WE mother's to be love and appreciate the wisdom and caring of our mothers, along with this I find myself concerned for those "grandmothers to be" that want to continue to shelter their daughters from everything. I understand the tendancy, and can see love shown through this so well, however you must remember that we daughters tend to take on the feelings of our mothers as well ~ so that kinda makes your worry not only bad for you but kinda useless. I was having a hard time at first with my mom finding herself unable to simply be happy with me about this preg. because she was so worried over my health and all the work a new baby would mean. This stemmed partly from our different veiws on children, I LOVE having kids, raising kids, and spending time with kids.~ Mom on the other hand is afraid of kids and doesn't really feel equipped to handle them ( although she did a wonderful job with us three!) She called me one day and apologized for not being happy ~ she said she was "being selfish for me"!Sweet, but I'd rather her just be as happy as I am, she's doing much better now,Praise God, I would hate for her to worry the whole time! So, let this be an encouragement to those grandmothers to be out there to just feel WITH your daughters and not FOR them, thats the best way you can help.

I hope this is coming across right, I am not unhappy with or angry at my mother, just worried in my own way about her worry! I know thats a little backwards, but we women are all alike in some areas!

Love In Christ.

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Posted by grandmommy

I think I understand what you are saying.

My mother was less than happy when I got pregnant. She was not the "motherly" type of person and expected me to feel the same way. I, on the other hand, love children and I enjoy having them around. To this day, she expects me to get tired of my grand-kids.. She never understood why my kids were always with me and now I baby-sit my grand-kids.

My grand-kids are close in age and I worried about my daughters but I was excited about the future.

Sometimes, we just have to accept our mothers as they are.

Gina

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