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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Alternative Learning?

Warning:  This blog entry has misspellings, grammatical errors and all manner of things that drive editors to an early grave!  Read at your own risk! 

 

I haven't shared many photos lately, but I wanted you to see this one!  My 8yo son put together this still life.  Then he photographed it and we did some fancy stuff with it on our photo editor.  I love it!  It has some very nice elements in the composition.  Off set, using the rule of "3" that works so well in painting or photography.  It also shows his love of cooking, and his ability to create a scene.  I think he might have a career in this someday! Be sure to stop by his blog sometime and say hi.

 

 

                     

                                                                      Photo(C)J.W. Baetz 2006

 

 

My thoughts always turn to "unschooling" on Wednesdays.  Why?  Well, because I write a weekly column on it for the front porch.  And while you might think I am able to get something written before the deadline each week....well, we are too busy here at home and it is usually the last thing on my mind!

 

I get daily alerts from Google, and today there was a "news" story alert.  (I have removed the link) So I clicked on it, and almost didn't read the whole thing.....but I did.  It started out with a not-so-nice word that seems to be very prevalent in our society today.  But I let it pass, and wanted to see what the gist of this article was.  I "think" it was supposed to be an editorial, kind of tongue in cheek, but also a semi-nasty peice about how awful homeschooling is in general, and how ridiculous unschooling is in particular.

 

So I decided I might as well address it.  We all are entitled to our own opinions!

 

I know and you know that children left to their own devices and decisions usually make a lot of errors.  They lack judgment, wisdom and are chock full of folly.  I know that there are some unschooling parents out there that DO allow their kids to have free-reign, and I think for some of those, they are lacking judgment also.  BUT I must adamantly say this:  It is none of your  bees-wax, as the saying goes.

 

 (It is also all about semantics too, remember?)

 

I am all for going along side other parents, if they ask for my help.  I also believe that it is parental duty to be responsible for the raising of their own children.  That is one reason why we have chosen to educate our children at home.  It is our responsibility.  Also, if or when I send my children to an institutional school, I have just given up my rights as to what they learn, whether from the teacher or the other children there.  At home I have some say in it.  But I also know that I don't have control over everything my children are exposed to whether it is in my own home, on my street, at the local grocery store or anywhere else.  We are bombarded with information every day, and the only way to "prevent" input, is to put my children in a sterile bubble and I mean to tell you, we don't do that.

 

What we do, however is "input" our values, our thoughts and our time into our children.  Sometimes  we err, we are teaching them from a fallen state---we aren't perfect.  We don't claim to be, we just claim what is rightfully ours; our children.  They are a gift from God, to us, in our care but for a time.  A very fleeting time.  And while they are here it is our job to do our best and trust God for the outcome.  Am I saying that we do our best all the time?  Ha!  We are not that arrogant.  Life is tough, but Love covers a multitude of sins.

 

So while the naysayer's continue to misunderstand, we will continue to do what we deem right.  And to those who believe that their child knows best, we wish you well.  I encourage you to know your child, and help them to BE their best selves they were meant to be.  I also encourage you to take every "input" captive to your values and thoughts and plans.........and enjoy this wonderful time of discovery and learning with your children.

 

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!  We have so much to be thankful for.

 

God Bless your home and whatever you call your homeschooling lifestyle!

 

Homeschooling Is Life!

 

Nancy

 

 

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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Devonbunny
wow, that is a great picture!
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Thank you!

Posted by ByHisGraceInColorado
Oh, and I forgot to tell you---if you leave me a comment either here or on my front porch column tomorrow, you will be entered in a contest I am having. :)

Tell your friends!
Nancy
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Hi Nancy!

Posted by MrsStevens95
Cool pic ;) I read that article, it was...ummmm...interesting ;} Obviously she is uninformed about what homeschooling is and unschooling too. Sad that they have such preconceived notions about us all in general. I would love to grow our food in our back yard but I can barely keep a rose bush alive! LOL And, obviously (Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, etc.), being a nerd is not really such a terrible thing to be in the long run...

Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
~ Rachel
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Great post!

Posted by dawilli
As usual!

Yes, we have SO much to be thankful for, and yes, our time with them is so fleeting- I am ever-striving to take that to heart more and more and to really, truly, cherish every moment, every day- it's way too easy to take them for granted, to take our time with them for granted.
I need so much more work in this area- that's why I love friendly, encouraging, reminders like this!
Keep up the great writing,
and the great mothering!
Your children are so very blessed to have you,
ali

PS- have a great Thanksgiving!
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - unschooling

Posted by Anonymous
I also read that article and was unimpressed with the snarkiness of it. I believe that homeschoolers in general are misunderstood and stereotyped. I believe that we all do the best with what we have and want the best for our children. Keep writing and encouraging us like you always do.
ingo5134@gmail.com
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - You all are too kind

Posted by ByHisGraceInColorado
Your comments encourage me to always be the best I can! Some days, that isn't very good---just ask my children. :) But we do try, and Love covers a mulitude of sins!

Devonbunny, Rachael, Ali, Ingo:), you are all so kind.

Thank you for taking the time to comment, it means so much to me! I count each of you as a blessing. You are right up there with those special people in my life I am giving Thanks for!

Blessings,
Nancy
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by HappyApple
I read that same article, or whatever it is supposed to be today too. It's unfortunate that some people just don't have a clue.

Looks like your son was having a fun time.

Hugs,
Di

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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Oops, too lazy to sign in

Posted by Anonymous
Well, Di, I discovered that her column is a humor column :) I really didn't know that---so at least now I am a bit more understanding of what she wrote. If you go and read the comments she has---on her blog, (Suburban Turmoil) not the article-- you will see some really great thoughts there!

Blessings
Nancy
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Right on!

Posted by AHappyHome
"So while the naysayer's continue to misunderstand, we will continue to do what we deem right."

Happy Thanksgiving!
Blessings,
Keri
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• Nov. 22, 2006 - Article

Posted by Anonymous
We're total, complete, radical unschoolers. YOu know, the ones that let their kids have access to tv, video games etc...

Funny thing, none of my children watch tv excessively, nor eat sweets constantly, nor any of the other dire predicaments everyone seems to make about children that are given choices. There is a HUGE misconception about unschooling; everyone hears about the freedom part, but not the mindful, involved presence of the parent.

These kids are not just "turned loose" to raise themselves. In fact, unschooling means complete involvement and supporting their interests 24/7. There isn't some magical time when learning is done and I go off feeling that I've accomplished some preset goal.

Life IS learning. And learning happens spontaneously, beautifully and naturally when parents trust their children and support their interests wherever they lead. I'm glad you wrote a rebuttal. Maybe people can begin to educate themselves on what radical unschooling is really about....anything but a free-for-all.
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• Nov. 23, 2006 - Thank you Anonymous,

Posted by ByHisGraceInColorado
I wish more radical unschoolers would write and tell me what they feel. I think unschooling just scares some folks, worries them to death and they somehow feel responsible for YOUR kids. In my humble opinion, some of it might be well meaning concern, but maybe more of it is people making our business, theirs. I don't believe in the "takes a village" mentality of education. I do think that the world is our curriculum though!
I know for a lot of homeschoolers who were brought up in P.S. they have a real hard time going with their heart---they are in that other rut and its what they know. But once you are able to relax and live and learn together as a family it is a fabulous experience! One of my biggest "rants" is the "who decides when everyone needs to learn such and such." All of my kids are on a different timetable in their learning. I could go on and on.....

Thanks so much for writing! You just have a wonderful day, and stop by again!

Nancy
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• Nov. 23, 2006 - lol

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We must get the same google news alerts. Last night about midnight (when I should of been in bed, but couldn't sleep) I read her other blog and realized she was being obnoxious. =)

I think of 'unschooling' as thinking outside of the school box. Like you said, many PS raised folks do have a hard time getting out of the whole school mind set because the PS's do not teach to think outside the box, they get stuck in the "this is how it should be done" because the schools develop followers.

Another part of unschooling is being able to find teachable moments with our children to get them interested in something and to teach our children how to learn, to enjoy it, and how to find answers for themselves. If a curriculum, workbook or textbook is need for an unschooled child because they want it, or the parent feels it would help the child in what they are learning, then I am for that.

Unfortunatly there are 'unschoolers' out there that have given the name a bad name because they do let their children do whatever they want (TV and video games), and to that I say poo poo. When those distractions are not around then a child will find things to learn. Fill your house with books. If a parent knows how to learn and they know how to ask questions and how to find the answers then of course their children will learn to do the same.

Have a blessed Thanksgiving!
Di



Di

Edited by HappyApple on Nov. 23, 2006 at 8:27 AM
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• Nov. 23, 2006 - I went and read the article.

Posted by tbrowne
It is shocking that the author thought that the kids would actually decide to pursue their own education in a sudden day free from school. It is more about a mind-set and one day off of a busy school schedule and most adults would choose to sleep the day away.

Phooee- that was really something -- I hadn't seen those harsh, judgemental attitudes expressed in a long time.

Thanks for sharing. Terrill
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• Nov. 23, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by nsremom
Ignorance is sad in whatever form it takes. And women in general tend to jump on others that threaten our mothering.....and homeschooling freaks some moms out. It taps into our tendency to second guess ourselves.

Your post was done in love. Good job. I didn't see any hatred or spite coming through, which is frustrating to read sometimes coming from so-called Christian Homeschoolers.

Christ didn't shy away from questions! Neither should we. People curious? Let's tell them with love about homeschooling.
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• Nov. 23, 2006 - Great Post

Posted by ktneis
In my busy world I try hard to use curriculum to teach my kids things that they need to communicate with but we have been having a hard time with that. I have no real schedule and I wonder because my kids are doing what they want as far as experimenting, reading and nature walks if I am unschooling them. My kids need the structure too but it is hard to stay with the curriculum. So my thing is I want smart kids and adults with common sense in life that will make a difference in this world. I think unschooling provides both if you can give it some guided structure. It is very sad that some people are ignorantly writing about it not even considering the majority of homeschoolers that are doing it responsibly. I do know homeschoolers that work during the day and leave their kids, with no intentions of schooling them. They just do not want to deal with the public school calling them for their childs issues. I just be a example for them to follow and pray for them to see that they are not helping their children by ignoring their education. The parents need to guide and take responsiblity. There are not very many like that and people shouldn't think we are all like that. Thankfully God has blessed us with the common sense to educate our children in many ways.
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• Nov. 29, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Lee
I actually linked to this post through the original column author's blog.

An earlier comment mentioned that the "editorial" is done from a humorous perspective, and that's true.

I am neither for or against homeschooling in general. I do believe, however that there should be some accountability for what a child is learning in a home- or un-schooling environment. Unfortunately, not every parent has the knowledge or ability to find, or even recognize, "teachable" moments in everyday life, and a common concern when weighing pros and cons of homeschooling is that children are being homeschooled by parents who don't have the ability and thus are leaving their children woefully underprepared for life in society, from a social and educational standpoint.

I want to again emphasize that I am not anti-homeschooling. My wife and I talked about it with our son, and have spoken about it again now that our youngest is almost ready for school. My wife is an early childhood educator, and I would put my children's education in her hands without a second thought, secure in the knowledge that she is a capable educator. Not all parents have that ability, and unfortunately people have a tendency to seek for the negative to support their opinions against just about everything under the sun.

In the end, at least for now, we have decided to stick with public schooling. Our district is outstanding, and parental involvement at our elementary school is tremendous, way above what is the usual norm these days. My thought is that while I can't control all the input my child is getting, I am given the gift of being able to shape that input and offer my own perspective, based on my value system, and hopefully raise a well rounded, free thinking adult. I am not infallible. Neither are our teachers and educational system. Involvement is the key, whether you are a PS parent or a homeschooler.

Best wishes and good luck to all.

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• Nov. 29, 2006 - Thank you Lee, for stopping by

Posted by ByHisGraceInColorado
I appreciate your thoughts. I believe that we do need accountablility, but there has to be a limit to it. I know I will have to stand before the Lord some day concerning how I dealt with the gifts He has given me. But who decides which parents have the ability to "properly" teach their children? Not all geniuses beget geniuses. Not everyone is trying to raise geniuses either. I know that sounds extreme, but whose definition of "fitting into society" is the right one? I wonder if we can differentiate between abilities of children and appreciate them for who they are, and for who their parents are. Can we? We should! Everyone is unique. Not every "graduate" is going to be the same. Aha! My own public school education did not prepare me for life. Some kids do super in public school, and that is great. It is the parental choice, but they must have all the information they need to know in order to make an informed choice.

I know that elementary ed can give a person many ideas for teaching small children, but I have also talked to Mom's who have teaching degrees who say it didn't give them what they need in order to home educate. There is a big difference in classroom teaching and tutorial teaching. The institutional model of teaching works for some in the home, for others it doesn't work. I also know that we all have challenges, and each family is different. Who decides what is right for my family? My husband and I do, and we prayerfully seek wisdom for each decision we make.

I know that sometimes people do pinpoint the "negative" aspects of something to substantiate their stance. There were many more negatives to my own public schooling than there were positive. And although we do have negatives that we deal with in our daily lives, we can see the positives happening each day. Sure, those positives can happen elsewhere---but we wouldn't be able to rejoice with our children when they make new discoveries, learn a new concept, grow into who they are meant to be, if they were in a school somewhere else. I have always said that the mistakes are ours to make, and the joys are ours to relish. I don't want to miss out on the experiences that are ours to have as a family! It is all part of the divine plan.

Yes, involvement is a key. I just don't believe it's a given that any outside entity has a right to be involved in how we have chosen to live, learn and raise our children together. Checks and balances are a good thing, but you have to think of whose checks and whose balances, and what do they have to do with each unique family?

As for me and my house, we will continue to serve the Lord, trust Him with our children as He has trusted us. And I pray that each family out there, no matter how they choose to educate/train/raise their own households will cherish their time, trust their instincts and love their children with their whole hearts!

Blessings!

Homeschooling Is Life!
Nancy


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Posted by Mommy2fourCs
that low growling you hear is me! LOL This really got me going, so much so I too blogged about it. Lazy! Give me a break!!


Merry Christmas
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