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Jan. 16, 2008
Calgon.....take me away
Posted in Family Time
Time for a "One of those Days" post. Today the weather was gloomy and cold and due to that I cancelled the bi-weekly ladies meeting and decided to go ahead with school. We made it through as I had only three students today instead of five. The two older boys were not here today until late in the afternoon and they were both all caught up on their assignments.
Yesterday my three younger students were all at the table for lunch. My daughter animalfriend98 was trying to show her brother Yakistan and her friend/classmate kaybug1997 how a flamingo eats food. Well you know boys. He decided for some reason that pushing her head down onto the granite table top as she did this would be funny 
. So he does so as she is trying to go for the food with no hands...face first. However, it was anything but funny when she raised her head up and her two front top teeth were BROKE! I mean very visably broke. These are not her baby teeth. Now this is the story I am told. I did not witness this first hand. Lord knows, that's probably not a bad thing for my son. You see usually while they (the older ones) are eating luch I am trying to catch up on grading, laundry, blogging or cleaning some area of the house. Sometimes even getting the next lesson ready due to not getting prepared the night before 
. Oh Lord help me to get organized.
Well, we get back to school work after luch and things seem to be going good. They were all very quiet and I was really amazed at how well behaved they were being. I should of known then...something was up
. No talking from my daughter who has often been called "Princess Talk A Lot"! No comments to one another. Nothing but silence and pencils writing on paper or the dancing of fingers as they type away on the keyboard answering questions without the need for help. They just came back from lunch so ready and eager to get finished with the lessons for the day. They finish up and head off to play. A little while, maybe 30 minutes pass and my and son comes up to me with a very weird look on his face. I think it was fear. He informs me his little joke at the lunch table and the result of his thoughtless little joke. He does so earnestly explain that her teeth must be weak because really he barely pushed her head . OKAY.
I'm thinking to myself...I never heard her even cry and usually this girl will YELP if they so much as pretend to touch her! So maybe it's just a little chip. I ask to see her teeth, she complies and smiles for me ...
. I had to pray...I needed a moment. It was bad. I looked at my son and told him to go to his room until his father returned home. This was serious and I was 
. What on earth makes a boy want to do this? Why can't they keep their hands to themselves and realize that pain isn't a funny thing. I must admit at that moment I wanted to show him how UNFUNNY pain really is. Okay but I didn't. I just sent him to his room and didn't want to look at him again. This one was for dad to handle. Anyone out there have that..those "When your dad get's home.." days. Well this was one of those days for sure. Thank God we do have some dental insurance and I pray that the work needed will be covered.
So dad gets home and his reaction.....not what I expected 
. I mean I had the paddle ready, the belt on the door...the switch in hand. Okay that's a little overboard but you get the picture. I expected corporal punishment for this one. I was even nervous for my son although I was still angry ....yes angry..at him for the thoughtless little joke. I could hear the cries before dad ever walked through the door.
Yet, never happened. Not in the way I thought it would. Instead dad had him look at his sisters mouth, over and over again. Each time he would try to look away, he made him fix his eyes upon the broken teeth and the saddened face that usually shines with a bright smile. He did ground him but the tears that ran down his face were not a result of that punishment. Those tears were from the thought of possibly causing his sister to face some cruel remarks, faces and words because of his thoughtless actions that day towards her.
First off I could not, still don't understand why she didn't tell me, but then she never looked into the mirror until after she told me...then she cried. Second of all, WHY do boys have to be so rough. Do they ever grow out of it?
I had a melt down tonight here at home, (yes a screaming at everyone fit) because all the boys, including D (my new highschooler) and my hubby were in the room roughhousing like mad men . Screaming and yelling like bloody murder and when I walk in the room....silence 
. That is until I open my big mouth. Someone always ends up crying and hurt or mad. Just two days ago the boys were all roughing around and ended up hurting each other and yes of course what are boys without blood???Why don't they learn? Why does a grown man go in there an encourage such behavior? How can I win this battle or is it one of those that I can not win? Is it one of those that when I see it coming, I should get the calgon out, run a very hot bath , turn the soothing music up loud and pretend that Calgon really does take you away????
Okay, I'm having a night...anyone have chocolate????
I do thank God that He gives me the strength to put up with all these boys. I may be complaining right now but honestly I don't know what in the world I'd do in a quiet, empty home without them. Each time one leaves,even for a moment, it seems another comes in their place somehow. So although they rough house and bleed and tease and such...they are all worth every moment of insanity and choas to me. I mean afterall, my daughter and I hate taking out the garbage.LOL 
For a more uplifting post, please read the previous
. We all have our days ya know. Just so happens that these last two were mine and what kind of blogger would I be if I didn't share with yall such stories of life here in our little neck of the woods? 
. Ahh, maybe the calgon isn't needed afterall. I feel better already. Thanks HSB for the outlet here.
Be blessed,
Stacy
Comments
Jan. 16, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by SchoolinRhome
Sorry to hear about your daughter's teeth. I hope they can be repaired. I am sure SOMEDAY it may be a funny story??? I know what you mean about the rough -housing. Why do grown men encourage and get in on (sometimes even start) this. It also drives me crazy- oh and the trickling and not stopping- I HATE that! It must bea man things. My daughters and I get so mad- esp. if they pull one of the girls into it.
I hope you can get that Calgon moment or some chocolate! Have a better day tomorrow! We DO have a lot to be thankful for even in these stressful moments!
In Chrst,
SchoolinRhome (School in Our Home)
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Jan. 16, 2008 - Calgon...
Posted by Mom2zjh
Stacy,
I know how you feel about these men. I have 3 in my home and they rough house too....dad is always involved. I personally can't handle noise. When someone gets hurt as they always do it drives me mad. I do tend to yell at them alot when they behave like this. My middle son is sooo hyper always bouncin off the walls and he justs doesn't listen...he won't calm down. He also broke his front tooth off while playing air hockey in the church gym one evening. He was playing rough with a friend and the shooter hit him in the mouth, not the puck. I seen it happen and yelled at him but he was already holdin his mouth and screaming. It didn't hurt him, only scared him and the dentist fixed it the next day.
Ohhh.... boys!!! I have already had my hot bath and chocolate evening this week but the Lord is the best refreshment. I read a devotion today titled "I cast my kids upon you" :) He hears our cries and He understands.
Have a blessed evening dear sister and lean on Him.
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Jan. 16, 2008 - Devotion
Posted by Mom2zjh
The devotion book is titled "Ordinary Mom, Extraordinary God" by Mary E. Demuth
My dh got it for me for Christmas and I LOVE it!!!
Hope you can get a copy too, enjoy!
~Holly
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Jan. 16, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by SeekingJESUSnTeachingKIDS
Sorry you have been having some rough days. This week has been off for me here too. I always freak out and check the teeth first. Thank God for dentists. When Collin and Cameron were 3 they were running around and one of them changed course and they ran into each other head on, well face on. Collin ended up with teeth marks down his nose and face, while Cam ended up with a dead tooth. It got hit so hard it killed the nerve. I was so glad when it fell out in June, but we still have no second tooth. Those tough lessons are always the hardest to learn. Just think if your boy had to do it all over again, he would have never done it. So at least you know he has a good heart:)
:>Michelle
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Jan. 16, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Training Hearts
I will be in prayer and I'm sorry to hear of the struggles. I hope that you will feel peace and His loving arms wrapped around these areas :)
Blessings,
Tamara
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Jan. 17, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by momtofive
Ok - I am sorry about your daughter's teeth, but the story is kind of funny from this side of the computer screen. I have four boys, I TOTALLY understand the frustration of boys. I'm going to give you a link to a post I wrote quite a while back about boys.
http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/momtofive/373029/
I think you'll understand why I had so much sympathy reading your post.
Hang in there!
Tori
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Jan. 17, 2008 - I sympathize with your frustration...
Posted by proverbsmomof3
Boys(men) can be hard for us to understand. I think their roughhousing is their way of bonding, a primeval kind of thing. And when someone gets hurt they are filled with remorse but can't help themselves. I think that your husband's punishment for your son showed wisdom. I'm with you. I probably would have handed a switch to my husband on his way in the door, but I bet your son will remember what he did a whole lot longer the way it was handled. We all have those days, weeks, months, when we feel like we need to do it all and situations overwhelm us. I feel a good tantrum does wonders. LOL (JK) I pray that the rest of your week will be uneventful and smooth and that your daughter's teeth will be able to be fixed good as new. So glad that God is on our side!
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Jan. 17, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by psalms16vs2
Oh, I'm so sorry that happened. I do hope that they can be fixed. I only have one boy and one girl, but some of the things my one boy does surprises me. But my husband always takes it in stride and deals with it much better than me, since he was a young boy once. And I do the same with my daughter. I think that's a blessing from the Lord, because boys and girls were just made to be different from the Lord. I think it's great when a husband and wife work together like you two did with your children. It's such a blessing to see. I pray she really does feel better soon. :)
JoAnn
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Jan. 17, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by westward
Did you ever find some chocolate??? :)
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Jan. 17, 2008 - Another Miracle is Coming Your Way
Posted by Anonymous
Stacy, I don't have my own blog (yet!), and I do not comment a lot, but I have your blog bookmarked and I want you to know what a HUGE blessing you are to me, even though we don't know each other. I so appreciate all your posts, the good and the not so good. The Lord has used you immensely to encourage me! I am in tears reading this because I have 2 boys (one who recently broke his leg (fell from a tree), a rough-housing husband, and a precious little girl who sometimes gets caught in the middle of it! I understand, and I will keep you all in my prayers. With all that the Lord has done for you, ABSOLUTELY the Lord will take care of your sweet girl! And a little chocolate for mom couldn't hurt. Blessings, Renay in Samoa
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Jan. 18, 2008 - Hi Friend!
Posted by Anonymous
Oh, no! Sorry to hear about this. Well, I know how you feel. I'm always expecting dh to handling the things as I would but men have their own way and I have found out that it works. Your ds was probably expecting the corporal punishment but I bet facing her teething constantly as a reminder really hits pretty hard too. Hope she can get them repaired.
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Jan. 18, 2008 - Hi Friend!
Posted by Anonymous
Oh, no! Sorry to hear about this. Well, I know how you feel. I'm always expecting dh to handling the things as I would but men have their own way and I have found out that it works. Your ds was probably expecting the corporal punishment but I bet facing her teething constantly as a reminder really hits pretty hard too. Hope she can get them repaired.
Now breathe. LOL
Kysha
http://humblemama.blogspot.com
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Jan. 18, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Momto5
Stacy,
I can completely sympathize with you about boys - I have 6 including my husband (who can behave like a grown boy too). I am not sure if it ever gets better...
At least your son was remorseful over the fact that he hurt his sister. I think so many times (maybe all the time) they do things without even thinking about it and not realize there are consequences for their actions.
I pray your weekend is relaxing and that you are able to get your daughters teeth fixed.
~Tammy
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Jan. 19, 2008 - Oh Stacy
Posted by bubbebobbie
I am so sorry! How heartbreaking for your sweet daughter. How typical for brothers. You are not alone and yes these things happen in every household. I took mine to the ER a number of times. Stitches, BB Gun Pellets and broken noses. I am praying her roots are strong and that capping is all that is needed.
My grandchildren had to write contracts out to their mom about their behavior this week too. I was very impressed at their insight into their rebellion and need for repentence. They really do know what they are suppose to do.
Perhaps her brother should work off the co-pay for the dental work his sister is goin to have to have? Hitting boys in the pocket book really does send a message. Or maybe he could do her chores until her teeth are fixed?
So do you like Milk Chocolate, Dark Chocolate or white chocolate?
Praying peace for you as you enjoy God's design for the young men and young lady in your life.
Because of Jesus, Bobbie
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Jan. 20, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Momtofivekids
Sorry to hear that you had such a bad day. My oldest son had his 2 front teeth knocked loose when he was 13yo. I took it worse that he did. I hope today is better for you.
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Jan. 22, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by squeeli
I'm so sorry you had such a rough day and I pray that you have been able to get it all worked out. I sure am missing you around here.
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