Apr. 1, 2008 - It IS My Fault!
One of the things that my mother has always told me is that everything wrong that I do is my fault. For a long time, I didn't understand this, but I do now, and realize how true it is.
Now, there are lots of ways that people will try to reason out of this. One of which is probably used a LOT among brothers and sisters. When you blow up at one of your siblings, and then blame it on them, and your parents tell you that you could have handled the situation much better a different way, I am sure that some people say, "Well, Tony made me so mad! I couldn't help it. If he hadn't spilled the milk, then I wouldn't be mad." (pouty lips)
If this is the case, then you need to stop and look at something. Was Tony really the problem? It IS your fault for blowing up at your brother. Your parents are right when they tell you that there was a better way to handle things. YOU are the one who let the spilled milk rankle in your heart.
There are many other instances, all pretty much the same thing.
"The devil made me do it."
"Well, if my Mom wouldn't make me take out the garbage, then I wouldn't get this way."
"If I were an only child, I wouldn't have these problems."
In all of these cases the devil is winning as continue to make excuses. You are deceiving yourself. One trait that is often admired in people is when they take responsibility for their actions. This is very hard to do. People are proud and hate saying that they were wrong. They don't like accepting the consequences of the things they have done.
I am feeling kind of repetitive now, so I had better stop. Please, just remember, that whatever you do, YOU did it, for better or for worse. Take responsibility for your own actions; don't shirk them, or lay them on someone else.
By the way, I have not stopped Homemaker-In-Training Thursdays. I have just not been doing it. It is all my own fault that I haven't been doing it. :) Please feel free to post HITT's yourself. You don't' have to wait for me!
Comments
Apr. 1, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Your SSA
One wise man said this... "If you shake a glass and nothing comes out, it is because the glass was empty. If you shake a glass and water comes out, it is not because you shook the glass, but because there was water in the glass." :)
Love,
Your SSA
Apr. 3, 2008 - So true!
Posted by thespiritoflearning
That post is so true Eyebright! People like to blame things on others so they won't have to be responsible for themselves, but isn't that what integrity and self control are about? I hate being wrong as much as the next person but sooner or later you have to own up to the fact you were wrong. Thank you for the reminder to watch ourselves as closely- if not more so- than we watch others. ~ Elise
Apr. 3, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Jocelyndixon
*slowly raise hands* I am guilty of blaming others for my actions. Yep... and for some reason I keep doing it, and I really need to grow up to my age and start acting like a maturing young lady sometime. I think you hit the nail right on the head. It's our fault and we've got to be more mature, instead of blaming it (usually) on the younger sibling! :)
Great post!
Love
MJ
Apr. 5, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by OldSchoolMarm
Hi Bright Eyes! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog and commenting. Just wanted to let you know that I mentioned your blog in my last entry, hope that's okay. What a beautiful seamstress you are. I am hoping to be able to do more sewing with my girls soon, they really like it. Keep up the good work, I'm sure your mom is very proud of you. Blessings, Julie
Apr. 6, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Queenbrownshuga
You know, if my kids would get a hold of this revelation, there woukd be more peace in our home. :o)
Hugs,
Tirzah
Apr. 7, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Liveforeternity
Haha, that's awful about your iron! :-D It's great that you were able to get it off though! :-) Have you ever ironed on iron-on interfacing upside down? It has a similar effect to plastic on an iron. ;-)
Have a great day!
Joy
Apr. 9, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Hi Eyebright! My name is Brianna. I ran across your blog, and I wanted you to know that I really appreciate what you have to say. Thanks for the reminder that we are responsible for our own actions...it is SOO easy to blame others for our own choices! I also appreciated your post that addressed comments made in response to your "Beware the Golden Compass" post; THANK YOU SO MUCH for making the Biblical point that immersing ourselves in unbiblical thinking/material is not good...it DOES EFFECT US!!!!
I also noticed that we like a lot of the same books!! I LOVE Pride and Prejudice and Jane Eyre, and I am currently reading Wives and Daughters (when I have time!!).
If you want to check out my blog, it's
www.seekinghisfaceps1054.blogspot.com
I'll be back!!
Brianna
Apr. 10, 2008 - Hi!
Posted by Your SSA
Hello Eyebright!
This is just a little note to say hello, and I hope that you're having a fantastic day. I really like the colors of your blog.
Love,
Your SSA
Apr. 10, 2008 - I really enjoyed...
Posted by rjdjohn316
This post. It was very encouraging to me. We really do need to take responsibility for what we do. It was our choice to make, we made the choice to do whatever we did. People blame-shift way too much! Very good, Eyebright! You brightened my eyes. :)
Thank you for your comment. I am glad you like my new look. Your new look is very pretty too... I love the flowers! :)
Stop by again soon and read my latest!
Many blessings fall upon your path...:)
Love from a Sis in Him,
Rachel
Apr. 10, 2008 - That's so true!
Posted by Meg16
Thanks for the reminder Eyebright! I hope you have a splendid day!
Meg
Apr. 10, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by ArtisticFlare
You are so right. I have a hard time myself accepting responsibility because of pride. I like your posts because you speak of the heart matters which are very important. :)
Artisticflare
Apr. 12, 2008 - Words of Wisdom.
Posted by SuperAngel
This is a really great post! I can't say how much I agree and how much I actually do that.
Everything we do, we do. No one made us do it, except ourselves.
Thanks for this post. It reminded me that I need to not blame anyone, but myself for everything I DO!
Love, Prayers and Blessings,
Miss Amanda
http://superangelsblog.com
Apr. 14, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by BelovedPeace
Hi!! :-)
Thanks for your comment!! :-)
Yes! I was very blessed! :-)
Thank you!! You too!! :-)
Amy :O)
Apr. 14, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Jocelyndixon
Thank you for your comment, Eyebright! I am glad you are realizing your faults, and encouraging others with it as well! :)
Love
MJ
Apr. 15, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Your SSA
Dear Eyebright,
I hope that you are having a good day. I am praying for you, let me know through Amanda Dixon if you have any prayer requests!
"Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good, His mercy endureth forever."
Love, Your SSA
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