Have any of you heard of the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs?  I had not heard of it until our pastor announced an all-day seminar at our church.  Dr. Eggerichs does 2-day seminars and we watched a DVD of the presentations by he and his wife, Sarah. 

We did not have a large group of people, but it made for good discussion.  Some portions the men and women watched together and other portions the men watched in another location in the church, while the women stayed and watched their portion.  The core ideas are that women need to know that their husband loves them and men need to know that their wives respect them, or they aren’t communicating at their highest levels.  An example of just how easy it is to say something and have it be misunderstood:

She says: “I don’t have anything to wear.”

            What she means is “I don’t have anything new to wear.”

He says:  “I don’t have anything to wear.”

            What he means is “I don’t have anything clean to wear.”

When we miscommunicate with our spouse, things can escalate and spiral out of control.  We need to work to get back to real, clear communication when this happens.   It is based on the passage in Ephesians 5:33  -  Nevertheless, let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.

There are various ways to get the information.  There is the book, also a workbook, audio cassette and CD.  The entire seminar is on DVD as well.  I would highly recommend it to any couple that is married, or engaged to be married.  Another friend who went to the seminar and I agree that it is a great engagement/shower/wedding gift and we’ve each planned to have one on hand for such an occasion.  Each point he made in the seminar was backed up with numerous bible verses illustrating the point.

If you have read the book, listened to it, or went to the seminar, I would love to hear your comments.

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Posted by CallmeAravis

I haven't heard of the book, but I am a big fan of "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus". Dh and I both have a copy! It also discusses common miscommunication problems between men and women.

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Posted by DandelionSeeds

Blessings to you and yours in the coming year!
In Him,
Amy

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Posted by DandelionSeeds

Please take a moment to stop by my blog and read a prayer request for a woman whose blog I came across... she needs prayer.

Blessings,
Amy

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Posted by TamInAz

That marraige conference sound very good! I'm adding you to my Friends list so I can make a point to come visit you and your blog often.

Blessings,
Tam

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Posted by DandelionSeeds

Hope all is going well with you and yours.

Blessings,
Amy

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Posted by lvg4him

I have heardgreat things about this book!

I am really enjoying your site and will be back for more! My husband and I love to travel too and visit historical sites. It is our dream to someday soon goto Williamsburg! I already know where we will be staying - it is a working farm so the kids can get in on some farm life - something we hope to have ourselves within the next few years - God's timing of course.

Anyways, thanks for a wonderful site! I am sure we will be refrencing it when planning family vacations!!

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Posted by homeskoolmom

Dh heard this man on FOTF a few months ago. I put the book on hold at the library and we waited... and waited...and waited. Finally got it. Started reading it and told dh that I though we should buy our own copy and read it together. We haven't gotten very far, but already we realize that he hits the nail on the head.
Have a blessed day,
Christine

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