Keeping the Home by Lori Seaborg

Friday, March 3, 2006

Missey's Wisdom

I was browsing through the site of our online friend, Missey Gray*, tonight, reading her posts, enjoying her writing, and absolutely - desperately - wishing she was still with us on Earth so we could read about the new baby's beauty and if her son's rash healed and about the tender care her husband is giving her. Reading her blog, I came upon this gem of wisdom from Missey that all of us homeschooling mothers need to read, reread, and then apply to our lives.

I sure hope this bit of wisdom from Missey will touch you tonight as it did me. From her December 19, 2005 blog entry (emphasis mine):

"This is the first year that I have given myself permission to take all of December off from schooling and it has been wonderful!

Anyway, that's why I've been so quiet lately. We have been enjoying lots of family time this month. I think a month-long break is just what we needed! We have played games, eaten pizza, looked at Christmas lights, listened to Christmas music, burned scented candles, tried new recipes, enjoyed family get-togethers, gone shopping (both IRL and online), watched the birds, made Christmas ornaments, and lounged around in our PJ's and slippers as much as possible. :-D

Life has been so laid-back and relaxed that I don't know how we'll ever get back on track come January, but I'm not going to think about that right now. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. For now, I'm enjoying making memories with my family and letting all the worries and stresses roll right off my back. They'll be there for another day. But for today I'm going to get my Love Bank filled back up with kisses and hugs and quiet conversations (while making those same kinds of deposits into each of my loved one's Love Banks) and regain the strength to face all those worries and stresses that will still be waiting for me come January. I think that by then they won't seem so big anymore anyway. ;-)"

Hug your babies.

God bless,

Lori Seaborg

* For those of you who do not know, Missey passed away this week from complications after a c-section for their fifth child, Melissa Kate. She blogged the morning she died..

Here is the information:

Yesterday Missey went in to get her stress test that she's been getting every 2 weeks. The test showed that Missey was losing amniotic fluid and that she had lost enough of it for it to be alarming. That's when they decided to go ahead and take the baby.

After they lifted the baby from her body, some of the amniotic fluid got into her blood stream and caused a blood clot, which is what caused her death. She never came out of surgery. Her MIL said that this only Happens 1 in 200,000.

She said that the girls are holding up OK. She said that they all slept, no... clung, together in their bed last night. The oldest got up at one point and asked if little Nathan could also sleep with them, so they moved him into the bed with the 3 girls. She said that Tom is just in a daze. He has gone to the hospital this morning to be able to feed the baby.

Tom and Missey had chosen a name for the baby, but after Missey passed on they decided to name the baby Melissa Kate.

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Friday, March 3, 2006 - Speechless

Posted by DreweLlyn

Dear Lori,
I'd just read on Dandelion Seeds' blog about Missy's passing. I was not fortunate enough to have stumbled onto her blog, but can't help but feel great sorrow over this family's loss. Then you posted this entry from her blog and now all I want to do is cry and Praise the Lord that she had such a precious, precious time with her family during December. What a poignant reminder that just being with your family is even more important than "getting it all done"! I know her family does not regret one single day of home schooling. What if those "babies" had been in public school?!?!?! They wouldn't have those powerfully warm remembrances of a December spent with Mom. I'm printing this out and sharing it. Thank you so much for bringing it to our attention.
Love,
Drewe Llyn

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Tuesday, March 7, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by ReneeM

Lori, this was great! How awesome to see how God orchestrates our lives, and prods us to do things, and make His plans...

Have been enjoying reading your blog, and looking back on some archives and such, and enoying your writing and perspective!! I just started a blog... well actually I started one last year, and then my parents came to visit, and that was the end of that, so I started a new one, and will hopefully keep up on it. Of course I am not a writer or very profound, but can gab and blab! :)

stop by at my attempt at "a blanced life"

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