The Ten o'Clock Scholar - Rules for the Lady and Gentlemen of my home

Jul. 26, 2006 - Rules for the Lady and Gentlemen of my home

Sometime ago, I encountered PreschoolersandPeace’s article entitled “Thirteen Rules for Gentlemen”. I was thrilled to find this as my pre-teen was going away on his “birds and bees” weekend with his dad and we had been looking for something simple like this to share with him concerning gentlemanly behavior.

As is my nature, I mulled it over, added and re-worked it a bit to fit my goals for my young gentleman. I also noticed that the “Rules for Ladies” had some rules I’d like my young gentlemen to also acquire and vice versa. So, I’ve also added those gender neutral “rules” to each list. Perhaps you’ll appreciate this reworked list…

Rules for Young Gentlemen

· Always hold a door open for a young girl or woman and wait for her to go through first.

· Help ladies with removing or putting on a sweater or coat.

· Always seat ladies at the table first, then take your seat.

· Rise from your seat when a woman enters the room and see that she has a comfortable place to sit.

· The gentleman always walks on the curbside with a lady.

· Always carry packages for a lady if you are walking together.

· If a lady drops something, always stop and help her pick it up.

· Do not embarrass a lady by teasing her in public.

· Greet people by name. Look someone in the eye and say “Hello Mr. Kelly” instead of “Hi".

· Respect other peoples' privacy by not involving yourself in their conversations.

· Do not interrupt conversations. Wait for a break in the conversation before beginning to speak.

· Likewise, do not enter a room talking. Take a moment to make certain you are not interrupting a conversation.

· Use self-control with your speech.

· Flee situations that might lead to stumbling into sin.

· Do not make rude noises or laugh at others who behave inappropriately in public.

· Remove your hat when you go indoors.

· God's desire is that you grow into a godly young man. Meditate upon His Word!

Rules for Young Ladies

· Graciously allow a male to help you, even when you don't need help.

· Greet people by name. Look someone in the eye and say “Hello Mr. Kelly” instead of “Hi".

· Respect other peoples' privacy by not involving yourself in their conversations.

· Do not interrupt conversations. Wait for a break in the conversation before beginning to speak.

· Likewise, do not enter a room talking. Take a moment to make certain you are not interrupting a conversation.

· Always acknowledge gifts. Write a personal note mentioning the gift by name to each donor.

· Always look around you to see what needs to be done and how you can help. Ask your hostess, "What can I do to help you?

· Do not embarrass anyone by teasing them in public.

· Use self-control with your speech.

· Flee situations that might lead to stumbling into sin.

· Do not make rude noises or laugh at others who behave inappropriately in public.

· Dress in such a way that your femininity is not in question. God made you a girl and you want to dress like a girl! Be certain that what you are wearing does not reveal anything inappropriate.

· God's desire is that you grow into a godly young woman. Meditate upon His Word!

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