• Aug. 28, 2007 - My girl needs more time with me....
Ok, I am home 24 hours a day 7 days a week devoting myself to my kids and homemaking (although to look in my sock drawer you'd wonder about the latter). Anyway, I do not send them off to school or daycare, etc. I am with them all of the time......
However, last night my oldest tells me, "I don't get enough time with you, mom" How do I work on that? Do I need to hire a weekly mom's helper so I can get away with one kid at a time?
I feel so stressed for time sometimes that just the thought of fitting one more thing in is almost overwhelming although I know for her (because she is very much like me) this is a real need in her life and somehow I'm going to have to make it work.
I did tell her last night that in just 6 short months Daddy would be back and we'd be able to get away together a bit more frequently and that encouraged her a bit. She helped with laundry last night just to be near me. I suppose I could use that a bit more often!
Anyway, ideas on helping Kiernan feel like she's getting the mom-time she needs when mom doesn't even get the mom-time that SHE needs.......I need ideas....... |
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• Oct. 28, 2007 - I know its late
I noticed noone gave you any ideas for one on one time. I have 5 kids and the importance of mom time is critical. Here are a few random ideas...
1. Have a friend/ family member babysit the others and take turns taking the girls out on dates just you and one child. This could be weekly or monthly - whatever your schedule and checkbook ;) allow.
2. Put all but one child to bed and play a board game with the awake one, swap nights so that each child gets a turn.
3. Let each girl have a "day" that is theirs every week. On their day they get to pick the meal, sit by mom at dinner, pick the game or movie the family watches. and stay up later for 1 on 1 time.
4. Each day schedle 30mins for each child to have mom time. The others must nap or rest or play elsewhere while you do what the scheduled child wants. The activity could be only on their day or daily depending on your schedule.
I have implemented each of these ideas with mine and had great success. (Not all at once of course) I hope some of these ideas spark your imagination and you come up with a way to make them each feel affirmed and loved.
Have a blessed week,
Jes