Sad Admission

This week my mom has taken time off from work during the afternoons to come and help me.  It has been a real blessing.  Mom is gifted in getting a house clean!  Thanks mom! 

Today I left the two littles with her and JD and I went grocery shopping.  Due to the chaos surrounding childbirth, I hadn't been grocery shopping in a month.  We'd been living off of meals brought by kind folks, fast food, and hubby's expensive trips to the store (which ultimately end with very little food but plenty of  PopTarts!)

My poor mom...alone with the toddler and the baby!  She did a marvelous job, but later confessed something to me.  She called me and said "Working is much easier than what you do."  She admitted that juggling the kids was difficult.  She also said "No wonder women go back to work."

This is such a sad statement to me.  Women all over the world have fallen for the feminist line and have chosen to work.  They've chosen the easy path and have left their little ones to be cared for by someone else.  Oh, my soul hurts for these mothers.  Surely they will regret this decision later on.

My mother worked my entire life.  She has expressed some regret over it.  I just wish that more working mothers would realize that they cannot "have it all".  Its impossible to have a successful career and create a successful home.  Something has to give, and it is usually the home.  I know these words sound harsh, but it is the truth. 

I praise God that He touched my heart before my husband and I were married.  God is an amazing God!  He took me froms depths you cannot fathom to  a place I never imagined.  Thank you, Lord!

7:11 PM - Feb. 15, 2006 - post comment

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I agree with you wholeheartedly, even though I take some flak in my extended family for it. DSIL works and is pregnant with her second (and, she insists, LAST) child. She is seen as the ideal: working, house cleaned by a service once a week, weekends set aside for babysitters to watch her daughter so she and bil can go out, expensive vacations twice a year, dinners out three or four times a week ...

The thing is, her daughter is miserable. MISERABLE. She displays all the classic "attachment problems" of a little girl who has spent 60 hours a week in daycare since she was 6 weeks old. She fights her parents tooth and toenail over every little thing, then cries and cries when she is left with a relative for a week at a time so that her mother and father can go to France. Again.

This is, obvously, a huge issue with me. The Lord CLEARLY spelled out His design for a family and folks, this is not it. Babies were meant to be with Mommas ... and Mommas were meant to be with babies. I don't buy the financial arguments for moms working, either, bcause the Lord knows how DH and I have sacrificed and struggled to follow His leading in this area. It can be done, trust me--even if you are dirt poor like we were when we had our first baby, it can be done!

It's worth fighting for!

BooksandBairns - 3:07 PM - Feb. 17, 2006

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This sounds nice, but sometimes you don't have a husband who is willing to support a family. Sometimes they just are not man enough and you have to just do the best you can. I do however think real Christian men are willing to do this for their family and go without some things for themselves.

Anonymous - 12:54 AM - Jun. 14, 2008

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