Man, oh man. Was it baaad! On Saturday, 27th December, I had te worst bout of food poisoning ever in my life! The thing is I don't even know what I ate that caused it since I was the only one (thank God!) that had the attack. Everyone else was fine and we (the whole family and friends) ate the same spread of food at both lunch and dinner parties!

I was throwing up and purging from about 10pm (after dinner) and cramping up real bad. I threw up til I had nothing to throw up anymore. (Moms with bad morning sickness in pregnancy - I salute you! I certainly can't/don't want to imagine how it is like to throw up in the 1st trimester, or worse still, the whole 9 months!).

This went on till past midnight. I thought I could sleep it off since I was extremely sleepy and fell aslpee inbetween tht ebouts of vomitting/purging. But no, it didn't let up at all. I was actually in a fix. I knew then I had to get myself to a dr for the jab to stop the vomitting but how??? I can't possibly drive there on my own. And I can't get all the children up just so I can go to the dr.

And then as I was praying and praying, the Lord impressed upon me to call my dad. So I did. And I prayed that his phone was turned on! Thank God for him. Immediately he agreed to drive over. I got him to drive me to the nearest 24 hour clinic at Mount Alvernia Hospital while dh stayed on to watch over the children just in case any of them should wake up in the middle of the night.

Thank God I was the only patient there and was seen by the dr almost immediately. I asked for the jab as I knew from past experience that it provides the most immediate relief to vomitting. There was no point giving me medication orally as I would throw it up in the next 5 to 10 minutes!

Then we headed home and I slept for the next 3 hours straight through! But I had to wake up to drink something as I was feeling extremely dehydrated. But drinking the much needed water caused me to have to get up and visit the toilet

The next day (Sunday) dh and ds had to forgo serving as dh had to watch over the children while I crashed out the whole morning. Thankfully, my parents could come over in the afternoon while dh had to go speak at a Youth Church Camp in Sentosa!

Today (Monday) I am feeling much better but still weak overall and aching all over. Dh's off again to speak at the Camp this morning and then again tonight.

I pray I have anough energy to last! What an adventure.

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As 2008 draws to a close, and I look back at the year, I must confess that I have no idea what exactly happened! Everything is blurry and sadly so. It made me realise that I should keep a proper journal of the ups and downs of our lives as a record of God's faithfulness and mercy.

Instead, I have allowed life's busy-ness to overtake me and my tiredness to overwhelm me. This is not good  I started a private blog early this year but have not been faithfully updating it at all.

So I resolve to do this come 2009. I haven't quite decided what form it should take - blog (private/public) or the old fashioned way of writing it all down with a pen and book?

But I encourage you to do the same - keep a log of what is happening and affecting you. Remember the Memorial Stones Joshua had the people of Israel build after they crossed the River Jordan in Joshua 4? We need to remember that God has done in our lives. We are a forgetful people and we each need our memorial stones to help us remember and recount God's goodness in our lives and His mercies upon us.

And it is good to recount them to our children too. We can leave behind a godly legacy (at least try! ) for our children and their children.

So in the busy-ness of this season, do not forget the Lord God who brought us out of our individual Egypt and into His Promised Land.

And dear Readers, thank you for reading and commenting the past year. Hopefully, you'll return come 2009  Oh! And I may just switch to another blog host. I am not really pleased with the templates I have to work with here. I'll keep you posted when I finally decide what to do!

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And you think MY family is large!

The Duggars just had their 18th child and 8th girl. And they actually want moore! And I think it is highly possible considering Michelle Duggar is only 42! 

For the full story, click HERE.

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Since we had our 1st child, I have been trying, to no avail, to tell my parents to stop plying him and all the other children with useless, unnecessary toys and/or books.  It was bad in the 1st few years.

Everytime they turned up at my place - which was twice weekly back then, to visit their grandchildren, they would bring something, anything! for the kids. I couldn't keep up with even knowing what they gave after a while! And then the house grew even more cluttered coz back then we lived in a tiny 2-bedroom apartment with first 1 then 4 children.

Then their visits were reduced to once a week and they went even more crazy thinking that since they only visit once a week, they therefore must bring something! ARGH!

Everytime I tell them not to do it, I get ignored and meanwhile I had to keep packing up and finding places for the things they bought that the children didn't even want! Don't get me wrong. They are great grandparents. But rather misguided in the gift giving section.  Obviously their love language is gift giving.

And they would say to me when I tell them that the children were uninterested in the gifts, "Then just throw away lah!" Huh??? Throw away a perfectly good gift that cost money? That was crazy! But that's what they'd say.

And you know what? That's what I did to drive home  the point that they were wasting their hard-earned money buying toy trinkets. Ok, I didn't really throw them out - heart pain lah! But I'd sell them off or give them away to the Salavation Army Thrift Shop. I was forced to since I had really run out of space to store these toys/books that the children didn't even look at after the 1st day!

But with the economic gloom and doom, there's now hope that they'd finally learn to be frugal! The other day I was told to submit a list of possible Christmas presents for the children coz they (ther grandparents) did not want their gifts to be thrown away by me!  

I know I must be grateful that they even want to give gifts to their grandchildren but with 8, soon to be 9 (God willing!) people living in a 1,500 sq ft apartment that's already bursting at the seams, I'd prefer if the gifts were practical and useful. Pity they don't believe in gift vouchers!

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Please note that this is totally a personal opinion.

Recently, a reader on Building Up Moms wrote and asked for some advice regarding babysitting. A friend has also taken up responsibility of babysitting her orphaned teenage niece. And both are facing challenges in their new duties.

I must say that I have no experience in babysitting other people's children, regardless of the child's age. But I do know it is something not as easy as it sounds. So let me just say, "hats off to you ladies who have chosen to help a friend or relative by babysitting their child/ren."

You see, I would try very hard not to babysit another person's child. And it is not because I have 6 children of my own to look after. It is just that watching out for another person's child is a heavy responsibility.

If my child should fall and knock herself, it would easily be accepted as part and parcel of growing up and being a child. But if the child I am babysitting had the same accident, I would be guilt stricken. Which also means that as long as the child is under my care, I would be on high alert making sure that he/she does not have any accidents while under my care. And that is so not my parenting style.

And then what about discipline? The parent and I may agree on the principles of discipline but how we work it out could be very different. And that could be a great source of friction.

And if the child placed under my care is an older child, it would present even more challenges. Like it or not, the older child sets an example to the younger ones at home.

All the advice I can offer to any of you considering this option is to :

• make sure this is what God wants you to do,
• your dh is in full and total agreement for you to do this,
• lay down the ground rules - for the parent and the child from Day 1 and stick to it, and
• make sure it doesn't distract you from your basic calling of being a parent to your own children.

PS : And in the same way, I would not choose to run a school after my children have flown the coop.  Imagine being responsible for a group of children that are not my own. Faint!  

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The toddler

The toddler is well! Praise the Lord, as the 3 yr old said!

Imagine purging up to 10 times or more a day and having a bad diaper rash on top of it all! But it is all over, by the grace of God! And the best sign that she's all ok is the return of her appetite! Lol! Dh says she's making up for lost time to regain her chubby cheeks. 2 days of raging high fever and purging for 8 days sure took its toll on her. She lost so much weight.

If anyone is interested, I gave her Nurofen for her fever and lacteofort for the diarrhoea coupled with acidophilus. All these unfortunately had to be forced fed to her with great drama.

Her appetite  was not good so foodwise, she would only eat rice porridge (basically plain white rice boiled with water) and some meat/fish that the rest of us had. She refused to take any crackers or biscuits. The only thing that she looked forward to eating was bananas! I gave her those huge Del Monte ones, not the small local ones. And that actually helped her the most.

Me

I, unfortunately, did not fare well. On the 3rd day of her stomach flu. I had another cough and cold attack. This time I was so congested, I couldn't breathe. And when I tried to breathe through my mouth, it triggered a major coughing bout. I coughed so badly (and I thought the last bout was bad!) that my whole body was in PAIN.

I told dh that if I weren't pregnant, I'd have a lovely abdominal muscles by now! My entire body was tired and painful from the incessant coughing which was worse during the night coz of the post nasal drip.

I took my antihistamines and cough suppressent (when the cough was dry and ticklish). I even put Vicks Vapor Rub on my soles and socks over it as per the myth going round. It worked all of ONE night! So the next night I was back to coughing every 10 minutes or so. I had to sleep sitting up.

I popped my Vitamin C (3 x 1000mg) and garlic pills (3x/day) and prayed and drank lots of warm water and tried very hard not to yell at the kids  After 6 days, I was on the road to recovery! I am still coughing but only occasionally. What a relief!

Obviously, not much work has been done the past week and I have so many articles that I would like to put up on the website but sigh, they're now all on KIV since getting back to homeschooling is priority for now.

Thanks for praying for us! And I pray that the bug stops here!

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The 16mth old baby has it and is so, so miserable. Feeding her her meds is also making her and me more  miserable.

She must have caught the bug from me (remember my hacking cough?) but in her case the virus is attacking her tummy instead. She woke up with a high fever yesterday morning and the runs. It just continued the whole day and is still at it today.

I am dosing her with fever meds and lacteofort (both available from the pharmacy) and Solaray's Multidophilus (available at GNC). But it is a nightmare feeding it ti her each time. Sigh. So I mix everything together and literally hold her down with one arm and squirt the concoction into her mouth.

But even as she struggled against being fed her meds (as all the others did at this age), interestingly, when they turn 2, the children all love taking meds!

I am not for taking meds unnecessarily but in this case, the fever is making her so cranky that I had to get some meds into her system. And obviously, she has no appetite for anything. Keeping her hydrated is also a challenge as she refuses even her favourite plain porridge!

I hope this passes quick. I haven't been able to do much except hold her the past 2 days except when she naps. And seeing her in such discomfort is heart breaking. The cute thing is that all her siblings keep coming up to offer her their condolences and the 3 yr old was heard muttering a prayer under her breath this morning.

This is her 1st bout of illness since she weaned at 15 mths. Everytime a toddler is ill like this, I wish I were still nursing! Well, her immune system has to do it's own thing.

Say a prayer for her if you remember. Thanks!

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What would you do if you know that person A likes to put on a show of appearance to be super nice and helpful but is often bad mouthing whoever she is helping out? And to top it off, the people whom A helps raves about what a great help she is?!

I know I should really mind my own business, right? Afterall, it is really none of my business who makes friends with whom, right?  And one should be discerning to suss out who's truly nice and who's not.

But it is really hard for me to agree whenever people speak about how nice A is. Makes my hair stand. Oh what a fix!

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Being sick is no fun and being pregnant and sick and having to look after 6 children is worse!

The 1st day is often always the worst! The head is pounding, the throat is scratchy, causing one to cough incessantly. And when I do cough, it's phelmy. Yucks! And to top it off, the body aches. Oh and when one is pregnant, having bad coughing fits is erm...embarrasing too!

All in all, it's quite a miserable time.

And I am praying that the bug stops with me. Imagine it going round and round. How fun - not!

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Recently I was reading a well loved family magazine with all its encouraging and joyful stories about how the editor's and contributing writers' families all love the Lord and how their lives are just so great!

These stories, I presume, are meant to encourage fellow families to love the Lord and serve Him with passion and fervour. But suddenly they didn't seem to be all that encouraging to me anymore. In fact every story became downright discouraging to me.

It seemed as though these families have gotten their act together and their lives are just great. Well, my life is so not like that. Is anyone's life really like that?! Really? All the time?

Isn't it an unrealistic picture to paint? How come they don't face any obstacles? How come they don't have one-of-those-days? The magazine reminded me of some blogs or books I read which are always so upbeat.

Where they all are only too happy to tell me how to get my act together. And list down the 101 things that I gotta do so that my life can be just so. I told dh that these books actually don't serve to encourage me but rather make me feel worse! They tell me all the things I need to do - which I am unable to (for whatever reason) and make me feel like a failure or a lazy bum for being unable to do them all! I feel lousy and condemned.

So what's my strategy? I don't read them anymore! Haha! Really, unless it's some tips about cooking or home organisation, I don't read them them anymore. I don't even read homeschooling blogs that tell me all the fabulous activities mom does with junior to every day.

And let me tell you that my life is definitely not perfect nor great all the time. Sure there are good days with many moments of everything going just great : Children are obedient and cheerful and loving and school goes real fine. Then there are the bad days and the real bad days! Where I wish I was in another planet somewhere where I can actually eat a meal without 4 - or more! vultures hovering around me going, "Can I have some?, p-l-e-a-s-e?????" And when the day never seems to end.

That is why I wrote 10 Myths Debunked on my Building Up Moms website. Coz I certainly don't want anyone to think that I have got it all together. I know the principles to operate by but I am also human and I don't always do what I say. Ask my children!

I don't want to discourage anyone but to encourage. So, if by being real I can help someone, then great! And if you want some ra-ra type of reading material, sorry, you're at the wrong place!

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When I thought of moving the toddler into the Girls' Room, I was dreading the thought that the girls would wake her up too early as they usually wake up at 7:30am while she would wake up only at 8:30am.

But interestingly, she is the one now waking everyone up at 7am! And in order that I am not rushing to catch up with her, I have to wake up even earlier!

Well, the good thing is that we are now all waking up early and getting more done before lunch! Now, if only I have the discipline to go to bed earlier instead of past midnight!

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Sigh. I am having another eczema attack. The itch is truly unbearable.

Usually when it happens I pop one Piriton tablet (Chlorpheniramine Maleate 4mg) and that takes care of the itch - well until the next attack comes on. It says on the box that may cause drowsiness. Now I can take it when I am not pregnant and I am totally unaffected by it except that it brings pure relief from the itching.

But the moment I am pregnant, I can't take it coz it causes an extreme drowsiness that renders me totally useless! And its effects last a whole 24 hours!

There were a few times I was itching so bad I took one tablet before bed, thinking the worst of the side effects will take place at night. But woah! I was so groggy the next day that it was a complete write-off. So after a few times of struggling to get through each day, I swore that I would just grit my teeth and bear with the itch until it passes. (The non-drowsy antistamines are not safe for pregnant or lactating moms).

And of course avoid all the known triggers - shellfish and dust and stress!

The thing is I don't know what caused today's major itch! I hadn't eaten any shellfish since Sunday. I didn't dust today and I was relatively calm today. Hmm....could it be an overload of wheat?! We had waffles for breakfast and I was so hungry that I must have wolfed down 4 of them!  Perhaps it's time to lay off wheat again.

And let me tell you where the eczema spots are - my lips (yes, you read that right!) and the area between my ring and little finger of my left hand. Now a rash on my hand I can take but on my lips?! The vain person in me protests!!!

It was bad enough 3 years ago when I discovered that I couldn't wear lipstick or my lips will peel dreadfully but now, I have itching, cracked and swollen lips! Sure makes one feel ugly!

Now let me see what I have tried - EPO, Coconut Oil, Vit E, Fish Oil (oral and topical) and all sorts of creams that supposedly healed many, many people worldwide, except me! I am now a total sceptic when people tell me that  product x works. I am like - ya, right.

The sad part is that my oldest dd suffers along with me.  She has it a lot worse - on her elbows, behind her knees and her lips! And what makes me feel guilty is that I somehow must have caused it for her coz when I was pregnant with her, I had the most horrid outbreak ever.

It was as though whatever I lacked then was passed on to her in utero and that's why she has it now. And what worries me more is that if I can't manage to find out the cause of this attack, I am again, passing it on to the unborn baby!

 Do pray for us!

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No, not one of our children!

But a neighbour's kid. Living in an HDB flat does lead to many interesting observations. The close proximity of each black of flats to the other makes privacy a rare commodity.

This evening as we were spacing out infront of the tv, loud screams and crying was heard. Then there was the sound of a gate banging shut and man's voice shouting. Curiosity got the better of me and I went to see what was happening coz the crying was a terror-stricken cry, not the usual temper tantrum cry that I often hear.

And true enough there was a mini drama being played out in the block of flat opposite ours. A little boy, not more than 3 or 4 years old was screaming and hysterically trying to pry open the gate to his home and I could hear a man shouting, "Say sorry first!".

From where I was I could see the rest of the family calmy sitting down and probably watching tv! Hmmm...probably a usual occurence?!

Thankfully the boy was let in after a short while. And the crying stopped.

This reminded me of the time when I was chased out of the home. I was probably 6 or 7 years old then. According to my mom, I was being stubborn (as usual) and she was so infuriated that she asked me to leave the house. Apparently, I just left, without so much as a protest. However, I was saved by my maternal grandmother who happened to visit us just at that time.

She gave my mom a scolding and I guess that made my mom more furious than she already had been?

Anyhow, my point in writing all these? Just to say that anger and the lack of self-control often makes us do stupid things. Did you read about the man who threw his 7 year old son against the wall and ceiling coz the boy watched tv instead of doing his homework. Wow! Scary.

May the Lord have mercy and help us all as we raise our children!

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Today's Straits Times touched on how sensitive Singaporeans are about religion and how our idea of tolerance in this multi-racial and multi-religious society is to not talk about religion at all.

Then it interviewed 3 persons who have dared to talk about it and even researched extensively it. It was most interesting to note that out of the 3, 2 said they rejected Christianity because it was exclusive. One said that the thought of her relatives going to hell unless they converted to Christianity turned her off. The other said that she was disturbed when she knew that her grandmother was not headed to heaven coz she wasn't Christian. For both, the religion they finally chose was inclusive - it accepts all other religions, unlike Christianity.

So it seems to me that it is the exclusiveness of Christianity that often offends those who are yet unsaved.

I suppose the premise offends because it puts Christianity above all other religions and because Christianity refuses to be lumped together with the other religions.

Generally, the other religions say all gods are the same. The proverbial - all roads lead to Rome thinking.

But that's not what the bible teaches. Jesus says,

“I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me".  John 14:6

There is  no other way. Jesus is the  way.

Yes it means that your if I declare myself a true Christian and then when my beloved grandmother/ mother/uncle/etc who is not a Christian dies I would never see them ever again. There are no two ways about it. I will go to be with Jesus, but they would head off to face the burning lake of fire.

Sad? Scary? Unfair? Perhaps then it should spur us on to share the good news to them instead of lamenting over the unfairness of it all by saying things like, " But he/she is such a good person". Being good is not a criteria to enter the Kingdom of God. Faith and belief in Jesus Christ as the only way, is.

And if one worships the true God and other gods, we are commiting spiritual adultery. For the Lord says :

You shall have no other gods before Me. You shall not make for yourself a carved image—any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.
Exodus 20 and Deuteronomy 6

Offensive? Probably.

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I read off the AsiaParents list that someone actually paid $6,000 to a slimming centre to lose weight! Wow!

I doubt I'd ever do that. Maybe if someone would pay ME $6,000, I would lose weight! Lol!

I guess I have never been that desperate. But isn't $6,000 a lot??? And I was just thinking - wouldn't paying that amount for a personal trainer or a gym membership be better??? At least there's the physical benefit of working out and getting the endorphins going. And tighening those loose muscles.

I suppose the pressure to be slim and sexy after one becomes a mom is very great. Otherwise why would these companies always be targeting their ads at moms? Slimmng ads, saggy breast ads, etc...

The sad thing is that without maintenance, the weight tends to come back. It is the same as those women who swear by the massage and binding post partum. Sure the tummy may be flatter and tighter immediately after the sessions but if there is no maintenance, then the tummy bulge will slowly return. So is it worth it?

Just musing.

But I would love to have a personal trainer!

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I have been asked many times - so how do you do it? Especially now when they know I am nauseous and tired and grumpy and ache-y (is there such a word?) and still have to cook and do school.

I don't have any super spiritual answer. My answer is simple - JUST DO IT!

Really. Sometimes not having a choice is a blessing. You don't have to angst about choice #1 or #2 or #20. You have only ONE option. And in the case of cooking - it's either cook or eat Mac's everyday - yucks! or instant noodles - double yucks!

It's not as if dh can come home every evening with food like some other moms I know who have this luxury. So it's cook or starve. Though today, I did try bribing the kids not to eat lunch! Haha! I was that desperate!

And with school - do I really want the kids to go amok in the house with boredom? No thank you. So I make myself do school - pared down and just the basics and then they can go play to their hearts content. In this case, it is not as if I can pack them off to school and not deal with the school stuff, right?

I just thank God I am not throwing up. Just nauseous - even at 15weeks! I thought I had my energy returning yesterday as I was able to go shopping for clothes for ds#1 who needed more formal clothes for playing in the worship band. But boy! did I crash out when we returned home and at night and then crashed out again this morning as I struggled to finish school in double quick time!

By the way have you tried grading problem solving sums when all you want to do is sleep? Amazing how all the words merge together and even simple addition puzzle me!

Anyhow, all I want to say is I don't have an answer besides the simple truth that the Lord equips me and on my part, I just DO IT and meanwhile, try not to whinge too much about it.

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You know I am stressed when I start blogging A LOT - like I have the past few days.

But every time I feel like wallowing in my misery, I get sent an article, a video, or s story that in effect tells me - "Snap out of it! Stop having a pity party!" These stories provide a different perspective on life - that no matter what a bad day it has been, there are many out there who are truly suffering and that I should just focus on the positive things that are happening and deal with the negatives in a positive way.

Today, I read this post from Rocks In My Dryer, Living With A Chronic Illness. It made me cry. Her life is hard but she isn't letting it hold her back or hold her down.

If you are like me, grumbling and complaining about how hard life is, perhaps this story give you a different perspective on life. That we should stop complaining about our lot and start being thankful for our children (and the mess they create!), our health, our dhs, the home we have....truly learn to count our blessings.

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Hmm...am now thinking if I should have a post partum massage and binding done after I birth this baby - God willing, of course!

I have never had it done. Why? In the 1st place, there's the stress of dealing with a crying baby in the middle of a massage session. You know how they always need to feed when you are busy with something, in the newborn stage? Or they need to nurse every hour or so? I guess I could pump but I seriously doubt I'd be so hardworking! Plus I have thrown away my breastpump since I don't know when.

Then there's the smell and stickiness of the oils. And mostly, as I understand it, for the massage and binding to be effective in restoring one's figure, one needs to be bound tightly for a certain minimum number of hours.

My mom warned me that it would be very hot and itchy. A check with most friends agreed that this was true. One even scratched till her skin broke! Hmm...since I have a tendency to eczema, I think I'll definitely suffer from the itch!

Then there's the modesty issue - yikes! I have to be almost naked when the massage is done!

So why the change of mind? Well, I can feel that my ligaments are much looser this time round and I sure don't want it to over stretch and then end up with everything hanging out, kwim?

So I am torn - to massage and bind or not to?!

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I know this is so politically incorrect to say and post, but it is lovely to have fresh air again!

Bring tired and nauseous and having to breathe in incense-filled air is just not comfortable! Yes, I am thankful that the Hungry Ghost Month is over!

My immediate neighbour is very devout in celebrating all these festivals so they'll start burning their joss sticks and incense paper on the eve of the festival, often causing us to scramble in double quick time to shut all of the windows and turn on the airconditioning!

It is really suffocating if we do not do that. And to make matters worse, it was recently reported in Straits Times that the smoke-filled air is carcinogenic!!!

It is interesting that this block that I live at in Bishan seems to be a hive of activity whenever these festivals roll around. You should see the edges of the grass verge the morning after these "big days" are celebrated. (Poor cleaners!) One would think everywhere would be the same. But as I thought back of the places I had lived in - Toa Payoh, Ang Mo Kio, Keng Lee Road - none had such zealous believers.

I used to live on a 4th floor flat so I would definitely know if the neighbours burned incense paper and joss sticks but nope, the occassions they burnt their joss sticks and incense papers were few and far between.

But over here, on top of these festivals, there's also burning on the 1st and 15th of every Lunar month! And the daily lighting of joss sticks!

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Ever since I signed up for FaceBook, I got re-acquainted with some friends from long ago. It was fun to catch up and see what we are now doing with our lives. But it got me thinking and musing since most of these friends are now working moms, living a life totally different from mine.

They are living the life I lived before I got married and had kids. For them it was as if it made no difference that they are now moms. Life is still full of partying, shopping, power meals with fellow hip and happening people and looking fabulous.

Don't get me wrong, I am not complaining about my life but I am marvelling at how different our lives have turned out. There's no way my life could be described as full of partying, shopping, power meals and looking fabulous, kwim?  I guess when you compare this way, then no wonder women are hesistant to have more children or to even start having children.

On bad days, I'd ask my close friends - why did I become a mom? And a SAHM at that??? But then I am reminded of my own post, Why I Choose To Stay Home.

Do I really want a life that my friends have? Sometimes, when I feel down and the kids are just plain annoying challenging. Afterall, the grass is always greeener on the other side. But more often than not, the answer is "no". That is their life and this is my life. Is one better than the other? Who's to say?

And what is my antidote to those down moments? Focus on the eternal!

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