Well, Jeff and I are back on the baby discussion again. Not that we ever stopped wanting one, we just kind of dropped it for a while, hoping it would just happen. I know lots of people mean well when they say "if you don't think about it, it will happen!", but guess what... not true. Only people who don't have problems getting pregnant say that. If you have been hoping and praying for a child for 5 years, there's not much time when you don't think about it! In fact, I've had lots of people trying to give us advice and tell us stories (you know the "I knew a lady who..." stories) to help. The problem is this - none of it really helps. You just nod your head and say "oh really, mm hmm" and then go home (or in church, on the phone, at a friend's, heck, at a stranger's house) and break down and cry and question God (yes, I said question God) and come to terms with it and then it starts all over again. Some people say "well, you should be happy, at least you have Shareen". Where this would seem logical, really its not to me. Yes I have Shareen, Jeff adopted Shareen, so by law she is his also, but I want us to have a child TOGETHER, whether it is naturally or by adoption I want it to be something we do together, at the same time! Sometimes that gets so lost on people it is hard for me to make them understand it. I actually had a friend tell me several times in the same conversation "well, it's not like you don't have ANY kids!" Grrr! Oh well, keep praying for us...

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Posted by Shareen

My poor momma

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Posted by amalapert

((((((((hugs)))))))))
While I'm newly on my 4th pgcy, I do understand the deep desire and pain that comes with wanting another baby. Our first baby took 5+ years and a reproductive endocrinologist and thousands of dollars to get. God has blessed us with the other three with no outside help. Keep praying (and I will join you) and email me if you want some support or want me to share my story.

On another note, yes please feel free to link to my site. I'll also add yours to mine. You would also enjoy MommytoRJ's site at http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/MommylovesRJ/ She's also a Christian unschooler, and recently posted about wanting another child as well. You might find a lot in common with her. ;)

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Posted by MommylovesRJ

...wanted to LYK you know I added you as a friend too. :o) I so know how you feel. My wee one is now 6, and I am almost desperate for another wee one. RJ was my 5th pregnancy, although he is my only wee one...I know how you feel...I really do. I can honestly say at this point that I am okay with the 4 miscarriages...G-d evidentally has a plan...I just wish He would let me in on it! If you need a shoulder, please feel free to email me...just be certain to post something in the email title, so I know to NOT delete it without reading it. Additionally, I am "mommylovesrj" on YIM. Actually...I'm "mommylovesrj" everywhere on the web, for the most part. Anyway...getting a bit sidetracked.

Incidentally, I am kind of laughing at your location...my FIL lives not too far north of you, in Geraldine. And, dh and I were married in Guntersville. We were just down
there again two years ago, and fell in love with Alabama all over again. We'd love to move down there, but it's not in His plans...at least not right now.


K...going to run and play Scrambled States with my wee one...stop by and leave a comment...just remember to click on "Share Your Thoughts", to leave a comment. :o)

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Posted by Kim Hill

Thanks for commenting on my blog. I need to come over and watch to see what EXACTLY you can do in 19 minutes. I can see that I've foolishly overlooked your wise tutelage (um, is that a word?). I read your baby blog. That must be incredibly frustrating. People say stupid things. I KNOW that I was one of those people who said "I know so-and-so who got pregnant when...". Sorry. I'm glad that I'm your friend and you can roll your eyes and know that I mean well (and want to look cool and wise). I luv you Les...

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