Romance in Marriage

     The passionate, tingling, swept away romance of courtship is God's sneaky way of getting us to marry someone who thinks passing gas is entertaining, cheese is a food group, and Valentine's Day is a corporate scam run by Hallmark and Wallmart. God is funny.

     My marriage has weathered nine years of on-again-off-again romance. Between wiping  up poo and trying to come up with a new way to serve chicken, I sometimes notice that the romance is changing. Just as my husband and I age and mature, so does the romance that tingles, sizzles, and sometimes just simmers between us.

    This new romance acts more subtle. Instead of racing my heart or fluttering my stomach, this romance quietly taps me on the shoulder and whispers "Look how he is smiling at the baby." "Do you see that he washed the dishes?"  I am grateful for the maturing romance that we have today. We built it upon sleepless nights with sick kids, cuddly moments on the couch, and even little budgetary spats that were the perfect excuse for making up.

      Every now and then, when I long for the romantic rushings of our beginning years, I listen to the song my husband serenaded me with the night he asked me to marry him. The soft notes and warm words remind me of our past and help me realize how much I like this new romance that we're growing.    

9:09 AM - Jan. 31, 2009 - post comment

All I can say is ...

WOW! This is so true and what a great way to think of how your love grows in marriage.

Anonymous - 8:12 PM - Jan. 31, 2009

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thanks for sharing

so, very true. Thanks for tapping me on the shoulder to help me notice the little things.

your little girl is precious. I am enjoying dressing my little girl up so much too. bonnets are so cute!

Amy
www.perfectlycrazylife.blogspot.com

Anonymous - 1:04 PM - Feb. 4, 2009

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You should write a book about this. So many times people forget what love actually is. It is commitment and a choice. My husband and I have been married for 9 years also and changes about how to love one another come and go. We are having a hard time right now and I appreciate your outlook on marriage right now. Thank you for this post! Blessings!

brooke - 2:12 PM - Feb. 5, 2009

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Thanks for writing about this. I needed a reminder. Things have fizzled with my husband, but I just needed to look in other places. He is a great provider and a wonderful father. I needed to recognize that.
Thank you.
Samantha
zoetrope2000@gmail.com
http://mendingherbrokenheart.blogspot.com

Anonymous - 1:03 PM - Feb. 13, 2009

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awww.... that is just so sweet! Loved readin' it!

tsukayama - 11:42 PM - Feb. 13, 2009

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I miss your posts!

I haven't seen a blog in a while. This one made me cry, and reminded me that my romance "dance" is very similar to this! God does have a sense of humor, doesn't He? Blessings!

wellgrounded - 4:04 PM - Feb. 28, 2009

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