This was just what my heart needed to hear.  If past history holds true we will be excpecting next month.  Yes we have a new little one grace our home every 16-18 months.  My family is so tired of us having children and have graciously let us know it with some not so subtle hints.  "Aren't you done yet?" being the most popular.  I will admit that I have struggled with this alot this past pregnancy.  I even thought of having a tubal done when this last one was born.  We will most likely do that when it becomes neccesary but I am not having any health problems that would  make it so that I can not.  God does give us a brain and we should use it to determine when it is time to stop but also why should I jump ahead of God's time.  Because I am stressed,  If that is the case then I need to look into my scheduling and what I am trying to do.  It most likely is not that I have to many children but that I am not organized enough.  Am I tired all of the time?  Maybe I need to eat better, or exercise more.  I am not saying we all have to have the same number of children but I am saying we need to let God plan our family for us.  We do not need to take control of this issue.  Leave it in God's hands.  Well I said all of that to say what a blessing this article was to me.  I read it and started to cry.  Yes Lord I want to advance your kingdom and I am willing to fulfill the puropose you have for me.  If I am married that means I am to bear children.  She states it so well in this article.  We are not to seperate life from love.  Oh thank you Dear Father for sending this to me. 

[Mr. Phillips] Your poor wife must be sick of popping out kids? Stop overpopulation! Use birthcontrol for (expletive deleted)! Pitiful. Stop adding “freaks” to our society. Abstain. God would want you to (sic). ___.

Dear _, God bless you. This is Doug’s “poor” wife here writing to assure you that “popping out” kids, though challenging, is among the most glorious gifts that the Lord bestows upon a redeemed woman. Prolific mothers are not “baby machines” (as both Margaret Sanger and some very confused professing Christians), but blessed vessels of life from which the Lord brings eternal souls into this earth and fulfills his own command that man “be fruitful and multiply.”

For a Christian, having babies is not about birthing pains, changing diapers or baking cookies(though it includes all of these). Having babies is about transforming the world forever. This investment will last, not for thirty years, not for my lifetime, but f-o-r-e-v-e-r. The investment is realized on earth and pays dividends for eternity. On earth, we pray that these children will advance the very kingdom of God. But in heaven, the souls of every redeemed child will stand with me throughout eternity before the Lord Jesus. The pressures of today (be they financial, physical, etc.)that taunt Christians to self-consciously distort God’s fruitful purpose for the womb, and to separate life from love, will seem infinitesimally small as we look back upon this whisper of a life with our children beside us in eternity.

My children can have more far reaching implications for society and posterity than anything else I can do. Having babies and training children for Jesus Christ means my life work will last forever. I hurt for you and those sad, misguided souls who would think of prolific motherhood as reducing women to the status of “baby machine.” I refuse to accept the minimizing, selfish, materialistic, and limited vision of womanhood dispensed by the apostles of modernity and relevancy in this generation. My dream is far greater. I reject the options which the world offers. I want something bigger.

Though I have been blessed with seven children who are the delight of my soul, Doug and I fervently pray for more. While I am not sure what you mean by “freaks,” I can assure you it is my goal to populate the world with “fools for Christ” who view children as a blessing, the womb as sacred, and the calling of helpmeet and mother as holy before our Lord Jesus.

I understand that you and I disagree on these points, but I want to let you know that I am glad that your mother gave you life. I don’t know you, but I would never wish that you were not born, nor would I presume that the world would be a better place without you. In fact, I would be happy if perhaps someday we can meet unified in Christ and as friends. And yes, with more babies on our laps.

Sincerely Yours, Beall Phillips

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Posted by Anonymous

What a wonderful and gracious comment to such a rude ignorant comment. I commend you for speaking graciously to the one who seems so ignorant of God's Word. Yes, sister, God says that we are to be fruitful. His word says that it is a blessing to have a fruitful wife. So sad is our country that they can't see this any longer. Perhaps, looking at Europe where England and France are leading the way for their populations to be depleted while the Muslim immigrants, take over (their people only average a child per couple where the Muslims have up to twelve children each). If your read up on that it shows you why it is a blessing to be fruitful- raising Godly children in a home to follow the Lord, and meeting our enemy with large numbers. Bless you sister. Your words are more gracious than mine for that man who doesn't show the Lord's heart.

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Posted by momofsix

Hi, what a blessing you are to this blogging site. I soo appreciate your blog. I have six children, hoping to soon have seven. Yes, I would even love to fill up a sixteen passenger van. Did you know that our town was named after the large family here, Edwardsville (the Edwards family was very fruitful). The two other cities nearby were also named after the other two very large families. I read about it in our local history section of our paper. It is wonderful to be fruitful. It is wonderful to send our more arrows for the hands of our Lord, Jesus. You are soo blessed, sister. How delighted I am to meet you!! Come see me some time. I would enjoy chatting with you. God bless you.

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Posted by KarenW

God gives us the desires of our heart. If you and your husband desire more children, don't worry about what others say. I think large families are wonderful!

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Posted by momofsix

I had to come back and revisit your blog because I forgot to leave you with one of my favorite quotes.

"To say there are too many children is to say that there are too many flowers." M.Teresa

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Posted by ApplesofGold

What a beautiful blog you have! I just read this article last week and loved it! Holly

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