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Posted by Anonymous

Am I okay with a messy house?? Not really, but am I not okay enough to clean it up after the kids are in bed? Not usually! (Especially if I'm not going anywhere in the morning...)
Melissa

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Posted by vmcrab

I just lose myself in Rock Band! HA! I usually begin by getting irritable with Peter for not helping more around the house and then I remember that he works all day so he probably doesn't feel like it any more than me. Then I try my best to remember that there are different seasons of life and this is the season with little kids running around the house messing it up all the time. There will come a time when the house will be very clean, but also very empty! sniff, sniff! That is my best input on the subject. It is a daily struggle for me also because I feel much more at peace with the world when my house is clean also!

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Posted by Nana

Oh my goodness, the memories of trying to keep my house clean, or just straight. We lived in several parsonages, and I always felt the pressure to keep "their house" perfect, because somone might just walk in and I wanted them to think that I was taking care of their house! So when you were growing up I would ALWAYS keep the living room perfect, or at least the part that someone would see upon walking into the front door. Looking back, I regret spending way too much time cleaning house and not enough time playing Candy Land and reading Goodnight Moon. NOW, it is not difficult to keep our little space clean and neat, and Val is right - oh how i miss the business of you 3 kids making a mess, playing and just living life. There has to be a balance, just like everything else. You want to be able to walk thru the playroom without breaking, squeeking or stumbling on things, but this is the stage of your life right now - kids and toys are EVERYWHERE. All I can say is try and balance. I truly miss the "clutter" sometimes, but hey - when i do I just invite the Crabtrees over and presto - I am reliving 28 years ago! The only thing I would suggest is the age old question of how to get the kids to help you pick up all those little pieces several times a day, and who knows - they may find ballet shoes or better yet: money! Gotta say, i love you and your clutter, and those precious children that God has entrusted you with - and at the end of the day it is all about your relationship with God, your home and family. That is what really counts. Besides, i hear that you have a fairy that appears sometimes to wisk away the chores. Maybe she should come more often. I love you! Nana

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Posted by Anonymous

Hi Candace

I can so identify with that!!! I feel "out of control" if my house is in a mess, and the little piles of mess keep erupting!
I have really tried to involve my children with the process of keeping the house "orderly", and it becomes part of our day to clean up together as we finish each project. However, I do have a little girl who is not in the least bit concerned with being tidy, in fact last night I said to her, "Please just clear a path to your bed, so that I can get to you in the night if I need to! :-) Which she then proceeded to do by kicking things out of the way!! This morning, I knew before we did anything else, we had to tackle the room! So we put on some music, and I worked alongside her, and within 20 minutes, it was done, and I felt that I could face the day!
Your love and dedication to your family shines through this bit of cyberspace to so many, and none of us see the messes, and your children will not remember them either.
Blessings and much understanding Eloise

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Posted by LeslieN

It is hard to find that balance, isn't it? I think I've gotten better - but it took a year of a lot of turmoil for me to learn to let go. When my daughter's life hung in the balance it was easy to see that it really didn't matter if the house was clean. (It tends to make me crabby too!) It's harder though when things are not in crisis.

Are there things you can let go of? Does having a schedule or routine of any sort help you? It does me, though I'm terrible about making them! :blush:

Hugs to you sweet friend as you seek Him and what He would have you do in your day. Maybe that is part of the waiting you were talking about. Waiting to see what He has for you each day. I wish I had answers for you as then I'd have some for myself. It's always a time for learning.

Hugs and love you,
Leslie

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