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• Thursday, November 17, 2005 - SHARE and Tell: Thanking God for the Thorns

Here's a wonderful story I love to drag out before Thanksgiving to put it all into perspective... may it bless you as it always does me.
 
 The Thanksgiving Special...

-Author Unknown-

Sandra felt as low as the heels of her shoes as she pushed against a November gust and the florist shop door. Her life had been easy, like a spring breeze. Then in the fourth month of her second pregnancy, a minor automobile accident stole that from her.

During this Thanksgiving week she would have delivered a son. She grieved over her loss. As if that weren't enough, her husband's company threatened a transfer. Then her sister, whose holiday visit she coveted, called saying she could not come for the holiday.

Then Sandra's friend infuriated her by suggesting her grief was a God-given path to maturity that would allow her to empathize with others who suffer. She has no idea what I'm feeling, thought Sandra with a shudder.

Thanksgiving? Thankful for what? She wondered. For a careless driver whose truck was hardly scratched when he rear-ended her? For an airbag that saved her life but took that of her child?

"Good afternoon, can I help you?" The shop clerk's approach startled her. "I.... I need an arrangement," stammered Sandra.

"For Thanksgiving? Do you want beautiful but ordinary, or would you like to challenge the day with a customer favorite I call the 'Thanksgiving Special? '" asked the shop clerk. "I'm convinced that flowers tell stories," she continued.

"Are you looking for something that conveys 'gratitude' this Thanksgiving?"

"Not exactly!" Sandra blurted out. "In the last five months, everything that could go wrong has gone wrong."

Sandra regretted her outburst, and was surprised when the shop clerk said, "I have the perfect arrangement for you."

Just then the shop door's small bell rang, and the shop clerk said, "Hi, Barbara...let me get your order." She politely excused herself and walked toward a small workroom, then quickly reappeared, carrying an arrangement of greenery, bows, and long-stemmed thorny roses. Except the ends of the rose stems were neatly snipped: there were no flowers.

"Want this in a box?" asked the clerk.

Sandra watched for the customer's response. Was this a joke? Who would want rose stems with no flowers! She waited for laughter, but neither woman laughed.

"Yes, please," Barbara, replied with an appreciative smile. "You'd think after three years of getting the 'special', I wouldn't be so moved by its significance, but I can feel it right here, all over again," she said as she gently tapped her chest. And she left with her order.

"Uh," stammered Sandra, "that lady just left with, uh.... she just left with no flowers!"

"Right, said the clerk, "I cut off the flowers. That's the 'Special'. I call it the Thanksgiving Thorns Bouquet."

"Oh, come on, you can't tell me someone is willing to pay for that!", exclaimed Sandra. "Barbara came into the shop three years ago feeling much like you feel today," explained the clerk. "She thought she had very little to be thankful for. She had lost her father to cancer, the family business was failing, her son was into drugs, and she was facing major surgery."

"That same year I had lost my husband," continued the clerk, "and for the first time in my life, had just spent the holidays alone. I had no children, no husband, no family nearby, and too great a debt to allow any travel."

"So what did you do?" asked Sandra.

"I learned to be thankful for thorns," answered the clerk quietly. "I've always thanked God for the good things in my life and never questioned the good things that happened to me, but when bad stuff hit, did I ever ask questions! It took time for me to learn that dark times are important. I have always enjoyed the 'flowers' of life, but it took thorns to show me the beauty of God's comfort. You know, the Bible says that God comforts us when we're afflicted, and from His consolation we learn to comfort others."

Sandra sucked in her breath as she thought about the very thing her friend had tried to tell her. "I guess the truth is I don't want comfort. I've lost a baby and I'm angry with God."

Just then someone else walked in the shop. "Hey, Phil!" shouted the clerk to the balding, rotund man.

"My wife sent me in to get our usual Thanksgiving Special.... 12 thorny, long-stemmed stems!" laughed Phil as the clerk handed him a tissue-wrapped arrangement from the refrigerator.

"Those are for your wife?" asked Sandra incredulously. "Do you mind me asking why she wants something that looks like that?"

"No...I'm glad you asked," Phil replied. "Four years ago my wife and I nearly divorced. After forty years, we were in a real mess, but with the Lord's grace and guidance, we slogged through problem after problem. He rescued our marriage. Jenny here (the clerk) told me she kept a vase of rose stems to remind her of what she learned from "thorny" times, and that was good enough for me. I took home some of those stems. My wife and I decided to label each one for a specific "problem" and give thanks for what that problem taught us."

As Phil paid the clerk, he said to Sandra, "I highly recommend the Special!"

"I don't know if I can be thankful for the thorns in my life." Sandra said. "It's all too...fresh."

"Well," the clerk replied carefully, "my experience has shown me that thorns make roses more precious. We treasure God's providential care more during trouble than at any other time. Remember, it was a crown of thorns that Jesus wore so we might know His love. Don't resent the thorns."

Tears rolled down Sandra's cheeks. For the first time since the accident, she loosened her grip on resentment. "I'll take those twelve long-stemmed thorns, please," she managed to choke out.

"I hoped you would," said the clerk gently. "I'll have them ready in a minute."

"Thank you. What do I owe you?"

"Nothing. nothing, but a promise to allow God to heal your heart. The first year's arrangement is always on me." The clerk smiled and handed a card to Sandra. "I'll attach this card to your arrangement, but maybe you would like to read it first."

It read: "My God, I have never thanked You for my thorns. I have thanked You a thousand times for my roses, but never once for my thorns. Teach me the glory of the difficulties I bear; teach me the value of my thorns. Show me that I have drawn closer to You along the path of pain. Show me that, through my tears, the colors of Your rainbow look much more brilliant."

Praise Him for your roses; thank Him for your thorns!

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  • What thorns will you be thanking the Lord for this Thanksgiving?

For me, I will be thanking Him for my step-son who came to live with us a year ago.  It was such an answer to prayer for him to choose to live with us after so many years, but it has been such a struggle for me.  To be completely honest, I've been hurt so many times and have been selfish, trying to "protect" what I've built... it's been hard on me and the other five little ones.  My step-son grew up somewhere completely different from how we're raising our children... it's really been an adjustment for us all, and I've spent so many nights crying... it's especially hard on my husband and I... it's certainly a source of division in our marriage.  I am so thankful that he's here though... I know this is what the Lord planned and I'm so glad to have had this time. 

I'll also be thanking Him for my home... we were always going to move after two years, and 13 years later... and many more kids... we're still here.  I get so frustrated sometimes, but there are so many things that have happened because we were here.  One being, we walked across the street one Sunday to attend the church that would "save" us and where we would meet some of our dearest friends.

I'm thankful for our bills and that we have the ability to pay them... even if slowly, and even behind.  I was so unfaithful with money for so long, and even though we are still paying for that time, we haven't claimed bankruptcy and I thank the Lord that He's provided and that I have a husband with such strong convictions.

Despite all my complaining throughout the year, I have been so blessed with my husband, our children, and the next one due in May... if I had nothing else, how could I complain? 

"Lord, please help me to be a light in the darkness and to love unselfishly, whether I receive love back or not.  Thank you for this time... please help me to spend it wisely.  I also know there are so many who have it so much worse.  I pray that I would not be a "whinner" and graciously accept all that You decide for me to have.  Thank You for blessing me so abundantly.  It's so much more than I deserve.  In Jesus' name, Amen."

In Him,
Amy

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•Thursday, November 17, 2005 - Oh, Amy, Oh Amy, I tried to email you back Oh, Amy...

Posted by MySmokyMtnHomeschool
but I was rejected. ::sniff, sniff:: how can you reject your fellow Amy? ::Sniff, Sniff::

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•Friday, November 18, 2005 - Being Thankful

Posted by homeschool3ks
God has walked me through many occasion that gave oportunity for me to be thankful instead of looking at the hard issue i may have been dealing with at the time. For example my husband and I just lost our restaurant and our income was cut off in one day and we had to leave the home we were renting(same landlord). I was very upset and crying and I was on the phone with my Pastor (who wasnt our pastor at that time) Pastor John said in his english accent" Tammy have you thanked God?"
To be honest my thought was ..what is this guy nuts.. we just lost everything....lol well those words didnt fade they stayed in my mind for sometime. I started to thank God for what I did have. I still have my family. My husband and children who were besides Jesus everything to me. And even though we werent running the restuarant for very long we had met and made some dear friends. The community got together and donated over $2000. Churches of all faiths. The love of God shone like nothing else. We didnt loose a thing. We gained so much more ..we learned about being Thankful even when its not easy to do. Those words still are in my mind ..especially when i start to complain about the small things in life... and even more when we are faced with our "thorns". God is so good and he does reach us the hard times. HE is awesome !!
Thankful for sharing that story.
God Bless
Tammy
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•Friday, November 18, 2005 - Trackbacks...

Posted by Anonymous
The way I understand it is a permalink is a URL designed to refer to a specific item (often a news story or a blog entry) and will remain unchanged permanently, or at least for a lengthy period of time. A trackback is used in a blog to show, around an entry, a list of other blogs that refer to it. So if you were to look at AmyBeth's entry on trackbacks and then click on the trackbacks you would see everyone that commented about her original entry on their own blogs. So it links those separate blog posts together...like one conversation.
Make sense?
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•Friday, November 18, 2005 - Sorry Amy

Posted by MamaBugs
that was me up there...thougth I was logged in still.
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•Friday, November 18, 2005 - What a touching story

Posted by MamaBugs
I need to think on the thorns in my life...
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•Friday, November 18, 2005 - Wow....

Posted by Betsyfriend
God has really been using other people to bless and encourage me lately. Thanks for being one of them! :-) I have been feeling down for quite some time now, and though I know that time with God is what I really need, that is the one thing I haven't been getting enough of. Whether or not this is a true or made-up story, it is very convicting, and I'm glad you shared it on your blog.

The thing with me is, I know I've got roses in there somewhere, but I've been spending too much time dwelling on the thorns that I have become blind to the roses. Thanks for your openness and honesty, Amy!
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•Friday, November 18, 2005 - Hello

Posted by debdillon
Thanks for sharing your Thanksgiving Story and your thorns. What an amazing adjustment it must be to bring an older child into the home. God bless you as you continue to journey.

My thorn is also my house and where I live in general. I've wanted to move since.... FOREVER! And have also been in our current home for 13 years. Some day I hope to move to a calmer, less congested place, but then I fret that my babies will be scattered around the country.

Thanks for stopping by my website on my first day- such a lovely group here at homeschoolblogger

Deb
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