it.

Well, thanks for letting me vent a bit! I'd better go check on him - part of his punishment is that he has to clean his room all by himself. No help from his brother.

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Dec. 15, 2005 - Untitled Comment

Posted by MiikoGibson

Hope things are looking up for you! I know it just gets me when my dd does not show gratitude. Blessings, Miiko :)

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Dec. 20, 2005 - Untitled Comment

Posted by mistresninos

We have really cracked down on Stanley this year in this area. One way that has helped is by adding prayers for the persecuted church to our morning prayers. I have never been the type to attempt to protect my children from the reality of life. I don't drum it in their heads at 4yo that bad and horrible things happen, but if they become aware, I don't avoid the subject.

Stanley is at an age, and attitude, that he really needs to learn that we are all terribly spoiled here. The other day he made the mistake of telling me he was starving to death. He does this all the time and I have tried to use words to convey what real starvation is but he has not accepted that so I showed him online pictures children who really were starving to death and told him he was never to say that he was starving to death again, he must only say that he is hungry. So far I have yet to hear another peep out of him in that regard.

We have been using the Doorposts charts and they have been very helpful with his whining and complaining. I keep meaning to talk to you about them but life keeps happening and it seems so insignificant but they have helped. I know their books are a bit over the top legalistic (and you know I don't throw that word around lightly) but their charts are written for you to be able to use in a way that works for your family. Any time now that Stanley is whining we show him the chart, discuss the verse and why the behavior is wrong and he loses privelidges (sp?--too tired to care. lol)

Some of the other disciplinary topics on this chart (the "If-then" chart) are teasing, hitting, stealing, lying, defiance, name calling, etc. The side for the consequecne is blank so you can choose your own. We are finding their recommendations work extremely well. I also always emphasize to him that we are learning together. That God works on me when I read him the verses and that he needs to allow God to work on him too. (That keeps me from getting too legalistic myself.:-))

I will continue to keep you all in my prayers.

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Day by Day....we strive to learn together, love each other and have some fun. Day By Day.... we strive to raise our boys to be knights and warriors for the Lord. Some days it's a struggle...

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Me - I like to read and knit. I've been a Christian for many years and loving learning about God and seeing the Lord work in our lives! I also post on my other blog, "Journaling Back To Joy"
DH - Is a theologically trained teacher of 4th graders at a Christian school. He loves astronomy, LOTR and playing with the kids! He is the funniest man I know.
J1 - 12 - our oldest. He came to live with us when he was 16 mos old and completely turned our lives inside out! While he is struggling with self-control right now - he is the one who can brighten the room just by smiling! He loves creating things from our recycling and anything that allows him to move (trampoline, skateboards, inline skates, etc)
J2 - 11 - our middle son. He is the one who I am currently homeschooling. He loves to create things from Legos and he loves movies. He would watch movies all day if I let him :( He has just had a major breakthrough in reading - for which we are praising the Lord!
J3 - 6 - my joy. He has a very tender heart for me and really works hard to make me happy. He loves to cuddle and is just learning about Legos. He wants to be with his big brothers so much, but the age difference is a big hurdle right now.
Joshie - 5/29/02 - 2/22/03 - Our surprise! Our only pregnancy that the Lord allowed - and we were blessed to have him for those short mos. We are all still grieving his loss - you'll hear alot about that from time to time. We look forward to getting to know him someday.

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