In a biblical preparation for marriage class I took in college, my wise Bible professor told us that "in marriage you get what you deserve."

I've been pondering these words lately and I believe them to be true.  There are a few women who believe they are not worthy of their amazing husbands.  And while this may seem noble, it could be due to an unbiblical self-image.  "You get what you deserve."   If he truly is as amazing as she believes, she may be forgetting that he saw great worth in her to have married her in the first place.  Such women should take care not to boast about their husbands as they could be indirectly praising themselves. They deserve such a man and should be both thankful and humble.

Sadly, I often hear Christian women criticizing their husbands and complaining about the many faults they see in their spouses.   But "you get what you deserve."  This should make women take a step back and carefully examine themselves and their own sins.  For all his gifts and strengths, you have gifts and strengths.  And for all his weaknesses and faults, you have weaknesses and faults.  (Now, lest anyone is being abused in a relationship, please take note:  abuse is biblical grounds to LEAVE a relationship and you should seek godly counsel from your church leadership immediately.  You do not deserve to be abused!)

But as a general rule for most people,  I say "amen" to these words.  Thank you, Professor, for the warning and reminder that in marriage, we get what we deserve.