Country Homeschool in the City

Oct. 13, 2008

Getting Back

Living on the same property as my in-laws, people think we'd be naturally close.  Um, no.  Case in point . . . every year my MIL would have this thanksgiving dinner, the last 7 or so years at a hall where her dad lived.  Last year, after he died, she emailed to say she wasn't doing the dinner.  I actually breathed a sigh of relief - it meant we'd have a yummy dinner with my family! 

Well, a few days before thanksgiving she emailed to say she WAS doing a dinner.  What???  I told her we had plans and heard nothing.

This year, we heard nothing about Thanksgiving dinner.  DS talked about keeping a piano piece ready just in case.  I found out my MIL asked DH for the tenants of the mobile home (where we lived before the house)'s phone number to invite them for dinner but our invitation never came.

DH came home from milking and yes, there had been a full dinner there.  His sister, BIL, the tenants (he thinks), and the pseudo-grandmother.  But not us.  Not our kids . . .  I was actually a bit hurt but this is her way of getting back at us for last year, I guess.

You never know what you'll get with her.  It was either last year or the year before she decided last minute that she would not do Christmas eve as had been the custom for 30+ years.  No thought of the grandkids or anything.  sigh.

Although I doubt I'd ever play the mind games she does, her treatment of me and as a result, her son's family, has taught me exactly how I do NOT want to be as a MIL - even if I do not really like my child's spouse!

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Oct. 14, 2008 - From Sara

Posted by Anonymous
I've heard too many stories of bad MIL's. It makes me really want to build some sort of relationship with Jer and Kai's wives... no matter how much I might disapprove. I can kinda see where some bad MIL's come from - no one would ever be good enough for the perfect little men in your life... but I would rather be able to see my grandkids and have joy then not have fun with my family.
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