Thankful Eater???? or Picky Eater???? (Repost)

Who Has Your Child's Heart????? (Repost)

Mothers have you ever tested your children to be certain you truly have their hearts? If you don’t completely have their hearts have you considered then who does have them? The way to win the hearts of your children and the way to insure that you keep their hearts is to continually work on tying strings with them. This is an ongoing process mothers. The strings I am speaking of tying are strings of time, and strings of love and this has to be done with each and every single one of your children, each and every waking moment. Spend time with your children mothers, this includes both quality and quantity time! One matters just as much as the other one does. Do an assortment of things together with them and always be sure you are doing them side by side with each and every passing day. Work together, fellowship together, learn together, play together, read together and grow together and these things must be done while your children are BY YOUR SIDE!! How often, do you as a parent, send your children off to play alone somewhere else in the house? Keep your children by your side. Mothers I cannot emphasize enough how damaging this is to your children and how damaging it is to your relationship with them! Doing this is a sure way to lose their hearts. Please allow me to explain these concepts to you ladies.

When our children are sent off alone to play, there is nobody parenting their decisions, their choices or their actions. In essence they have now become their own authority, they are now their own bosses. When they were alone who was there to police what they did all throughout their day? Who was with them to instill the values your children should be learning and growing in all day long? Who was there telling them no to an assortment of actions and or behaviors? Nobody! Your children should hear the word no, many times a day just so they learn to deny themselves their wants and desires if not for any other reason. Who was there all throughout their days to set the boundaries and limits as to what they could or could not do during that time they were alone? Nobody! Many of you may be thinking, “Oh it is not a big deal, they are not alone that much”. Mothers any amount of time is truly too much! Oh dear mothers may I suggest to you that if you sat and thought about it and were completely honest with yourself, you may just find out that they are alone a lot more than you ever realized. When our children are by our sides we have the privilege, and yes it truly is a privilege of teaching and training their every single action, their every single behavior and instilling every single character trait into them. When our children are alone for any length of time they begin to learn to be their own boss. What they think becomes most important to them and it starts becoming the law in their eyes. They fail to learn to subdue what they want and desire and then your ways are now only a hindrance to what they have grown accustomed to enjoy doing. Which is THEIR WILL!! Were you there to stop the first time they may have pushed their sibling down? Were you there to stop that first time they stole a cookie? When you are there with them and are able to subdue their wants and desires throughout the day then you will be able to stop and squash any negative behavior/action before it ever gets out of control. They will have never gotten away with doing anything wrong and so therefore they are being trained into being much better people because they will never have to live with the guilt of carrying a burden due to something they got away with while spending time away from mom/dad. When a child does something wrong they need their conscience cleared from guilt. They need to be disciplined so that they know they paid the price for their sinful actions. When a child doesn't get caught and gets away with something they then live with guilt. That guilt can lead to all kinds of problems within the child’s spirit. It causes them to live with guilt they were not meant to carry. Guilt can lead to anger and anger just leads to a whole host of problems. Mothers spare your children of these guilty feelings and keep them by you so you can know exactly what they are doing all day long! Give your children the gift of a clear conscience. In doing so you will also be tying very important strings with your precious ones!

Our children are learning every single day of their lives, and within those days they learn every single minute of the day. They come to us, from the Lord, as empty sponges that are completely ready and willing to soak up each and every passing moment in their lives. What are your children soaking into their lives? Please allow me to give you a word picture. Think about this scenario, you just got your drivers license. Now picture if the law was that for every person who has gotten a drivers license there would be a policeman assigned to stay with them, always, from that point on in order to watch them and to be sure that they always kept the laws of the road. Do you think that people would speed? Of course not, they would not even consider speeding because they would know that the policeman would always be watching that they are always following the laws of the road! Now think about this. You get your license but you are not assigned a policeman to always stay with you. Do you ever speed? I think it is safe to assume that the answer is yes for the majority of people. Not everybody but most people do. But what happens to those of us who have gotten a ticket for speeding? What happens after that? What happens after you get a consequence for breaking the law? It is usually a lesson learned and usually not forgotten at least for a little while? But does it stop people from speeding ever again? Usually not! Why? Because you know that the policeman cannot be following you around all the time and therefore over time the impact of getting a ticket has now subsided. But I am sure it is safe to say ladies that wherever you got your ticket you will always remember what happened last time when you were speeding through there and so when you pass through that area you will probably slow down, at least for that moment. Or if you happen to know of a certain location that there is always a policeman stationed, he sits there just waiting to give tickets to people who speed through. I can guarantee that after getting your first ticket that you would now always be sure to go the speed limit at that certain location, why? You want to ensure that you do not get another ticket. Ladies that is how it is with your children. If they get caught for a wrong behavior immediately because they are always with us by our sides then they usually will not do that wrong behavior or action again. Why try, when they know they already got in trouble for it once and they know that mom will not tolerate it being done ever again. Mom is always watching me so I am not willing to take another chance and get in trouble again. Children need to know their boundaries, ALWAYS! When they are not by our side they get away with all kinds of things. Some children have stronger characters then others. Some don’t like living with their own guilt and so they will tell on themselves when they do something wrong but that is not always a guarantee and it may not always be 100% of the time. Other personalities may find that since they got away with something it is worth doing again and again for the sole pleasure of pleasing themselves. Regardless of your child’s personality they are still human and still have a sin nature. Isn’t it better to win and keep their hearts from the very start instead of giving them a taste of freedom without you? A taste for sin? A taste of what it is like being their own authority?
 

Mothers lets keep our children’s hearts by keeping them by our sides always, not sometimes but always! It is so much easier to stop a bad behavior dead in its tracks, on the very first offense, then it is to let your children be alone and learn to govern themselves. You send them off to play alone in the name of getting things done. But what is more important than the training of your children’s hearts? What is more important then keeping your children by your side and tying strings with them? You may think it is easier to get things done when you send your children off alone to play. But once you have allowed this and your children have been by themselves so much, you will come to find that you will be able get back a lot of what you lost during that time but never all of it. When you sent them off to play alone they governed themselves during that time and now you have decided that you want to now step in and become their government and take over what was once theirs and they don’t like that at all. They will always remember what it felt like to be their own leader, to be their own ruler they liked doing things their way. They liked being able to do what they wanted when they wanted without anyone butting in. Don’t get me wrong, children want and need guidance, they need your supervision and they find security in having you, their parent, lead them. But we are all flesh and have a sin nature but look at it this way. Pretend you had your own home business of bread making, which would make you your own boss, but your husband decided to bring somebody else into the business to manage it. He felt you needed to spend more time with the family instead of so much time managing the business. So now this other person has taken over your position and is now the boss/manager of something you once ran. You are now under this person’s authority you are no longer the decision maker. Wouldn't it be hard to fall under the leadership of this person for something you once were in charge of? Even though you may like being free of the pressure that came with being your own boss you still miss being able to do your own thing your own way when it came to making decisions regarding this business you once were in charge of, and that is how it is with your children. Now as your children get older and they have been already been tomato staked from when they were babies you can start letting them do some things on their own. But for a minimum of the first 5-8 years your children should be by your side being tomato staked on a regular basis. If you have done this successfully you will reap what you have sown. Around the ages of 7-8 I do allow my children to be alone at times. Depending on the child and depending on their personalities will determine if and what they can do out of my sight. But it is not for long and I will still check up on them to be sure they are doing what they are supposed to be doing.

You wonder why now your children are lazy, not cooperative and unwilling to work. You wonder why you don’t have their hearts and why they seem to just want to go off and play all the time and not follow your rules or why they prefer to be alone instead of with you. Well mothers it is because that is what you have taught them. That is what you have trained into them from all those times of sending them off alone to play, in the name of getting things done. Mothers you can get things done with your children by your sides. If I can, and I have 8 children, then you most certainly can. I know you can do this ladies, you must believe it too! ! It will just take faith and work on your part! It will take practice mothers. But once you have taught everybody how to work with you you will someday wonder how you did it all without all your children right by you working right along with you! Learn to work and play together as a family. It is easily done once you learn how to do implement it. It may take some work at first but after you have learned how to do it you will never regret doing so. You will be doing them a wonderful service if you teach them by your side from when they are babies. They will learn what you want and expect from them from the beginning and there will be no starting over and trying to undo all the damage that was done when you, their parent, sent your child off on their own. Their hearts will be yours from the very start and their hearts will stay yours because you will have tied strings of fellowship with them from day one.

Look at babies, when you stick them in a playpen and leave them alone most of the time who is their boss? They have now become their own boss. You say well how am I supposed to get anything done with that baby toddling around. Well mothers it may take some time but trust me when I say that you can train that baby to not touch anything and to obey whatever rules you set before them. You can train that baby to do whatever it is you want them to do or not to do and you will be tying strings of love and fellowship with them at the same time. I am not saying you can never have your baby in a playpen. I myself use a playpen when it is necessary. But I am sure to take the babies with me even while they are in their playpen. Take the playpen with you wherever it is you must go and work in the house. If you are in the room right next to your baby that is fine. Just as long as you talk with them, keep watching them so you can correct any wrong behaviors the moment you see them. The point is to watch and train their every actions. You cannot do that if you are not even with them or watching them.

If you have not done this with your children it will take work at first! It will take a lot of patience, love and perseverance in order to get things to the point of where you want them! Also depending on how many children you have will also determine how much work you will have to undo and start fresh!

I would like to share a story about my first daughter. She was always with me from the very start. From a very young age I taught her what no meant and so I could put her on the kitchen counter at the age of one and tell her not to move and she wouldn’t. She was always so very obedient for me and if I told her to stay by my side she did. Things with her changed when I had to go into the hospital for 2 months on bed rest while pregnant with my twins. Nobody was able to keep her by his or her side all day long and spend time training her the way a mother would. My poor husband had to go to work during the day and so due to circumstances she was not watched in the manner I had been doing with her up until that point. I never viewed her as a strong willed type personality child. I did find out, very quickly, after I gotten home from the hospital that she had a very strong personality and because she wasn’t always watched her attitude had now changed. She was now her own boss and she liked it that way very much. Those first couple of years when I did all my training, it seemed completely lost in just a matter of 2 months time. It took a long time to finally see the fruits of my husbands and mine hard work in working on undoing the damage that was done in those 2 months time frame. But to be honest she has never been 100% the same since then.   It is always a much longer and harder process to undo damage than it is to cause the  damage.   I also believe that once you have experienced sin in your life, depending on your personality, it may become an area of weakness for you throughout your life.  That is why it is always better to give our children the edge.  Protect them from sin while yet still young so they have fewer weak areas as they grow up.   It  goes to show you no matter how obedient your child is they still have sin nature. Once my daughter saw that she could get her own way and fulfill her own desires, she liked what she was able to do and so therefore she began to do it more and more often. Thank God things have changed a lot since then and she is no longer so severely self willed like she had become during that time I was gone.

Ladies what are you teaching your children? Please do not do them an injustice by allowing them to think they are their own bosses. That is not the real world. The real world is that we cannot do as we please. There is always a law and there is always somebody over us limiting what we can and cannot do. Nowhere in life do we have free reign to do as we please whenever we please however we please. There is always somebody to report to and it is important that we teach our children that from a young age. We will always have to account to God for what we do and it is His ways that we need to always be sure we are following. We need to be sure that we are always teaching our children to follow His ways too! When we keep our children by our sides they learn things just by watching us. They have strings tied to us because you naturally grow close to those you spend a lot of time with. You grow together with each and everything you do together. When we spend time with our children you cannot help but tie strings of fellowship with them. You will become their friend. You will become their confidant. You will be the one they want to come to when they have a problem. You will be the one they want to come to when they have a praise to share. You will be the one they want to say goodbye to or they will be so bubbly to see you when you come home just because they missed you so much even though you just went down the street for 30 min. to the market while they stayed home with dad. How do your children respond to you ladies? When you have your children’s hearts it shows. They want to please you! They strive to please you! They yearn to be with you and they yearn to make you smile at them! They enjoy you and you them! Spending time with you is not a chore; it is not a misery they have to endure. The same goes for you. They need to know that you enjoy being with them that it is a joy for you and not a chore. Their excitement shows and you will know and feel that you have their hearts. I know I have my children’s hearts. I have not doubt that they belong to me. We laugh together, we sing together, we play together, we read together, we work together, we study together, we learn together, they are always trying to surprise me, (hard to do when I am by their sides but they manage or they do it when dad is home). My children like to cook along side me, they can tell I like them, they can tell I enjoy them, they can tell that they are more important to me than getting any certain task done. Yes I need to get things done but loving on my children, training them and winning and keeping their hearts are top priority over getting a task or project done. They are my helpers and together we can get that task done that I wanted to accomplish. My children know that I rely on their help and so they enjoy being my helpers. Never guilt your children ladies, never guilt them into doing jobs you want them to do! Train them, and steer them in the right direction. They are who you made them. If you don’t like who you raised them to be then change things. It usually means you need to change you first. But if you think that they are lazy they probably are from all those times you sent them off to play alone. Repent for your sins mothers, change the ways you did things and tie those strings of love starting today! It is never too late. It may be harder to do but it is never too late to make your children into the people you want them to be. Be who you want them to be and watch them grow in leaps and bounds.

Also ladies go to your man and get his input. Our husbands are very wise and can usually help come up with ways to make things happen. If you are having a hard time accomplishing this task then go to your man and get guidance and direction from him. God talks to us through our men and you may be surprised at the great solutions your man may have for you in order to make this task successful! Good luck ladies you will succeed now go tie those strings! You will never regret doing so mothers I can promise you that! Also remember nobody said that tying strings had to be boring. Look at these pictures and you can see how much fun my children have by my side. I also have fun with them!

Feel free to email me with questions or post comment posts with your questions mothers. I would love to help answer anybody's questions if it will help you along in your walk as mother!

Dearest Lord, please help these mothers to change their ways. Forgive them for any mistakes they may have made and help them to get on the right track. All things are possible through you Lord. So I ask that you give them strength and guidance and the ability to tie strings of fellowship and love with their children. They can do this with your help Lord. I know you desire these children to be free and clear of all guilt and the way to do that is for these women to raise their children to walk along side of them! Help them Lord so they can see their homes transform into a place of fellowship, teamwork and strings of love! In Jesus name I pray Amen!

Dearest sisters please allow me to share with all of you what I have learned throughout my many years of mothering, the many children, the Sweet Lord has blessed us with.  I have learned, that when I take the time to regularly instill  virtues, that build character traits into the hearts and minds of our precious children, those very things I spend time working on instilling begin to take root as habits into their lives.  Forming a habit is as easy as you or your child doing or saying something repetitively day in and day out throughout their lives and yours. (Unfortuantely sisters this holds true whether it is something good or whether it is something bad).   

How many of you dear sisters wish you would of had a better start early on in your own life such as I do?    Do you struggle with your roles and purposes sweet ladies because it was never taught to you as a young girl?  The good news is ladies that you can still build a new habit into your own life right at this very moment.  It is never too late to do so.  Of course we all know that it is always easier to instill and build good habits into our lives while we are yet still young so if you were not given that advantage while you were a young girl then that is even more of a reason to give that advantage to your own precious children.  Thank God that by His Grace it is never too late for us to build good habits in our own lives in the here, and now. 

Deuteronomy 6:7And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Deuteronomy 11:19 And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Now would you precious ladies allow me to share some of the things we work on to help instill Godly habits into our own childrens lives?   Whenever we see anything or anyone that is not dressed modestly we have taught our children to instantly turn their heads away.  This habit takes place wherever we are or wherever we go including places such as the grocery stores, that now have inappropriate magazines right there at the checkout stands for everyone to see.  My children were taught this habit from a very young age.   Not one of my children, down to my now almost 2 year old twins, have to think about turning their heads, it is just an automatic given response they have built into themselves over time just by doing it over and over again. This is also done in a very non-judgemental way dear sisters for we teach our children that we are not meant to judge anyone, we teach them that judging is Gods job not ours.  Because it has become a habit they have established within themselves I don't ever have to remind them to turn their heads anymore.

A habit, as I said before, is something we do automatically because we were conditioned to do so.  It starts by doing an action over and over and over again throughout our days and nights.   By teaching our children to develop good habits into their lives we are also helping them prepare for their life later on and we are also helping prepare their hearts for eternity.  At first, I had to guide my children along by telling them to turn away whenever we would approach a magazine rack but it didn't take many times of me doing that before they all started turing away on their own.  I also always remind our children dear ones that they are who they are when nobody is watching.   Our thoughts and our actions should always be striving to do what is pleasing to God so they should always be working on preparing their hearts for serving and pleasing our Lord in the here and now and as preparation for eternity.  I teach them to let their actions be focused on what God desires and not on what man thinks.  That is why I remind them dear ones that God SEES ALL and because of this you can never hide your sin from Him so building good habits and always doing what is right according to Him is all that matters while they are here on earth.  Seeing the fruit of their actions, especially when my children don't know I am watching them, makes it all that just that much sweeter. 

I remind my children that when we form good habits into our lives we reap such blessed rewards and to top that off it also makes our relationship with our Lord just that much sweeter.  Another example of a good habit to teach our precious children is to read Gods Word on a daily basis.  Filling their hearts, souls and mind with God's Word is a good habit to develop because it can only bring about good into our lives.  We can teach our children to pray, converse and spend sweet time with our dear Lord regularly especially when they see us living out this habit in our own lives.  Pray and seek the things the Lord would want you to teach your children and implement these things into their lives so that they become formed habits into their own lives on a daily basis.  Also dear ones go to your husband and seek his advice on this matter.  God uses our men to lead their families and because of this they have so much insight and will come up with things we never could of thought of on our own.  What do you want to see in your childrens lives?  Who do you want them to be?  What character do you want them to have?  Some habits are meant for both girls and boys but some habits are gender appropriate and you want to teach them accordingly.  Let me share what I mean.....

I have 4 girls, the oldest is 4 althought she is wise beyond her years.  I have been instilling the mindset and habit of being a help meet in her heart and mind.  I focus on my oldest daughter but my other daughters are always around while we are instilling these habits and they all see and hear what their sister does and what she repeats and they are all starting to claim the words she speaks for themselves, this is starting a habit in their lives as well as hers.  What I have been teaching my girls is that they were created to serve God and to be a help meet for their husbands and that they are serving God when they are serving others especially their daddy.   I remind them that they are always in training for their future roles as wife/help meet and also they are training to be a mother to their children and they will train for these roles everyday of their lives until the day finally arrives for them to get married and then they get to implement all that they learned.  My daughters are building this habit into their lives because they are always daddys little helpers whenever he is home or whenever he has a need whether he is here or not.  They serve him with a happy and joyous heart and honor him with their actions.  I teach them to look for ways to serve their daddy without waiting for the need to verbalized to them.  This instills the habit of looking for needs on their own, that their spouses and children may have, long before it ever gets verbalized and asked of them.   This is a wonderful virtue for your daughters to have in their marriages.   I also train the habit of being a good help meet, into my daughters, by also having them happily serve their brothers whenever they are in need of help.  They are learning to serve and help and the habit is being established now instead of after they are married.  When my sons need someone to help them with a task or just want some company when running an errand in the other room for me, I will always whisper to my girls to go and be their brothers helper.  They always do so with a very happy heart.  Not only is this building a good habit in my girls but subconciously it is building in my sons the mindset of having a woman by their side who enjoys being by their side helping them and serving them with complete and total happiness and joy.

My daughters also train to be mommys by helping me take care of our babies and they help mother these precious little ones by caring for them right along side me.  Running to the aid and need of a baby comes as second nature to them.  The habit is already built in so when the day comes that they become a mommy they will already know how to care for this new precious new baby they now have and they won't waste anytime learning something they should of learned during their younger years.  These precious daughters of yours, dear mothers, will build a habit and gain great practice instilling those habits whenever you allow them to practice their roles of helper in training (hits) and mommys in training (mits) .  Not only will they thank you for instilling this habit in their lives from so early on but their husbands and their children will appreciate it and thank you in their hearts also!

When we take the time to help instill habits into the lives of our children, they eventually become second nature to them, you will later find that you cannot help but feel satisfaction yourself when you see those efforts pay off and bring about fruit in the lives of your children.  We repeat over and over how NOBODY is to ever touch their bodies except their spouses after they get married.  We repeat over and over "NO" when asked if they want a cigarette or a drink.  These are just simple things we say over and over again to help build habits into their lives.  Something we teach our boys that they are meant to lead, guide and protect and we start with training this habit into their lives by teaching them to do these things with myself and their sisters.  When I come to the table they stand up and one of them will pull my chair out and then push me back in.  We have taught them to open the door for the elderly, women and children, which includes their sisters.  If we go somewhere they will give up their seats for others.  These things are all building habits into my boys so that they have a headstart in their roles as husband and father later on in their lives.  If there is conflict between them and a sister we remind them that they are not fulfilling their role of protector if they are fighting with their sister.  We allow them to protect and guide their sisters whenever an opportunity arises.  This is a habit they will have well established so after they are married protecting, guiding and leading their wives and children will be second nature for them. 

These boys also help care for our babies.  They know how to love, nurture and tend to the little ones.  They can change a diaper and make a bottle.  They will be part of the loving and nurturing that their own babies and children will need and receive.  This is a very important habit we want instilled into our sons as well as our daughters.  We want them to be great fathers and mothers and we want the habit to be second nature for them when the time comes.

If you don't know where to start, sweet sisters, then think of all the areas you are aware that you lack good habits in and wish you would been given the benefit of learning those habits early on in your life.  By doing this it will help give you a gage as to where to start  building and instilling all those new habits you are looking to build into the hearts and lives of your own children.  I have even taken the struggles in the life of my oldest son and watched other areas I found him to be weak in and use those struggles and weaknesses to help me know what areas I may have not focused hard enough on instilling good and strong habits in his life and so I will take those insights and use them to help build stronger habits into the lives of all our other children.   Take any weaknesses, struggles or failures in your life and don't dwell on them but use them to your benefit and put them to work for you in your life today! 

Oh dear sisters I know you will all love building habits into your family and into your childrens lives.  Once you start seeing all the fruit it produces you will be inspired to want to do it more and more.  Maybe all you precious ladies can even help share some of your ideas with all of us by posting comment posts as to what types of habits you are building or will begin to build into the lives of your children and into the structure of your own family unit.  I am always looking for new habits to build into my own children.  I try to leave all my worries in the hands of the Lords and trust He will guide me in the way we should go but the Lord does use others to help give us input and help give us new ideas so I am always open to feedback from all you precious sisters.   I know you will all begin to have fun once you start implementing this habit in your own life dear ones.  Trust in the Lords guidance through prayer and through your dear husband and in doing so you will only find success!

Bless you all on your new habit forming journeys!

Dearest Lord I pray that you will guide each and every one of us on our journeys to building and forming habits into the lives of our children and ourselves.  Oh Lord how many times do we fail because we tried to do things all on our own strength.  This is why Lord we all need you and your guidance, each and every one of us.  I pray you will take the hand of each sister here and show her how to build habits into the lives of her children, habits that can only honor as they are being built and especially after they are built.  Let each and every sister be encouraged and never discouraged just knowing you love each and every one of us. Thank you Lord for that love and for leading us all the days of our lives!  We love you, honor you and praise you today and always!  In Jesus name I pray Amen!   

Mothers have you ever tested your children to be certain you truly have their hearts?  If you don’t completely have their hearts have you considered then who does have them?  The way to win the hearts of your children and the way to insure that you keep their hearts is to continually work on tying strings with them.  This is an ongoing process mothers.  The strings I am speaking of tying are strings of time, and strings of love and this has to be done with each and every single one of your children, each and every waking moment.  Spend time with your children mothers, this includes both quality and quantity time!  One matters just as much as the other one does.  Do an assortment of things together with them and always be sure you are doing them side by side with each and every passing day.  Work together, fellowship together, learn together, play together, read together and grow together and these things must be done while your children are BY YOUR SIDE!!  How often, do you as a parent, send your children off to play alone somewhere else in the house?  Keep your children by your side. Mothers I cannot emphasize enough how damaging this is to your children and how damaging it is to your relationship with them!  Doing this is a sure way to lose their hearts. Please allow me to explain these concepts to you ladies.

When our children are sent off alone to play, there is nobody parenting their decisions, their choices or their actions.  In essence they have now become their own authority, they are now their own bosses.  When they were alone who was there to police what they did all throughout their day?   Who was with them to instill the values your children should be learning and growing in all day long?  Who was there telling them no to an assortment of actions and or behaviors?  Nobody!  Your children should hear the word no, many times a day just so they learn to deny themselves their wants and desires if not for any other reason.  Who was there all throughout their days to set the boundaries and limits as to what they could or could not do during that time they were alone?  Nobody!  Many of you may be thinking, “Oh it is not a big deal, they are not alone that much”.  Mothers any amount of time is truly too much!  Oh dear mothers may I suggest to you that if you sat and thought about it and were completely honest with yourself, you may just find out that they are alone a lot more than you ever realized.  When our children are by our sides we have the privilege, and yes it truly is a privilege of teaching and training their every single action, their every single behavior and instilling every single character trait into them.  When our children are alone for any length of time they begin to learn to be their own boss.  What they think becomes most important to them and it starts becoming the law in their eyes.  They fail to learn to subdue what they want and desire and then your ways are now only a hindrance to what they have grown accustomed to enjoy doing.  Which is THEIR WILL!!  Were you there to stop the first time they may have pushed their sibling down?  Were you there to stop that first time they stole a cookie?   When you are there with them and are able to subdue their wants and desires throughout the day then you will be able to stop and squash any negative behavior/action before it ever gets out of control.  They will have never gotten away with doing anything wrong and so therefore they are being trained into being much better people because they will never have to live with the guilt of carrying a burden due to something they got away with while spending time away from mom/dad.

When a child does something wrong they need their conscience cleared from guilt.  They need to be disciplined so that they know they paid the price for their sinful actions.  When a child doesn’t get caught a