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Taming the Chaos ~ Keep it or Toss it: Part Two
1:32 AM, Jun. 9, 2009
This week the Front Porch theme is, "What to Toss", and here in Taming the Chaos I'm continuing last week's article.
When deciding whether to keep or toss something, I run it through a sieve of questions:
When did I last use it? If you haven’t worn a dress in the past 2 years, are you really going to lose the weight to get back into it? When it does come back in style will it still look fresh to you? Would your closet space be better served by making room for things you are sure to have use for and later replacing it later if/when it would be of use?
When will I next use it? Buying ahead or saving for the future is great, but if your oldest is a toddler, then it might not be space effective to save your old trigometry text for him to “grow into.”
Does it make our family more effective or less; energize us or tire us? If you are using that exercise machine and enjoying better health and energized workouts, by all means keep it! If it primarily serves as a a coat hanger and guilt inducer, then give it away. Of course, you'll be right back to exercising after _______ (you get over this cold, you finish school for the summer, VBS week chaos is over...) If you really think you'll use it again, give yourself a deadline. Write "Use 20 times by August" on a scrap paper and tape it to the handle bars to encourage yourself to "use it or lose it." Add a tally mark each time it is used. If in August a lack of tally marks confirms it contributes more to guilt than to fitness; give it away. Does looking at it make me smile or make me weary? This is an important exception to the "Use it or Lose It" rule. If it makes you smile every time you glance that way, put it on the keeper list. Perhaps you don't play the guitar taking up space in the closet, but it was your dad's and the memory of his melodies still linger on its strings. By all means, keep it! (Although consider getting it out of the closet and displaying it where it can bring those smiles instead of being reduced to clutter.)
On the other hand, if all those old boxes of baseball cards no longer bring you joy, but fatigue and guilt as you think about the work of sorting them, don't let them contribute to clutter and drain your energy. For whom am I keeping it?/ Is it serving their purpose for me to do so? Often we save things on someone else’s behalf. This can be an excellent motive, but is often misplaced. Evaluate who you are saving it for and why:
If great-grandpa’s taxidermy collection or grandma’s crocheted toilet paper cover make you cringe each time you dust, they aren’t contributing to fond memories of the individual. Do you have other, more meaningful reminders of that person? Keep only those things really add richness--would that person want to be remember by something you consider tacky?. (A sidenote here: It is always a good idea to take pictures of any mementos before passing them along.)
If you are saving things for your children, talk to them about the items now so that they will have a connection. Write down why you have saved certain treasures. A scrapbook of photos of family heirlooms and and the stories behind them would be a blessing to inherit and lend meaning and a heritage to the objects. I recently put little notes on the back of a few pictures, inside vintage books and on the back of an heirloom plate to keep the history of these items alive. Parting with a gift can also be difficult. Evaluate honestly whether the giver would want you to keep the item once it was no longer useful to you. In some cases, yes, the giver would be hurt, and that is something you can factor in. In other cases the gift was purchased to bring pleasure for a time, and the giver would not want it to overstay its welcome.
Is it a duplicate? Sometimes it pays to have duplicates. Honestly evaluate whether each stockpile is practical. Sometimes it can be more cumbersome than convenience and more waste than thrift. Is it replaceable? Sometimes I shake my head at the things I’ll try to save. Saving a couple of paper towel tubes may be handy for crafts, but because they are an easily renewable resource, there is no reason to save have bins full! This goes along with “What is it costing to keep it?” If it is easier to replace than store, throw it away. Is the clutter it creates, and the likely hood of usefulness worth risking the replacement cost?
What is it costing to keep it? I firmly believe that things are tools to serve us, and we are misprioritizing if the tables get turned and we become servants to “stuff”. Things take up time, space and mental energy–many things give back enough to justify this investment and thus pay their rent–some in usefulness, some in aesthetic pleasure, some through memories and associations. Does the item give back enough to merit the space it is taking in your home?
I know a lady who has divided her mortgage by square inch and actually places a mental monetary amount to every inch of space. An uncluttered room gives rest to the eye, peace to the mind and takes less time to clean; An uncluttered house is quicker to organize, easier to maintain and a joy to come home to. Finally, What is the worst case scenario? If you never saw the item again, would you really miss it? Don’t be too Spartan and throw away things that you’ll always regret sacrificing. Think about how you'll feel in a few weeks when the trash truck has come and gone. Will you have a sense of accomplishment and relief as you rest your eye on a clutter free home and enjoy your streamlined environment, or will you have regrets? Are the regrets likely to be fleeting and trivial or deep and lasting? Don't be hasty or foolish and toss aside blessing that needful or precious, yet hold on loosely to the things of this world.
And, as a bit of a Post Script (only loosely related to today's Chaos post); This blog entry by my friend Cathe is an example of keeping things that are practical and useful, and how organization and efficient storage prevents waste. Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. (Matthew 6:19-21)
Domestic Chaos Tamer and Homeschool Mom of Five, Dell writes about home, heart and hearth. Comments
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