Chris's Commentary - Marriage is Good and I Appreciate My Wife!

Marriage is Good and I Appreciate My Wife!

Thursday, August 30, 2007

Friday, August 10, 2007 I received this comment from an Anonymous writer, "So from a man's perspective- what's good about being married? What qualities do you appreciate in your wife? What do you do to make it work?"

“What’s good[1] about being married?”

Being alone is not good for me. As a solo man, I had friendships. But at the end of the day, I was alone. Remaining celibate to devote my life 100% to God’s Kingdom just was not a paradigm I held. When God gave me Gayle, I received a very special gift. Our marriage gives me a unique purpose. There is an exclusive authority to protect and provide for my bride. On our wedding day, December 10, 1994, I left my dad(s) and mom to stick like superglue to Gayle. Since then, I have experienced a mysterious unity. It is more than physical intimacy and multiplication; there is a dynamic between one man and one woman beyond two human beings…I am the husbandman of a vintage California grape vine.

“What qualities do you appreciate in your wife?”

Here are 16 qualities[2] I appreciate[3] in my wife:

Gayle is the most serving person in my world. Specifically: coffee; mani/pedi; laundry; mowing the lawn; stinky pooh-poohs; pee-pee; cleaning the three bathrooms; bathing little bodies; breakfast, lunch, dinner & snacks for six people approximately 7,956 times; “Mommy, Mawmeeee, MOMMY, Maw' uhhm” filing paperwork, listening, maintaining eye contact while mentally multi-tasking about the next post, the Costco list and…”when will this guy shut up and leave me alone?!? I’ve been jabbered at all day long”;
Gayle is discerning. If I had understood this distinguished characteristic in her at various times during the past 4,622 days, then I would have saved us both some Ache’n.
Proverbs 5:19
Gayle shops at Kid’s Resale, estate and garage sales, Goodwill, discount stores, China outlet stores in the USA (i.e. Wal-Mart, Target, etc.), the world wide web, the local paper…buys at deep discounts…and the bargains energize her.
Our Family HOME is a major priority.
Gayle follows my leadership.
Gayle speaks with blunt honesty. I know where I stand with her. Sometimes I’m in the dog house standing in my own pooh-pooh, other times I’m in the winner’s circle with her gold medallion around my Olympic jersey, most of the time I walk humbly with my God.
Gayle has deeply held feelings about us, providing a lifestyle of learning for our children, family, fun, friendship, GOD, books, our home, me (sometimes her feelings about me are ‘eject this guy outta my Suburban’)
Gayle wants to try to attempt to understand how to respect me
Gayle honors her father and mother.
Gayle loves God with her life…she is NOT involved with dead religious traditions; she IS a woman of faith.
Gayle is concerned about the present.
Gayle is skillful with her hands. She makes home furnishings, clothes, apple pie, puffed pancakes, delicious meals, gift cards and other creative stuff.
Gayle believes in marriage and family
Gayle is a very good writer.
Gayle is jovial – she is cheerful, jolly, and good humored, fun loving, and full of beans.

“What do you do to make [marriage] work?”

I wake up in the morning.
I have a personal relationship with the Creator of marriage.
I apologize for my mistakes as quickly as I can.
I learn from my mistakes.
I am determined to continue a loving-respectful-understanding-submissive-maturing romance with Gayle until one or both of us see Jesus without my dimmed Son glasses on.

[1] Good (adjective) indicating something is approved of or desirable

[2] Quality (noun) a distinguishing characteristic

[3] Appreciate (verb) to feel gratitude, value highly, understand, to gain in value

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Thursday, August 30, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by grace4gayle

You are GREAT at apoligizing quickly!

Thanks for leaving out the bad stuff like....sometimes when I argue with you I yell and have to put coins in the cuss jar, I am stubborn as a mule, I think I'm always right...should I go on?

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Thursday, August 30, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by CountryMomof4

Gayle is making me look bad! I'm not going to let "My" Chris read your blog anymore... I think I have him fooled into thinking I'm a moderately "good wife". Thanks a lot Gayle... you are ruining it for the slackers! Chris, you are a lucky man (and she looks so cute peeling all those apples!). ~Karlie

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Thursday, August 30, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by stillgrowing

Okay, Chris, I HAVE to leave a comment for you on this blog!!! I don't usually read other men's blogs, but you're not exactly OTHER MEN, and your post was SO GOOD, that I had to say thank you for publicly honoring your wife! I was blessed by reading what your thoughts were toward her, and I'm sure you filled up her love bank with enough of a deposit in that one post to last you a few months!!!!

What a testimony to what a marriage really is!

Leanne (I mean, Dave's wife, and so proud of it!!!!!!)

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Friday, August 31, 2007 - I like your comments on marriage & the ants

Posted by Anonymous

I have just recently found your blog... it is good to find another Christian blogger. I added your site to my blog role. I will be checking in often. God Bless You! -- ME

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Friday, August 31, 2007 - Thanks

Posted by Anonymous

I'm the person who asked the questions & I just wanted to say thanks for answering. I liked getting the guys perspective. It helps knowing there are things men do like about being married & about their wives.
I read gayles blog all the time- just b/c I stumbled upon it through someone I went to hs with.

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