Wednesday, June 7, 2006
Aliens took my daughter
Posted in Family Doings
My sweet, helpful, kind, God-hearted, fun, 16-year-old Blair has disappeared. In her place, is some child who is identical in physical appearance only.
I know, you're thinking, "She's a teenager! That's normal and to be expected!" But it totally took me by surprise, and my children are not strangers to me. The transformation happened overnight.
She's been depressed about the move for several months. We've been working through it, including allowing her to express her feelings of anger and frustration toward us and God as long as she allowed us to help her deal with the feelings and not withdraw. We have tried to involve her in local community activities to help her get a sense of "home."We have encouraged her to continue communicating (always monitored communication) with her online friends and found a phone service with a flat fee for long distance calls so she wouldn't lose touch with her friends on the other end of her known world.
In the last 24 hours she has done three separate things, totally unrelated, that just aren't like her. Cruelty, dishonesty and physical aggression just aren't the Blair I knew.
I've planned a day with her today - a girl's day out. I'm hoping and praying that some additional time away from the pressures of home along with some relaxing conversation will bring her back.
In the meantime, if you are contacted by the aliens who did this, can you let me know? I miss my daughter.
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Sunday, June 11, 2006 - I Know how She Feels!
 Posted by tiredmom
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My parents moved our family across town my sophomore year so we could attend better schools. I hated it! We moved right in the middle of basketball season, my favorite sport, and I had to sit out the rest of the season because my old school was in the same league. I thought it stunk and I wanted it to stink for everyone else, too (not consciously then--I realized this years later).
Things only got better when I made new friends and softball season started. Of course every time I played a volleyball, basketball or softball game for the rest of my high school career I got teased on both sides of the court! As time passed it was more sweet than bitter. I think you are right to pay attention and sympathize however. I remember the anger as being VERY real and I had never before felt anger that lasted so long (it was actually kind of scary).
I have since moved a number of times (I was in the Navy for six years) and each time it took a full year to feel "at home". So just keep doing what you're doing and things will get better!
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Monday, June 12, 2006 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by OreoSouza
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She's still in there some place.
:(
She's almost old enough...any jobs available at Daddy's work? She would be great at something like that!
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Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - hey
 Posted by MuckFootMom
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how are things? I kept getting interrupted or logged off trying to reply to this. I was concerned for you & your daughter; have things been better? Were you able to talk?
love you
kim
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