I am having a really hard time with this whole pastor's wife thing.  It's not exactly like anyone is putting pressure on me.  There was one day when Joe went down to help fix up the parsonage.  We won't be using it and it has been agreed that the sensible thing would be to sell it.  Some of the folks from church who were working casually asked Joe where I was.  He replied that my priorities were to teach the children and keep the house.

Back when Joe began to actively seek preaching opportunites, we discussed what would happen if the Lord led him to lead a church.  I told him what I had heard.  Some churches expect that when they hire a pastor, there are getting a package deal.  I told him that I already had a job, as homemaker and home-educator.  I wasn't interested in taking on more.  And he throughly agreed.

Now what we imagined has come to pass.  He is pastor of a church and I am a pastor's wife.  No one has laid out what is expected of me.  Yet I am wondering if I am not the source of all the pressure I feel.  I want to please.  And if I am not careful, this desire to please will get in the way of my obligations to my husband and my children. 

No one has asked me to lead a ladies bible study.  But, shouldn't I?  I have never done anything like that.  Time will tell. 

Posted by ltjewel

I would say, you should not lead a women's bible study unless God is asking you to lead a women's bible study. If it something he asks of you; he will confirm it without the undue pressure of pushy or nosy women. On the other hand, you cannot become embittered against the people as I have seen many pastor's wives do and thus refuse all involvement in your husband's ministry in spite of God's leading. Steep yourself in the Word of God, and follow the path He sets before you. In Love, Amy B