May. 17, 2006 - Me and my big MOUTH!!
Well, I opened my mouth and complained just a little about the "bad day" I was having...and wouldn't you know it? It got much worse. What was I thinking?? 
I have read dozens of books on raising kids, I've listened to dozens of speakers explain how the old "teen's are a nightmare" addage, was just that; an addage, and that the teen years can be great times for your family. 
Well, my teenager is driving me absolutely NUTS!! 
He has a smart-alec comment for everything. He talks back to me as if I were one of his "peers," and not like I'm a parent at all. 
He calls me a liar if I change my mind about something (and I'm talking about little things; going to the grocery store after Wed. night church, instead of before. Huh??). He smarts off to me while I'm in the middle of disciplining someone else. (I tell dd, "Honey, I don't mind if you snack, but just come ask first so I know what we're going to run out of." To which, he responds, "You don't have to ask!" 
I tell him not to go outside until he's done with his school work, and OOPS! What do you know?? He...ahem..."forgets." 
And I only make matters worse by not sticking to our schedule and making sure I'm available for my kids when they expect me to be. I'm a workaholic, and they know it. 
I have to become better at keeping my priorities straight, and that's a MUST! 
So, today...when he smarted off, I slammed something down on the flat top of my stove ...and broke the ceramic top. I couldn't believe it!! I just COULDN'T believe it! And then...I cried the rest of the day 
about me being such a lousey (I edited out the other word I wanted to use) mom.
I'd like to say that was the end of it...but it wasn't. I finally had just about all I could take, so took us to McD's for a snack. I just figured there was no use in trying to do any more work for the day. I knew I was toast. 
Oh, well...as Scarlett always said, "I'll think about that tomorrow."
Lord, help me to see them the way YOU see them...and let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be pleasing unto You, oh, Lord...my Rock and my Redeemer. Amen.
Comments
May. 18, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by eyecorn
I have a 13yoDS and there are days when he is so smart mouthed, I just want to shake him...like yesterday. His sarcasm frustrated me to the point of almost being in tears. I wanted to call DH and tell him to come pick him up and get DS out of my way for the day. I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Does your teen have some days that are better than others? I'm starting to think it's hormones....for instance, today, he is so sweet and loving. This sounds terrible, but I look at the acne flair up on his face (which isn't much at all) and then his mood....if the acne is increased and he's sarcastic, then I relate the two! Does this help at all!?? Don't worry, you're doing fine. The frustration is normal and God knows we are doing our best. We're human and sometimes lose our cool.
May. 24, 2006 - I don't think it's hormones...
Posted by Fiarstar
...although it might be. I think he just doesn't know how to deal with tense situations. My little one is that way, too. It's like they just don't know how to discern that NOW is not the time to be cracking jokes. My oldest says he's just trying to "lighten the mood." But, I'm not so sure about that.
The good news is that things are much better this week. I've recommitted to the Lord to stick to my schedule, and that includes meal-making-time, which I think could have helped avoid the whole situation last week.
Thanks for understanding. :o)
Jun. 10, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by hiplvmom2
Hugs Hugs and MORE Hugs! I have a preteen who is testing the very same waters! Some days I would love to through a shark in there with him ROFL'ing.....
Teeheehee
Dana
