I just came from a website where they are discussing the Dugger's. It so sad to see people so blind about large famlies. Before you continue reading, please note that I'm not against mom's who work or career women (My sister is a career women. Lucy Swindoll is a career women and they are both amazing to me) Wether you work or not, it's between you and the Lord. So please don't take this the wrong way. I'm only trying to address what was said on the website.

My question is; why do they think that just because you have more than two kids & homeschooling them you are:

1. Uneducated
2. You are some kind of cult
3. The husband is on some male ego trip
4. The wife is brainwashed by her husband
5. Selfish (we should only be breeding enough to replace us, so we should only have 2 children)
6. We are not doing our part to help the environment
7. We are government dependent

There were others but I don't remember them all. It so silly the issues that they are raising. My Dear Hubby is one of the most humble people I know and I love that he takes care of the children and me. I enjoy cooking for him, folding his laundry etc. It's not a chore, but because I say this I'm considered brainwashed. (My Sweets does do his own ironing)

To say we are not responsible; My Sweets an I are not having anymore children. I really believe that each of us has our limits emotionally, financially and tiredly So we are done. But I'm not against having more. If we were it would be a true miracle and a blessing. Mrs. Dugger looks great and healthy. I believe she is one of the few that can handle it. My take on the whole "Quiver Full" is you can have your quiver full with 2 kids or 18. God never put a number and He knows what each of us can handle. Mine is 6, my two other sister's have 2 children each. That's their quiver. Who am I to say "Oh, ye of little faith....."

Oh and to go with the whole unresponsible part about what if something happened to a spouse. As hard as it is we have talked about and are still trying to put all our finances in order (dept free) just in case the unthinkable does happen. With the Dugger's having so many mouths to feed I'm sure they have talked about it too.

Then to say we wives don't have a brain or say because we keep birthing children for our ego selfish husbands. I am truly happy following what the Bible says about women. Being my husbands helpmeet is what God intended for me. Not to raise up against him trying to be the dominate one. I can imagine how tired & stressed they must be. It takes a lot of energy to go against what God never intended for us women.

I'm not taking what the people on the board said personally, just saddened. Haven't they seen what feminism has done to America. Women are leaving their families to fulfill their own needs and it's destroying the family. Who is left to take care and nurture the children? Who is home to help them make good decisions? Who is teaching them about God's Word? And the list goes on. Our children are the ones suffering. There are more single moms and some by choice because they don't want a "man" around. They have the "I can have it all" attitude. I don't mean to burst their bubble but you can't have it all. Something has to give. I worked until my 5th child was born. And I did not feel like I could do it all. I was tired  and saw my kiddos from 6:30pm until 9:00pm and then it was their bedtime. I was so happy when I finally got to stay home.

The environmental thing well, we use cloth diapers, cloth napkins, we don't leave the water on while we are brushing our teeth and if I didn't have so many crows outside I would hang my clothes during the Summer. We don't buy a lot of toys (that's a lot of plastic, pollution and water saving right there )

I am so encouraged here at homeschoolblogger to see so many families, small or large raising up a generation of children for the Lord. To have a purposeful life. Not that we are perfect but hopefully our children will do better and their kids do better etc.

Sorry it got long. I just had to voice myself. It's not the only time I have seen these discussions. A few months ago I read about couples who do not want children because they pollute the world. I tried to leave a nice comment on the "feedback" part, but it wasn't posted (I only went back once to check). My heart goes out to these people. If they could only see Jesus.

In Christ,

Linda<><

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