Here are the 2 first dances I was in, both in the party scene.  I am in the blue dress with my dad.  At the end of the 2nd dance we leave the party, and you can see my dad pick up our "sleeping" child.  I, on the other hand, take my child that had a short time to change into a soldier (just like I had to change into snow) and get out of there as fast as possible.