I'm thankful that God has given me a godly husband. This situation with our dd has been very difficult for him. She was the only one who called herself "daddy's girl". She was a bit of a tomboy and liked the things my husband liked. When she was little, he built a special workbench--not for our son--but for her.

He is still hoping that she will adopt the baby out and for that reason won't even entertain the thought of me going to a baby shower for her. He sees that as giving into her. I don't see it that way, but I respect his wishes at this time. To my dd, it is a special time for her however, and she's expressed a desire for me to be there. I feel really torn, but I know she understands the difficulty. I believe my husband will change after the baby arrives, if dd still decides to keep him/her. If she does keep the baby, and it seems that is what is going to happen, there will be time for me to be a part of this special time for her later.

I've discussed with her also how that her choices bring consequences. We reap what we sow. There are consequences to our actions, and part of that is what she is experiencing. So for now, things aren't ideal. But I express my love to her in spite of it all.

It's not the wrath of God that brings us to repentance, but the grace of God as it says in Romans. Most of all, I want my dd to know the Love and Grace of God.