As parents I think we all try to teach our children to respect, things/people and whatever else.

Now I have an issue, that's actually been going on since I gave birth to my son almost 9 years ago. Now I live in the same yard as my parents, which is a great thing but at times not so great.

The main issue we have is the fact that my mother *knows* what our son should or shouldn't have, this includes buying him things (now I know grandparents spoil grandkids, that's not the issue) but the other day we were in the grocery store and my mom was heading home, so our ds was going to ride with her. The minute we turned around he was getting her to buy him gum/candy things he knows he does not need, and doesn't get hardly at all from us.

Then he basically shoves it in my face saying "Look at what Grandma bought me." I said nothing, my dh said something like "yeah something you didn't need."

My mother stands there and says, "Yup we know that and he got it anyway."

Um HELLO??? To me this is complete disrespect of our wishes as parents. To blatenly say it like that in front of our child.

I believe sometimes this is why we have respect issues, along with MANY other things that I'm learning to change from *myself.*

But really how do you tell a person who *knows* this is not what we want done. Its like she does it delibertly. I can not talk with her because its like she ignores me when I try. Even if its a light hearted conversation, not accusing of anything.

There are reasons my mom is like this and I know them, but the reality is my son needs to learn to respect what his parents say as the word to follow. Not to hear what we say, know its the way it should be and be showed HOW to go against it.

I love my parents very much, they are really great, but this is the ONE small issue that seems to be making things bigger then need be.