There are so many takes on this topic..well gossip is pretty clear..but the whining and complaining....I am kind of lost on the topic.  The Bible clearly says:

...for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.

Do everything without complaining or arguing,

so that you may become blameless and pure,

children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation,

in which you shine like stars in the universe

Philippians 2:13-15

And then right before that the Bible says:

5Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
 6Who, being in very nature^[a] God,
      did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
 7but made himself nothing,
      taking the very nature^[b] of a servant,
      being made in human likeness.
 8And being found in appearance as a man,
      he humbled himself
      and became obedient to death—
         even death on a cross!
 9Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
      and gave him the name that is above every name,
 10that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
      in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
 11and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
      to the glory of God the Father.

Philippians 2:5-11

I have had some people from the right tell me that God does not expect us to go through life alone and that we need to vent.  But when I seem to vent the more life I give to those feelings..whatever they maybe.  But then also sometimes when I complain and get those feelings out they disappear...it was like all I needed to do was to vent my frustration to make those feelings past.  And of course when you whine and complain...mostly it involves gossip of another person..not putting that person in a positive light in anothers mind. 

Then I have people on the left that say...don't whine and complain to others...whine and complain to God...give it to God and leave it at the cross. 

I always feel horrible after I have vented to others.  Like I have done and injustice to those I have vented about.  Which of course is true because I was not talking very nicely about those people.  I find that it also disrupts the attitudes in my house.  I am suppose to be the thermstat in the house and when I am having a bad attitude about whatever...it certainly is felt through out the whole ho use.

I would never talk to someone I did not trust...only to my best friends do I vent like that too.  I trust them to drop it and not think negatively about that person...but is that possible?  IDK...this is just one of those big...."WELL GOD?"  questions for me.  And since I feel so much conviction about it...maybe I should not do it.  I don't know...anyone else have any take on this that they would like to share?

My attitude should be the same a Christ...He never complained and whine about any situation that He was in...no mattter how unbearable...no matter how unfair.....no matter how frustrating.  Maybe that says it all??????