Tonight I received the sad news that Missey passed away about an hour after giving birth to a baby girl. I have very few details at this time, but do understand that the baby is doing ok at this time. Please keep her husband and five children in your prayers.

This is such a shock. It is a huge burden. God is bigger still. So I go to Him on behalf of all who were close to Missy - esp. her husband and children.

I am so sorry. May God's great Comforter give you peace and strength.

This is a major shock~I have no words of comfort or wisdom, but I have plenty of prayers to send up. (((((HUGS))))) sandi

This is so sad and heartbreaking. The family is in my prayers!
Blessings ~ Diane

Praying God's peace on this husband and his precious children.

Christine

I had only just come to know Missey through the Ambleside Online community as I am learning about the curriculum and how to use it. It was obvious to me by the second post by her that she was someone to look to for guidance. I downloaded two of her schedules for my children, and was so impressed by this mother who had time not only for her own family, but for others as well. Her life is truly an inspiration, and in death, a reminder that nothing in this life is secure EXCEPT for our relationship with HIM who is able to see us through all that we endure. I will be praying for her precious babies and the dear sweet husband who enabled her to be the wife, mother, and friend that she was. God bless and comfort you all during this time of indescribable sorrow. Blessings on this precious new baby girl!

I am so saddened to hear of Missy's death - I can't even put it into words. May the Lord grant strength to this family, who have to endure such pain - and may he take Missy into his loving arms. God has his plan for us all - how fragile, and how precious, is life.

Linda in Australia.

Praying for your family.

I am grieved to hear about Missey's death, but we do not grieve as those who have no hope. I take comfort in knowing that she is in the arms of the Savior she knows and loves.

May the Lord surround her family with His grace, peace and comfort at this time. May He grant her husband an extra measure of strength and wisdom as he raises their children. May He fill their hearts with the hope of seeing Missey again.

Love in Christ,
Linda

Missey will be greatly missed by many in the homeschooling community- people she has never met, but she has helped with her tremendous gifts for organization and planning and encouraging. If she could do so much for strangers, I can only imagine what sort of deep loss her family must be feeling.
Our prayers are with you.
Wendi Capehart

Many prayers for your family.

:'( I am praying for the family.

We are praying for your family in the midst of this sorrow. I can only echo what the others have said-- she was such a light and a help to those of us who knew her through the homeschooling community. I am inspired by the love and care she was showing her children in the midst of this difficult pregancy.

God bless you.

Katie Barr

She gave so much of herself to help other homeschoolers and to make it a little easier for them using her gift of organization. Our group will feel her loss. We'll keep your family in our prayers.

I would like to invite people to join the BasicallyBeechick YahooGroup that was begun by Missey in 2001. It is will be easier to post information in one place about the arrangements and needs of the family. I will try to get memberships approved as best I can. You can look back through today's messages and see the latest updates. Please feel free to pass this along to other groups.

BasicallyBeechick-subscribe@yahoogroups.com

Peace and Prayers,
Loa Sholder
Basically Beechick Moderator

Tom and family,
I can only look up toward our Lord at this time of sorrow. I pray you all have an outpouring of the Lords grace and love. Missey was so helpful on the AO site. Always there to lend a hand. I know she will be greatly missed by all she touched.

But more than that, I know your children and you will miss her most. I cannot imagine the real pain this has/will cause in your hearts. I also know the Lord is more than sufficient.
I pray He covers you all in the shadow of His wing while holding you in His righteous right hand.

Our hope is in Him,
Leslie

We are an AO family praying for your family.

Lisa at hopewellmomschool

Our family's prayers are for your family.

Our homeschooling family is praying for your family as well. May you find the only source of comfort, our Lord, at this time. Praying for strength and encourgement in the days ahead.

Margie Murray www.xanga.com/DiscipleshipAcademy

Praying for the family. This is heartbreaking. :(

Monica

I pray that the God of all comfort is with you now. We will be praying for all of you.

It's so hard to imagine how quickly your life can be forever changed. Her last entry is so full of love for your family. I'm praying for you all.
Blessings,
Nancy in KY

We, too, offer our prayers for all of you.

Alicia
http://studeo.blogspot.com

I'm in deep shock and saddened. I've known Melissa for years over the "net." I pray for her children and her husband.

Roxanne Flick

I am so very sorry and will be praying for Missey's family. :*(

Tricia

MY HEART AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOUR FAMILY. MAY GOD LEAD YOU THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT TIME. I AM SO SORRY. GOD BLESS

Praying that He Who truly knows your pain will minister to you as only He can!!

With much love and Prayers,

Barb Cash

Praying that He Who truly knows your pain will minister to you as only He can!!

With much love and Prayers,

Barb Cash

The entries on her blog say it all. We have all lost an Ambleside friend as well. Praying for you all.

Anne White
Canada

My heart breaks to read this news. I cannot imagine what you and your family are going through right now. Please know that you are in my prayers!

In His Love,
Kris

So sad for them...but I'm glad that we mourn not as people without a hope, but as a people who can rest in a Saviour's love. Love and prayers to the whole family. Words can not express our thoughts and feelings, just prayers.
Susan <><

i learned of this last night and prayed it wasn't true. i saw the comment to this blog shortly after, and again prayed it wasn't true. i've read all the updates at places and am in utter disbelief. Now, there are multiple comments, all sharing their condolences. My heart breaks for your family, Tom... for you and the children. No words can express how bright Missey's light was and how she touched so many of us. I'd known her since 2001and have shared conversations with her of her love of you, her children, her family, and homeschooling. I know nothing will make this tragedy better, but know that your whole family is greatly covered in prayer by so many, many people from all over. My only joy in this is knowing that Missey loved the Lord and is home with Him. May we all have that blessing.

I am so sorry! I will be praying for your family. May God keep you all in His arms during this time.
Susan

Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. May the Lord surround you with His peace and bring comfort as only He can.

May the Lord bless and keep you,
Sharra

Prayers and much sypothy at this time of great loss.
May the Father comfort you in your pain and provide peace in your sorrow.
Tnmom- Maria

I'm at a lost for words but would just like to let you know that you and the children are in my thoughts and prayers. My mom also died many years ago after giving birth to her 5th child, which was- me. Now, as a homeschooling mom, I'm overwhelmed by the news and wish I could offer more than words and prayers...- Florita, MN

I feel tremendous sadness today. I didn't know Missey personallly, only from her posts on the AO loop. But after reading through her blog I've been able to get a glimpse of what an extraordinary person she was, so full of love for her family. My condolences go out to her family, who will remain in my prayers.

I know many of us are saddened by the loss of our dear friend and want to be
able to do something to help. We have set up a fund to help the family pay
for funeral expenses and any of the other needs they are sure to have. I
promise you that every cent that you donate will be given to the family.

Send your donation to misseygrayfund@binarykingdom.com on PayPal or go to www.mamakay.com/misseygrayfund.html

Thank you for your willingness to help their family during this time and
please hold them up in your prayers.

Humbly,

Krystal
www.mamakay.com/myblog.html


Edited by mamakay on Thursday, March 2 at 2:11 PM

I didn't know your family, but came across this today and am sitting here crying and praying for you. All I know is that the Shepherd will take care of you. May He comfort you at this very difficult time.
Love and shalom,
Serena

May the Great Comforter surround your family as you grieve this blessed wife and mother. May you feel His presence each and every moment.

We are praying for you , Tom and your dear children that their mother's love and joy will shine in each of their lives as they are a reflection of the Lord and her.

The AO homeschool community is like an extended family and we all are sad and wish we could be there to bring hams and cakes and play with the kids and sweep the kitchen and love you all in the love of the Lord. I wrote a post at my blog to honor this mom.

Edited by Athenainaminivan on Thursday, March 2 at 2:02 PM

This is my first visit here. But I came after Christy emailed those in her group about Missey's death. I'm so extremely sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain. I pray God's peace on each of your lives in the difficult days, months and years ahead.

God bless you all!

Pam Hunter

I am a homeschool mom who also uses Ambleside Online, and I just wanted to let Missey's family know that I will keep you in my prayers. I could just see all the love and devotion she had for you in reading her blog. I pray God would comfort and bless you during this difficult time. May God keep his loving arms around you.
Love and blessings,
Heather

Words cannont express the sorrow felt at this time. I did not know Missey, but I am acquainted with loss. My husband died very suddenly nearly 3 years ago leaving me 8 months pregnant and with a 2 year old son. Through all the pain and grief, God sustained me. He gave me strength when I didn't think it was possible to live. He was and is so good to me. I know He will sustain Tom and the children. Through that first year Jeremiah 29:4-14 became very precious to me.

My heart aches for all who were close to Missey and especially for her husband and children. You will be in my prayers.

Justine Foster

I'm so sorry to hear about Missey's passing and will keep your family in prayer.

I am so sorry. My prayers are with your family. My the Lord give you peace as only He can.

How horribly sad to hear this news! I will be in prayer for the family as they go through this very difficult time.

Today is the first day I have "met" Missy. I am very saddened at your loss and have added you and your precious family to my prayer list. I know that she will continue to touch hearts through her writings. xo Jeani

All my love I post this to you and your family I want you to know with the deepest sympathy Missy was a special person and I prayer for your greif as you go through this.
love Toni

All my love I post this to you and your family I want you to know with the deepest sympathy Missy was a special person and I prayer for your greif as you go through this.
love Toni

a child of God, wife, mother, dear friend and fellow homeschooler and mentor, I write this with a heavy heart. I didn't know Missey, or her family personally, however she gave of herself, and they of her to us, freely so that this homeschool journey would be lighter for many. I am in shock and deeply sadden since reading this news earlier today. Like others, I didn't believe it and I hoped against hope that it wasn't true. It is really hard to comprehend all of this for I recently lost a friend in a similar way and the memories are still fresh, which makes my heart very tender towards Missey's family and their loss. I can only say that our God is awesome and He will be glorified even in the midst of this tradegy. May He richly bless the Gray family and may they know how much they are loved by Him and us. I pray the peace of God and His strength surround this family.

In Him,
Dawn

Edited by ExcelsiorWarriors on Thursday, March 2 at 4:10 PM

How heartbreaking. My family will be praying for you during these difficult days. May God hold all of your family in the palm of his hand.

As I read Missey's last post I was struck by her knowledge of her husband's love for her. That is a blessing!

To her dear mourning family,

As the person above me said, "we do not grieve as those who have no hope." May that be truly a comfort to you during this. Our God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in time of trouble.

May He be real to you in your sorrow.

Warmly,
Kate

This news was absolutely shocking to me. I am so incredibly sorry. Please know that you are all in my prayers and that Missey is now in the loving arms of our Lord and savior. Blessings, Michele

How sad. I'll be praying for the family.

This is so hard. God's ways are higher than ours, so much higher, but it's impossible to understand why things like this happen. Tom and children, clearly your wife was a wonderful person; look at the way the homeschooling community is rallying behind your family, lifting up prayers. They are sharing memories of her, and how blessed they were to know your Missey. She must have been an amazing woman. I wish I could have known her.

We grieve with you right now, yet we know it's nothing compared to what you are going through. Please know that we are here praying, and loving your family in the Lord. I hope somehow we can help your family. A magazine article is being prepared by some of Missey's close Internet friends. I understand that homeschoolers can soon donate to a fund being set up for your family, and my hope is that many, many families will get involved and seek to bless your family in this way. God loves you...the Lord has a plan even in this. I have no words that can comfort, and I am so very sorry. But I cannot wait to meet this Missey in Heaven...eternity is when real life begins. And I look forward to that day. Just know that your family is absolutely covered - saturated - in prayer.

May the Psalms comfort you.

Love,

The Old Schoolhouse Magazine and Staff

My children and I are praying for this dear family. - Robin

http://www.xanga.com/Robinismyname

Dear Family,

I pray that Jesus would hold each of you close to His Heart during this time of the loss of your wife, mother, and dear friend. May He comfort you and assure you of His Unending Love.

In Sorrow,
ParkwayMom

No words...only a heart overflowing with whispered prayers for 5 children and one husband sheltered in the hollow of His hand.
A fellow Amblesider,
Ann V.

I know words cannot take away the pain you are feeling inside. Know that many are lifting you and your family up in our prayers.

I wish I could have known Missey. Our family is praying for yours. God IS STILL on the Throne!

Blessings from Ohio, Kim Wolf<><

This is so shocking and so sad. My heart goes out to the family and friends of this wonderful Woman.
I pray for God's blessing on her children and husband. May his light shine upon you and comfort you in this time of grief.

I was so sorry to hear the sad news about Missey. She was such an inspiration to me. I appreciated her willingness to share her schedules and little tidbits of wisdom with other homeschoolers. The love she had for her family was evident in the way she wrote. Our family will pray for you all.

I am so, so sorry. Praying for you. May God grant you peace and strength as only He can.

Heidi
http://destinationgloryland.blogspot.com/

I only knew Missey through her posts to Ambleside Online, but she was always such a special lady with a heart for others.
I am praying for Tom, and for each of her children, as well as for the members of her wider family. May the Lord of all comfort hold you in the palm of His hands, and be your strength now and in the days ahead.

Ruth in Sydney

Oh my. No words, just prayers for loved ones left behind...so so sorry. May the Lord bless your new baby and wrap His loving arms around her. May there be comfort in Jesus.
~jennifer

I didn't know Missey personally but though the Ambleside Online Yahoo group. We're praying for God's peace for your family. She was a blessing to many people she never even knew.
In Him,
Amy Sturgeon

to you Tom, to your little ones, and to the rest of Missy's loved ones...
My husband and I are so very grieved to hear of your loss. We shall be praying for you and yours tonight, and in the days to come. May you know His healing presence even now... and wisdom to you as you share the words He gives you, for your children.

I am praying for your family tonight. May you feel those Everlasting Arms...

We are reminded sometimes by others at how lucky we are to have chosen this route with our children. How fortunate and blessed that she and especially her children had this time with her. They had her undivided attention and love. They were constantly surrounded by their mothers love, energy, joy, and devotion. That is what they will remember, and that is what they will treasure forever...

Our blessings and prayers go to the family and wish you comfort and peace in your souls.
Becky

Missey, I knew you from a few places online. You are an inspiration to me. I have learned to love my kids closer and love them more because of you. I do hope your children one day will know the extent of your love for them.

It is so overwhelming; I am just so very very sad. We are praying. God is faithful, this family will not be left abandoned. Dear Lord, we don't know why. It breaks our hearts to know this has happened. Lord, please keep hold of these precious children and this dear man who have had a loss worse than we can imagine. Please let them (and us) see Your kindness, grace and purpose in this tragedy. We will trust you even when you ask so much. No one loves this family like you do. Help us to believe that and to know that. Please help, Lord. Please help

There are no words I can say, except that my family will be praying for yours. I didn't know Missey, but when I heard what happened, I went to her blog and read....WOW what an amazing mom and wife. Always rest in the peace and comfort of the Lord.

Karen White

Edited by Alabama on Thursday, March 2 at 8:53 PM

While I did not know Missey, she sounds like a very loving and caring mom. I only wish I could have known her before she died. I am so sorry for her children as well. The only encouragement I can speak to them is that they *will* see their mother again. This is not the end. They will know her and walk with her in the bright new light of the Kingdom. In light of my own losses this year, I draw great comfort from this thought.

My prayers are with your family.

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been praying for your family all day today and will continue to lift you up in prayer in the days to come. May God hold each of you firmly in His hands.

How sad and heartbreaking. I couldn't imagine! :hugs:

I did not know about your wife until today. Still in a round about way she has helped to support me with my blogging. By encouraging other bloggers, they in turn encouraged others. I want to encourage you, know that I am praying for you, and that my heart is breaking at the thought of what is to come.

Missey has left a wonderful legacy for her children here in this blog. It is full of the love she had for them.

Abiding in the Vine

comfort you, and give you the strength for each day. We see "through a glass darkly" but she now sees clearly what we cannot understand. Our prayers are with each and every one of you.

"He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there shall be no more death or mourning, wailing or pain, (for) the old order has passed away."

Until then, there will be tears ~ and our family weep weeps with yours.

Sincerely
The Vander Stel Family

http://journalingthroughthevalley.blogspot.com

Missey has given all of us such a gift today. We are reminded that life is short and that we must enjoy our precious families every minute.

She has given her family not only the gift of herself for the past many years, but also the gift of prayer from so many online strangers. If she had not taken the time to write to us, we would not have known her through her blog and email lists. It is our pleasure to thank her by praying for her family and reaching out to them.

May God bless the family.

Lori Seaborg

You are truely in my heart and prayers today... I am so sorry for your loss.
Hold that little precious baby girl close, she will be a wonderful sweet reminder of her mothers love.
IN Christ,
Christina and her family

You will be in my prayers as you mourn your great loss.

When I asked a friend how she got through losing not one, but two children to a genetic disorder she told me this..... Go back to the basics. God loves me. God is powerful. God is in control. God is good.

I'm praying as I type and will continue to pray for your dear family.

The Lord says, "I am with you, Tom--closer than a heartbeat. I have suffered all that you are suffering and even more. I love you and will take care of you and yours. Hide in my shelter until the storm passes. It WILL pass. Missy is happy. Finish the course."

Her love for Jesus, husband, and children has shown bright in her blog! May you, that love her and know her, find peace and rest for your heavy souls; and may the Lord be glorified and honored even through this sorrowful loss. We will keep you in our prayers knowing that He will keep you in His hands.

Weeping as well,
Rebecca

During my most difficult times in life (there've been a few) this particular hymn has really encouraged me. This is where I see Missey's family right now -- Hidden in the hallow of His hand:

He Hideth My Soul by Fanny Crosby

A wonderful Savior is Jesus my Lord,
A wonderful Savior to me;
He hideth my soul in the cleft of the rock,
Where rivers of pleasure I see.

Refrain

He hideth my soul in the cleft of the rock
That shadows a dry, thirsty land;
He hideth my life with the depths of His love,
And covers me there with His hand,
And covers me there with His hand.

A wonderful Savior is Jesus my Lord,
He taketh my burden away;
He holdeth me up, and I shall not be moved,
He giveth me strength as my day.

Refrain

With numberless blessings each moment He crowns,
And filled with His fullness divine,
I sing in my rapture, oh, glory to God
For such a Redeemer as mine!

Refrain

When clothed in His brightness, transported I rise
To meet Him in clouds of the sky,
His perfect salvation, His wonderful love
I’ll shout with the millions on high.

Refrain

I am shocked to hear such news. What should have been a time of joy has now become a tragedy! I pray for the husband and father. I pray for those children. I cannot believe it. As I read her entries, it seems so hard to believe.

May the Lord comfort this family today and always.

Our hearts are deeply saddened. Missy touched so many lives in the homeschool community. May God grant you strength.
Michelle

I was so saddened when I heard of your loss of Missey. She was one of the first people I encountered when I began my homeschooling journey. Just in reading her website back then I could tell she was the type of homeschooling I wanted to be, someone who gave her children so much more than an education, but love, understanding, peace. God be with you and you are in our prayers.

My heart weeps for the loss of this beautiful woman of God and for all of those that she left behind. **I will be keeping all of those who knew her and who are grieving close in my thoughts and in my prayers. **

My you all find peace and comfort soon.......and may you take refuge in this time in the shade of the heavenly Fathers wings.

Psa 57:1 .......Be merciful to me, O God, be merciful to me, for in you my soul takes refuge; in the shadow of your wings I will take refuge, till the storms of destruction pass by.

In Him,
Kelli

This is one of those times that the tears can't stop (and I had only met her and at Ambleside online), but my heart hurts for this family. Not for Missey, though, who is in the very presence of Jesus. I will be in prayer for you, her dh and dc! May God sustain you as only He can!

Blessings,
Becky

I pray that God will show you and your family His great love and care for you as you go through this valley. Missey will be greatly missed by many people.

Tami

I am praying for your family.

To Missy's loving husband, Tom and their children. I, too, send out my deepest prayers for your family. May the Lord bless you and hold you during this difficult time. My prayers also go out to that sweet newborn baby. May this baby grow in Christ's precious light doing many wonderful works for Him, just like Mama did. God bless you and keep you deep in His loving embrace.

I regret not having met Missy before now and want you to know our family will be keeping you in our prayers.
-Tammy

From what I have read in this Blog & the comments left,
I see Missey had a great amount of Love.
Love is Eternal & I pray God gives you Strength to hold on to her Love,
even in the darkest Moments.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

People say you'll get

over it in time



They say that someday

you'll pass through

all the darkness and tears,

and step into the sunshine again,

at peace with your memories

and with yourself...



And it's true-

Someday you will.



For now, though, please understand

that if you don't want

to let go just yet,



you don't have to.



And you won't have to either...

not until you know in your heart

that it's time


~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

May God Bless & Keep you & Give you Strength,

~Mitsy#9~ Homschooling in New Brunswick
Mom to 6 on Earth & 5 in Heaven

http://MarilynLeland.piczo.com

My heart is breaking today. Missey was such a wonderful woman who had it all. Tom, I hurt for you. I'm so sad that you have lost your wife, your best friend, your helper in life. To all of Missey's children, my heart breaks for you. I pray that you know how much your mom loved you. My prayers are with all of you during this most difficult time.

How Beautiful
Twila Paris


How Beautiful the hands that served
The Wine and the Bread and the sons of the earth
How beautiful the feet that walked
The long dusty road and the hill to the cross
How Beautiful, how beautiful, how beautiful is the body of Christ


How Beautiful the heart that bled
That took all my sins and bore it instead
How beautiful the tender eyes
That chose to forgive and never despise
How beautiful, how beautiful, how beautiful is the body of Christ


And as He lay down His life
We offer this sacrifice
That we will live just as He died
Willing to pay the price
Willing to pay the price


How Beautiful the radiant bride
Who waits for her Groom with His light in her eyes
How Beautiful when humble hearts give
The fruit of pure love so that others may live


How beautiful the feet that bring
The sound of good news and the love of the King
How Beautiful the hands that serve
The wine and the bread and the sons of the Earth
How Beautiful, how beautiful, how beautiful is the body of Christ

A beautiful flash presentation that seemed so appropriate.

http://www.andiesisle.com/imagine.html

I have been praying for you all. I am deeply saddened by your loss and pray that God would comfort you like only He can.

I am praying for your family, especially your precious children who had such a wonderful, caring mother.

My heart breaks for you. Missey was a wonderful, wonderful person who made an impact on so many. She had such a heart for the Lord, and her children, and you. I cried with her when your Susan was saved, prayed with her as her dad went through his surgeries, and you guys were going through your moving struggles, and learned so much from her about teaching, learning, loving, living. She was a gift to us all, and I thank you for sharing her with us.
In His Hands,
Wende

I am praying for this family. Please know that my heart breaks for you all. ~Becky

May the Lord bring comfort to the family.Missey was a blessing and help to me. I understand the Lord has taken her home to be with Him. May He help guide those who love her and miss her to the same place.

I will be praying for your friends and family.
~Kaitlyn

I never knew Missey but I am sure she was a wonderful woman. I will be keeping her family in my thoughts and prayers.

My thoughts and prayers are with the family at this time...
I did not know her, but I know people who do, and if they say she was wonderful, the I know she was.

Praying for this precious family!

and shocked and saddened. I cannot imagine what your family is going through. I have been following Missy's blog for a few months now and I will miss her. Many prayers are going up for your precious family, I know God will minister to you in a mighty way.

Jenn

I'm praying for your family. God bless you.

Angel

I am so sorry Missey was taken to the Lord. God bless you all, I will be praying for you!

Our hearts and prayers are with Missey and you, her family.

I had only "met" Missey recently, through this blog and her helpful posts at AmblesideOnline. I must have printed out half a notebook-full of her schedules and advice. She was so very bright, warm and helpful, and the vision she presented for homemaking and homeschooling was inviting and optimistic.

May the Lord bring peace and comfort beyond understanding to her loved ones; may He hold them in the palm of His hand.

We'll be lifting you in prayer.

In Him,
Jean

Praying for Tom, the children, Missey's family and friends.

Adrienne

I am in shock right now. I found this blog a few weeks ago and truly enjoyed and loved everything that was shared. I can tell by the number of comments left that Missey was truly loved and appreciated. Our prayers are with this family.

We are so very sorry for your loss. May the lord use the people around you to help you through this very difficult time. We will be praying for you. - The Coles in Tulare CA

I will pray for Missey's family in during this time.

I am praying here for comfort and strength for the family that only the Lord can give.
--
Elaine <><

My heart goes out to you, Tom and the children! I cannot imagine your pain and suffering at this moment.

Every time I read something about Missy I start to weep. We did not know your family, but this is a hard thing to hear, even about strangers. I spoke to my husband about this tragedy, and while he is a tough man, and is rarely moved to tears, he dropped his head and I knew there were tears there.

May the Lord be with you all, and give you all the comfort and peace that you need!

May God's grace become apparent in the folowing days. Comfort Tom and the children Lord. Show them your tender Mercy. Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His godly ones.Psalm 116:15.

The loss of Missy is beyond words, and our absolute hearts and constant prayers are with Tom and the children, and others who knew and loved her.

Praying for your family... I'm checking back for updates to get the address. I've posted this on my blog...

May the Lord give you (husband) and your children strength and peace through this tough time.

In Him,
Amy

Our family has been praying and will continue to lift you, Tom and your's and Missey's five precious children up to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. May His peace and strength guide you through this very difficult time. I'm thankful that I had the opportunity to know Missey through Ambleside, what a true Saint! We grieve with you, but rejoice in the fact that Missey is walking in glory.
In Christ,
Travis and Angie Victory

I'm praying for your family.

May you not doubt God's love for you and your family. May He give you strength in these days of grief.

I do not know Missy or the family, But I know the king of Kings and Lord of Lords. I have been praying for this precious family and will continue to lift them up to him.

I look forward to meeting Missy in Heaven and clapping when she recieves her crowns to cast at Jesus's feet.
She must have been an incredible women of God.


Helen

Dear Tom & Family,

Our prayers are with you and Missey.

Hugs...

I did not know Missy, but my heart goes out to you at this time of sorrow. Lay your sorrow in God's hands and allow Him to comfort you. My prayers are with you.

Reaching out in love,
Sommer

My heart-felt condolences.

to the hundreds who are thinking of Missey's family today. I have spent the day grieving with a family I do not know. Please give your babies lots of hugs for all of us and know that we are sad along with you. And know too that we are keeping you in our prayers. God will reveal Himself to you in special ways in this time. And I know we know Missey is in a better place but I pray God will show you how to enjoy life again right here on Earth.

My deepest condolences during the time of tremendous loss. Know that there many at the HOMEschool fellowship are lifting your family up in prayer.
Words are so insufficient.....

I did not know Missey, but this has left me so sad and shocked. I cannot even imagine all the hurt the family and friends are going through. I'm praying for them all.

- Praying for your family -
I am reminded of the fraility of life, no we do not know what will become of our very next moments. I am so very comforted in knowing Missey is in the perfect place with the Perfect One. Dear children, what an honor for you to have had such a heartful mom, and the baby sister kept here for you to love. (Thank You Lord)

We will be praying that God's perfect peace will comfort you as you trust and lean on Him. Many hearts are with your family, and many prayers spoken.

Tom and Family,
We are praying for you and yours, Missey left you with something very precious. My her memories live on of all she touched.
God Bless you all
Ellis Family

Tom and those precious children,
I have prayed for you and will continue to do so when He brings you to mind.

I never knew Missey, but I am a blogger here. I first heard of this tragedy through a Yahoo group.

Blessings and strength to you.

I am so sorry. If there is anything we can do, please let me know. I am in Indiana.
Karla

I am deeply saddened by your loss and my family and I are praying for you. I was on a few of the same groups as Missey. We may never understand why God chooses to do things the way he does, but I can tell you that reading about Missey's death has been a testimony for me and God has used it already to inspire me to be a better mom and to homeschool my 4 little ones from my heart. What struck me most from reading her blog is how obedient she was in serving God by serving her family and how awesome to go be with our Saviour right in the midst of obedience. God bless you and I know he is holding you in His everlasting arms.
Rhonda England in SC

My heart is breaking for Missy's family. I can't even begin to find the words to relate my thoughts towards all of you. You all will be in my prayers.

My heart is breaking for Missy's family. I can't even begin to find the words to relate my thoughts towards all of you. You all will be in my prayers.

I am saddened to hear of your loss, Jennifer Guerrero

What a priviledge it is to stand in agreement with brothers and sisters in Christ asking that this family be comforted and strengthened in a time so grievous as this.

My prayers and love.

I'll be lifting Missey's family up in prayer!

Jazzy

I'll be lifting Missey's family up in prayer!

Jazzy

Wow!!! I didn't know Missey, and it looks like I missed out...I have been reading her blog and can tell what an awesome inspiration she is to the Homeschooling community. It is obvious that she touched many hearts and will be deeply missed by all. Keeping Missey's family in my prayers....sending extra hugs for those little ones.
~christa~

words cannot express.... crying with you... sending my heartfelt love and prayers....

I didn't know Missy, but I'm sobbing as I read and type. What a beautiful tribute to an incredible woman.

I hope you know this song. My sisters and I sang it as our grandmother leapt into Jesus' arms ten months ago:

"In the presence of Jehovah,
God Almighty, Prince of Peace,
Troubles vanish, Hearts are mended,
In the presence of the King."

She's in His beautiful presence in a perfect body, singing His praises. Keep that picture in your hearts, and keep the knowledge of her love for you close.

Children, she sees you. Scripture says that the host of heaven watches us (Hebrews 12:1). Live to make her and Jesus proud; He has given you a special "race" to run. Your mom will be there at the finish line.

Our prayers are with you all. And since Jesus said that He would be where two or three are gathered, by this "gathering" we know He is definitely with you.

(Are there any other needs we can meet for this family? Can we spread the word about how to help them beyond just the help fund?)

Dani Bolyard

I am at a loss for words... only to be reminded that Missey is now with the Lord... shedding not a tear... but rejoicing for eternity!!!!!!!

My thoughts and prayers will be with you Tom and your children. Praying God will bring you all the comfort and peace only He can bring.

It is my prayer that you will reach out and turn to family and friends during this time. Excepting the help from others to see you through.

Through your loss may "Joy"... "Goodness"... "Love"... "Compassion"... God's Awesome Blessings come forth... Thank You Jesus †

In Christ,

Deborah

I just came across this news! I don't even know what to say! We will be praying for Tom and the children in the hours,days,weeks,and months to come.That God would uphold you all by His mighty power.That the happy memories will remain and in time that they will hurt just a little less than they do now! Love in Christ - DeeDee

Words cannot express my deep sorrow for you and your family. May God comfort you and guide you through the years to come.

What a legacy Missey leaves behind. Five precious children ... and a ton of wonderful memories. I only wish I had known her.

Our family will be lifting you up Tom. May be the peace that passes all understanding consume you with it's overwhelming comfort.

Blessings,

Julie in IL

My prayers are with your family in this time of loss. May you all feel the comfort of the Lord's love surrounding you.

~Kay

I received an e-mail on my yahoo group about the tragic loss of Missey! I am so very very sorry! Although I never knew her, you could read her last post and tell how important being a "MOM" was to her! She was so proud of her husband and family! It made me really sad to read such a lovely post from her and then know that she died shortly afterwards! :-( I wish I could have known her better! You could tell she was an 'upbeat' type of gal just from her cute signature on her web site!

When I had my last child, 18 years ago, on the day we were to go home, it was my birthday also. I was standing in front of the nursery watching them take his picture in his going home outfit, when they called "CODE BLUE" for Labor & Delivery! They don't call "CODE BLUE" when a baby dies- I know because we lost our second child full term! My heart actually skipped a few beats and I just "froze" in my tracks, knowing that it was a "mom" in trouble! That lady had just given birth to a son and had a blood clot that traveled straight to her lungs after breaking loose from the placenta ( or something like that). Anyway, sadly she died, and I'll never forget that day as long as I live! All the nurses in the whole maternity ward were bawling and I was too! I would always think of that mom every year on my birthday and wonder how her family was doing. Ironically, her husband and son and his new wife moved into our neighborhood about five years ago! I know its been very hard for them. The new wife had lost her husband tragically also, so was very understanding! I told her that I'd been at the hospital when Bobby's wife died, and that I hadn't ever forgotten about it! Later, she introduced me to her husband and we had a nice chat! He seemed pleased that it had not been forgotten! The son is now a senior in high school and doing very well! His Dad has done a great job and I'm sure you will too! Good luck! Give your kids a LOT of hugs and include them in the services so they can say "GOOD BYE" however they need to! Have them draw pictures, write letters, etc. and possibly tuck a little momento they've made in her casket! This is supposed to help a lot! ! Good luck with the HIVES too! LOL!

I didn't mean to ramble, but will certainly be keeping all of you in my prayers -- this just hit a bit too close to home! My nieces lost their dad to a brain stem aneurism about 12 years ago, so its very hard to watch kids growing up without one of their parents!

GOD will give you strength to carry on, and your wonderful memories together will eventually help you to find inner peace! Please accept my sympathy and know that we all care!

God bless you!

Linda

my condolences and pray that the family will continue to trust God even though their "why..." prayers may not be answered. Grief is a terrible thing to go through, although the family must go through it. I pray that no one in this precious Mom's family stays there though. God has much more in store for every family member. There is hope, even in grief...God bless you, family!!!!

You are in my prayers.

It is my hope that somewhere in all this, you are visited by the peace of God, which passes all understanding.

Because of Jesus,
Allison Costa

I "met" Missey in early 2003 I think. She had a very small group named FlyMommies. The purpose was to support each other as we tried to keep our homes clean and orderly while homeschooling. There were never more than about a dozen in the group - it was "invitation only."

When I heard of her homegoing my first thought was how much fun she would be having organizing support groups even though I know there are none in heaven. I so quickly pictured her giggling and laughing and running from place to place in girlish excitement....

See she KNOWS how her children and husband will be cared for and she is not greiving. I certainly am.... but not as one who has no hope. Missey knows God loves her children and family more than she did - and nobody has EVER loved their family more than Missey loves hers. She knows that God's plan is perfect - she knew that when she was here but now she knows even as she is known... "I Cor 13:12 "For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known."

Missey ended our group less than a year ago. She had been feeling the prompting of the Lord to eliminate things... to cut back... to lighten her load... and to focus on her family more. Was it God preparing for this? Tying up lose ends? We have to trust that He was - He knew of today before Missey was formed in the womb.... Psalm 139:16 "Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."

Though today is a truly sad day for us - I can't help but picture her sweet family as they bury her today - we do not greive as those who have no hope. We will see Missey again if we have accepted Jesus as OUR Lord and Savior, like Missey did. We KNOW she is in heaven - her life is a testamony of her faith in God and her passionate love for her Savior.

When my mother died there was a song by Twila Paris that meant so much to us and I share the words now - I'm sure Missey would agree - I will trust the Lord in this as difficult and painful as it is for us.

"Do I Trust You" by Twila Paris from "The Warrior is a Child"

Sometimes my little heart can't understand
What's in Your will, what's in Your plan.
So many times I'm tempted to ask You why,
But I can never forget it for long.
Lord, what You do could not be wrong.
So I believe You, even when I must cry.
Do I trust You, Lord?
Does the river flow?
Do I trust You, Lord?
Does the north wind blow?
You can see my heart,
You can read my mind,
And You got to know
That I would rather die
Than to lose my faith
In the One I love.
Do I trust You, Lord?
Do I trust You?

I know the answers, I've given them all.
But suddenly now, I feel so small.
Shaken down to the cavity in my soul.
I know the doctrine and theology,
But right now they don't mean much to me.
This time there's only one thing I've got to know.

Do I trust You, Lord?
Does the robin sing?
Do I trust You, Lord?
Does it rain in spring?
You can see my heart,
You can read my mind,
And You got to know
That I would rather die
Than to lose my faith
In the One I love.
Do I trust You, Lord?
Do I trust You?

I will trust You, Lord, when I don't know why.
I will trust You, Lord, till the day I die.
I will trust You, Lord, when I'm blind with pain!
You were God before, and You'll never change.
I will trust You.
I will trust You.
I will trust You, Lord.
I will trust You.


Do you know Jesus as your personal savior? If you knew Missey, then you saw Jesus. And you can see Missey again. But you must be born again to enter into the Kingdom of heaven. Your good works, doing all the right things, being good and kind and generous to others will not do it.

Find Jesus. Give Him your heart.
http://www.bible.org/page.asp?page_id=276

http://www.whoisjesus.org/main.htm

And if you'd like to chat, please feel free to email me.

My prayer is that through Missey's death many will come to know Jesus. Will you?

I guarnatee you this - it's what Missey wants most for you - I'm SURE of that.

lynda@usmcjosts.com

Unfortunately I never got to "meet" Missey & I'm so sorry I didn't. I never knew her yet I'm grieving so much for the family. You'll be in my prayers...
Michele

I do not know Missey, but I have heard of this earth shaking, God clinging reality that her family now lives. I am praying for God's peace and comfort for her Husband, and 5 children. Heavenly Father,
give them all the strength they need to get through this and Lord I know that you will never let them go. Help them to cling to you for their everything. Thank you in advance for sending them the love of Christ through the body of Christ. Bless them Jesus.
In your name,
Amen

Many prayers are being offered up for Missey's family. May Our Lord and Saviour grant each of you "The peace that passeth all understanding."

Praying for your family and all the friends IRL or online that are grieving.

Words can't even express how sorry I am about your mother's death. She must have been a very special lady for God to call her home so soon. She is smiling down at you all knowing that she has taught you what you need to know about love. The Lord will teach you what you need to know about loss, and grief. I'm so sorry for what you have to go through. My prayers are with you. God bless you.

I can't think of any words that haven't already been said. Wow, what a testimony and a legacy this dear gal has left behind. I have sat here reading every single comment posted, and bawling my eyes out. Dear God in heaven, May I be a more godly, loving Mom. And may I spread encouragement and hope wherever I go and wherever I blog, like Missey did.

My heart breaks for this precious family. May you all know that God is holding you close in His loving arms.

Thank you, Missey, for your example to so many homeschool moms. I look forward to meeting you on the other side of glory.

Debbie

Thinking of you all, especially today and tomorrow.