Communication FUNdamentals

Feb. 12, 2008

Tip #7 for avoiding an argument: Prepare to Negotiate

A new year brings some new Tuesday Tips and over the next few weeks, I am going to share some tips for avoiding an argument.  Tip #7  for avoiding an argument:  Prepare to Negotiate A relationship is give and take so be prepared to give in a little.  See things from the other's perspective and be ready to show him/her that you are willing to accept some of the responsibility for working things out.  Share how YOU are willing to give them some of what THEY want and then tell them what you want in return.  The order is important!  If you first tell him what you want from him, he may not be listening any longer because he may assume that you are not willing to compromise at all.  And if you are not willing to compromise or see his side, he isn't either.  If you first tell him what you are willing to do for HIM, now he sees you as more reasonable and willing to work with him. Now he is willing to hear what you want from him.  The rule of reciprocation makes him feel some inner pressure to give you a little too: If you give to me, I feel almost obligated to give to you. Happy Communicating! More next week...    For more Communication tips, subscribe to our new weekly eNewsletter:  Communication Tip of the Week! From JoJo's Purple Crayon...

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