May. 27, 2009 - Hardships of Friendships
Going from childhood, to adulthood is hard. At least for me. I am a major worrywart. I have gone from worrying who will get the last cookie (and sometimes I still worry about that!), to worrying about my friends and family. Friends and family grow up right alongside of you, and change, just like you do, but not all of them change in a way that encourages you.
Some change in subtle ways, ways that don't draw you apart. People do have differences, and that is okay. There are a lot of friends who don't think the same way, and yet have wonderful relationships. Some of my friends are very patriotic, or interested in politics, or don't read fantasy, or watch movies I am not interested in seeing. That is okay, though. I am never going to totally, 100%, agree with my friends. I don't even totally agree with my sister, sometimes! (But, we usually do. 
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Still other friends change slowly, and then, WHAM, one day you realize that they are not who you thought they were, and it hurts. Or, you just didn't see something that was going on in their lives, and when you finally recognize it, or find out, that hurts too.
Bluejane wrote a post, not to long ago, about her friends. She is going through the same kind of struggles with people she has laughed with, played with, and talked with. It hurts really bad when someone you trusted becomes someone you wouldn't want to trust.
What I mean is, you can trust them to make right decisions, you can trust them to stand firm in their faith, you can trust them to always seek the truth. You know that they are human and can fail, but you also know that they yearn to follow Jesus with all of their heart.
One mistake that is not cleared up is enough to ruin a friendship, and yet, on my part, there is nothing I can do. No, that is not true. I can pray, and I will pray earnestly.
James 5:16
"...pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effectual
fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much."
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Comments
May. 28, 2009 - Hi!
Posted by JessLBee
Oh, I know what you mean! I have a couple friends that I used to be really good friends with but as we have gotten older they have chosen a different more worldly path than mine.....it is so sad!
~ Jess
May. 28, 2009 - Untitled Comment
Posted by BreezyTulip
Awww, Eyebright, I need to give you a hug.
I know exactly what you're going through. Emily and I had a rough time with those issues a few years ago, and it really was a journey of learning to trust the Lord for sending true friends.
There was some heart ache, especially when we thought we'd never meet like-minded friends. Then we starting blogging on hsblogger!
We'll pray for you sweeties!
-Breezy
May. 28, 2009 - Note from Brielle
Posted by BrielleCostumes
Greetings Miss Eyebright,
I shall be praying for you. I have had this happen many times to me... I went from having some really close friends that I played with all my life,....until highschool. They went to public school, we didn't. They went to dances...we didn't. and the list goes on and on... friendships change and people leave, but it still hurts at times.
Hang in there, girls.... My prayers be with you...
Blessings to you and your family.
I hope you have a lovely day,
Sincerely,
Brielle
Jun. 8, 2009 - friends
Posted by CrochetLu
I had to reply to your post because God is dealing with me on just this subject. I had a friend who was one of my closest. I thought we were the same in spirit. Then she made a choice that I would never make and it involved lying to lots of people including me. I was heart-broken. God is now telling me to forgive her and I am trying. I will forgive her but I doubt we will be friends again. But my word for you is that sometimes God gives us friends for a season and that's ok. Be grateful for your season of friendship. I have had friends I thought I knew that are now not my friends. I still love them but do not spend time with them. Currently I have reunited with a friend from childhood. We were apart for a few years because we weren't living the same lives, but now we are back as friends and share our faith as well as a truly strong friendship. Stay faithful, be grateful, and forgive.
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