The past few weeks have been a struggle in our home.  If you had asked me a few weeks ago what was causing the problems, I'd have told you that my son is going through puberty and displaying a bad attitude about the things he is required to do - like math and unloading the dishwasher.  I'd have said that he was making us all miserable and driving me nutty. 

I realized something today - and it's not nice. 

I realized that my son has been displaying a bad attitude because....I have been setting that example for him!   Rather than maintaining a "meek and quiet spirit" when I'm dealing with him I've been allowing him to make me angry.  I've snapped at him rather than speaking respectfully.  I've raised my voice rather than speaking quietly and calmly to him.  No, I haven't yelled and stomped my feet and slammed doors but the feelings behind my angry voice are the same.  If I expect my son to learn to control his feelings and his temper, to remain calm, to display a Christ-like attitude then I have to control my feelings and temper, remain calm and show him that same attitude. 

I'm sure everyone has heard the saying, "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."  Well, if Mama doesn't have a good attitude then nobody has a good attitude. 

So, I have set the goal for myself to train myself to have a good attitude - a "meek and quiet spirit", a Christ-like attitude in dealing with my children, my husband, and others.  We know habit formation is very important for our children - teaching them to pay attention, etc. - it is just as important for mothers!

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Posted by Dawne

Hi! I've enjoyed browsing thru your blog. I too love the MOTH book and schedules. : ) Your homeschool card box sounds wonderful.

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Posted by MamaJ

I have enjoyed reading your entry. I have two daughter, nowhere near teen years, but I'm finding the same thing. If Mama's not cheerful, the girls are whiny. If Mama's angry, the girls pick at each other. It's a valuable lesson, and one that needs to be learned over and over again. God bless you for your wisdom.

Mama J.

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Posted by keeperintexas

good point! thanks for the reminder.

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Posted by Anonymous

That article could have been written by me. You shared the same thoughts and feelings I have. I also came to the same conclusion you did. I hope you have a good day today, a meek & quite spirit day.
cindy

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Posted by Anonymous

Very well said! I totally agree!

Hope you have a wondeful week!
Karen
www.homeschoolblogger.com/salt

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