Ramblings of a Farm Girl

Jun. 22, 2006

Submission

Yup there's that dreaded *S* word that many a women cringe when they hear it.

I have to admit I've done it many times and stated to myself and aloud that *no man would tell me what to do* Now reason's for this would be because of childhood and witnessing the *man* going to far in the submission factor.

So that set me up for rebelling and going complete opposite in how I should be treated. So much so that *I* basically became what I would consider and *abusive wife* in the sense of verbally. I had so much hate inside me that I was horrible to live with.

I love my husband with all my heart and he's wonderful. He's been through many things with me, lately it would be my walk with the Lord. I don't force him to attend church or any of that. So I'm hoping that my walk with the Lord will eventually lead my wonderful dh to him as well.

Recently I've been making changes, things that I've felt I need to do in order to be a better wife and mother. One would be the fact of wearing dresses more and praying about headcoverings. This is a step that many women don't agree with and everyone has their right to agree and disagree with anything. So I'm not at all saying its the *way* things should be. Because I'm new to it all and its just something placed upon my heart and mind.

I do have to say that since I've made the change in wearing dresses I've felt more at ease and find myself doing more things for my dh that I normally didn't used to do. Being just kind and generous. In the end I feel wonderful about it all.

Is that submission? I would like to consider it to be.

I'm still a work in progress, but the reality is there's less stress on me then in the past years. And I feel this is the way *I* should live my life.

Of course I'm still learning about submission and all the stuff that goes with it. So if you have any reading material that would be good for me to check out pass the information on.

Actually I have a good friend that wrote a wonderful entry on this very thing. To read it just go to THIS blog. Very eye opening for me indeed after I read her wonderful words

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Jun. 22, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by AcceptanceWithJoy

My whole mind-picture changed about the role of the wife changed when I started using crosswalk.com's on-line Bible Study Tools and learned that the word tranlated help in Genesis 2:18 is the same word used to describe God in some of the Psalms. I think I envisioned a submissive wife as a passive wife. God is hardly passive in His relationship to us. He aids and supports us as our ally and friend. What an exciting change of mind.

Because of my years in the military, I now view submission from strictly a military and utilitarian/practical point of view. I am fallen and so is my husband, there are going to be times that we disagree. During those times, I do tell him what I think, but I allow him to make the final decision and act publically like I always agreed with him from the start. It has worked well.

I will pray for you as you continue to walk through the issue of modesty in dress and headcoverings. I just took a similar journey last year. I think the catalyst was being here in central Minnesota where there are many conservative Christian groups whose women where only dresses and do cover their heads. It is quite a difficult journey as we struggle to find balance in dress, modesty and cultural standards.

Blessings ~

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Jun. 22, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by nsremom

Jesus transforms us.

There is no way to have a true encounter with him and not come out changed in the end. These changes take place on the inside as well as the outside.

I've been married only 13 years but I definately remember struggling early on with submission simply because I didn't fully understand it. The above post was wonderful. She explained it better than I could.

When you mentioned serving your husband and that your attitude was softer towards him I think that it sounds more like contentment to me. A lot of times we women struggle with what 'else' we could be doing. How else we could be 'making a difference' and 'being in the world and being productive.'

In the end, when we submit to contentment it sure feels....RIGHT. Doesn't it?

I'm about the stongest willed women you could meet. I'm independent and stubborn, but when it comes to serving my husband it truly feels good deep down. I just settle into life in a contented way and all the rest just seems to fade in signifigance. I just had to stop looking outside my front door and INSIDE my frontdoor for that contentment.

Hard road, but like Jesus said, The road is narrow!!!

Sounds like you're doing great. I read your previous posts and just want to encourage you. Being a newer Christian and yet jumping into serving him as passionately as you are is very inspiring.

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Jun. 23, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by DanielleW

As I was reading the Lord brought to mind a verse. I Peter 3:1 talks about the fact that how we live our lives can lead our unbelieving husband to Christ. Your daily testimony to him will defintaly go a long way.

It looks like the Lord is wanting to change you from the inside out.

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Everyday ramblings about my family life, with my husband and son, on the farm. I'm Emily, mom to one son who I'll refer to as CJ. Married for 12 years been together almost 14 years. We live in North Central, Minnesota in the boonies. We are on our 4th year in Homeschooling and its been fun and a great descision. Sometimes my posts will relate to personal issues I'm dealing with while trying to give my son the best education I can. We've tried several things along this short journey of ours and hoping somethings will stay or we'll find things that work better soon.