Little Women
• Feb. 18, 2007 - how praise can actually cause harm to our kids
OK, you have got to read this article!  It's a bit long, though the gist of it is in the first couple pages. It's one of the most interesting I've read in a long time.
http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/index.html
(If you must have details, it tells of a study which found that telling kids "you are smart" makes them actually work LESS, while saying "you have obviously really worked on this" leads to greater and better quality work. The amount of difference they found was really staggering. What they said about how older kids and teens recieve compliments also really floored me--hint: they think it means something negative!) |
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• Feb. 26, 2007 - Untitled Comment
My dd was told she was smart in private school but was never held to that standard. When I began homeschooling her, I didn't take sloppy work from her because I knew she was smart. I challenged her and she began to give me her best.
My son is different. He looks at things and gets intimidated to try. So I encourage him slowly.
Just telling a child he is smart doesn't do this, it's all the other communication you send as well. Each is a unique child of God and requires handling in his own way.
JoJo