The reason that I decided to home school about 2 weeks ago was that my son was having sooooo many problems in school. The teachers blamed him for just "dilly dallying" and "messing around" all day. They claimed that he knew how to do the work but was just spiteful and didn't want to. Each day he would get into trouble for "not doing his work" and for stupid stuff like leaning over the slide too far or thumping rocks through the chain link.
I worked with the school every single week, day in and day out, at least twice a week. It got to the point where when I saw the caller ID, I just let the machine get it. The school said that he needed Psychotherapy, and I said that is just too much! I have agreed to all of their cognitive, memory, IQ, reading, writing, and more tests, I have agreed to meet with their specialized building intervention teams, but taking him to a psychiatrist when his pediatrician states he's perfectly healthy!?!
Finally, I had enough; I could not take ONE MORE phone call. I went and I agreed to take him to a counselor and "prove" that he was okay. I told the school I was out of options and that I was looking at possibly home schooling my sons... guess what happens the VERY next day. You guessed it, DFS was called. The principal called me into the office and stated that she absolutely did NOT agree with the phone call but the first grade teachers made the call behind her back. What was the allegation? Neglect - I was neglecting to get him proper medical care by refusing to take him to a psychiatrist.
Oh my goodness! What do they think I have been working with them every single week for? I know they did it just from spite. They feel like my child has raked them all year and now the last two weeks I take him out to... ::::dramatic music::::: home school! Well needles to say, DFS never came or called. Neglect by not taking a child to a counselor is not neglect. The fact that I signed all of the papers to test him through the State is enough to prove that I am doing all I can.
As for the testing, the three-hour test was administered this morning and it took him three hours to do half of it. The State Psychiatrist says that he exhibits many of the symptoms of Asperger's Syndrome, which is a form of autism. Autism! I am so angry with the teachers for thinking that I abused him, neglected him, and treated him bad causing his erratic behaviors. The worst thing I did was pass on the genetic disease somehow when he was born. I have treated this child with the love and compassion that God gave me.
I work in a handicapped school (previously full time, currently part time) and I LOVE each and every one of those little children. Some are very low functioning and cannot talk or walk. Some are very high functioning and can cook. We have a range of all of those in between. Autism is very common in these kids and they are still GREAT children! Autism is not anything to worry about for my son. I love him just as much and even more than the day he was born. I am glad that something FINALLY explains why he is the way he is. I feel sorry for the school district and the teachers ignorance in slandering myself and my husband for something they did not give me time to explore. The day my 7 yr old said he would be better off not born, then to get in trouble and be a bad boy at school every single day, is the day I took him home to stay, with me, to learn and grow.
I pity those children who live through years and years of this and teachers ignorance leading to the smashing of their self-esteem when it was no fault of the child at all.
Thank God I found out soon enough to save his heart and feelings.
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