MY THOUGHTS on Stormie OMartian's "The Power of a Praying Wife"
Chapter 10: HIS CHOICES
I gotta be honest... this chapter was
extremely convicting for me. This was my 3rd time reading it, and unfortunately, I found that I still need to be reminded about some things...
We have to remember that all men think they are doing the right thing. "Every way of a man is right in his own eye" (Proverbs 21:2). -Stormie OMartian (p.94)
Because I think that I'm always right (even though I know I'm not), I don't want to give in or give up when I feel a certain way about something. I WANT Mike to agree with me... and I'll go so far as to say, I want him to say, "Oh wise woman of God... you are SO right and I'm so thankful for your great wisdom and discernment"... EVERY TIME that I think I'm right. But see, the thing about me ALWAYS being right, would mean that there would be times that Mike would be wrong (since we don't always agree). And the thing about that is... he thinks he's right too. So there in lies the problem... If we, as wives, think we're doing the right thing... and they, as husbands, think they're doing the right thing... there's going to be some conflicting ideas.
This is really where God gives wives the
opportunity to show their "Godly character". What we are supposed to do is "shut up and pray" (p.32) that God will reveal to our husbands if they are wrong... but we also need to pray for God to reveal to us if WE'RE the ones that are wrong... and let me tell ya... if my heart is wrong... that's the FIRST thing that needs some fixing (whether I'm right or not).
"Show me if I'm wrong about this... But if what I'm sensing is correct, reveal it to him... Show him the truth and close the door." - Stormie OMartian (p.99)
I can't count how many times I've prayed THAT prayer, but I really do find so much peace in it... even when I'm sure I'm right and Mike's not agreeing. By giving it to God and allowing myself to be open to see what God is trying to tell me through the circumstance, I don't have to worry because HE has it under control.
Don't try to fix [your husband]. God is the only one who can do that. Your job is to love and pray for him. -Stormie OMartian (p.100)
There have been times in the past that Mike chose a different way than I wanted. Some times it's been EXTREMELY hard for me to accept, but I have to remember that he has always done what he thought was best. Sometimes he's even come to me afterward and apologized for not doing what I wanted... but I didn't then rub his nose in it. He felt bad enough... he really had to humble himself to admit he was wrong... and as wives, we should never want to see our husbands feel bad... especially just because we want to be right. IT'S NEVER OKAY TO WANT TO BE RIGHT MORE THAN WE WANT TO DO RIGHT.
So much of our lives is affected by decisions out husbands make. We are wise to pray that they make good ones. -Stormie OMartian (p.101)
When you pray for his choices... be sure to pray for your heart as well and make sure that it's always about God's will and not your desires.
MY PRAYER:
Dear Heavenly Father, With all of the choices my husband has to make on a daily basis, I pray that You would be in every decision he comes to. Please help me to find peace in all he decides, even when it's not what I would choose. I pray that we have a relationship where he values my opinion and asks me what I think, but I also pray that I wouldn't be offended or become angry if he disagrees. Help us both to be wise and in agreement on the things that matter most Lord. Help us to have a marriage that is strong because of the decisions we make. I pray for my husband to be wise, and that everything I do would show him that I believe in him. In Jesus' name, Amen.
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It's not too late to join us for the month of June as we pray for our husbands! You can check out more about it by clicking the following link: S.H.M.I.L.Y. for 30 days of prayer... Please share a link to your blog post if you've made one on this chapter!
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