It was a sad day here at Abundant Blessings farm...the little pigeon we were anxiously awaiting died. This morning the male was sitting on the egg, but I soon noticed that the male and female bird had pushed the egg out of the nest and actually put the feed bowl over the egg(like burying it). I began inspecting the egg and noticed 2 little holes but they were to the inside so I knew the birds had pecked it...upon futher inspection it was obvious the bird was not going to hatch...I removed the egg from the nest and we buried it. Later today as I thought about it and sat and observed the birds the Lord brought to my mind some things. As I watched these 2 birds in their grief I was amazed at something. These 2 birds had lost their little one, and it was obvious they knew as they sort of buried the egg under their food bowl, they were relying on one another. The male bird would take his beak and stroke the female and he would 'coo' to her, in return she stroked his feathers with her beak, it was really neat to see. They knew to comfort each other. They finally retired to their nest and rested their heads together. It brought to mind how people behave in their grief. Many times we blame someone for our loss, or question God as to why, or we get angry and lash out at the ones we love the most. I was reminded that those of us that have special needs children experience a sense of loss just like those that lose babies in uetro or someone to death. The hopes and dreams we have for our child soon turn to tears and wonder...wonder what the future holds for not only our child/ren but for us, the parents. Many times I have I lashed out at my husband, friends or even God in anger and frustration at my daughters limitations. Today watching 2 pigeons interact in their loss I realized that we are to hold tight to the ones we love when we face tragedy, weather it be death of our loved ones, getting a devastating diagnosis, or raising a child that will never be able to fulfil the dreams you dreamt all those years ago. We are human and our emotions are what they are, anger is ok, sadness is ok and all the other emotions we feel, its what we do with them sometimes thats not ok. We should never lash out at our loved ones in our grief, they are grieving too, maybe differently than you, but nonetheless they are grieving and their pain is no less real just because they may not react as you do. These 2 little birds came together and comforted one another they didn't blame or fight, just help tight to one another...It was truly amazing how the Lord used these birds to minister to my heart and I hope there is something in this that someone reading it can use. If you are grieving for whatever reason, go to God, he will comfort you, go to your spouse ,tell those around you, you love them. You will be blessed beyond measure!--