My Family and Thoughts

Jan. 21, 2007 - Going Plain

You know.. Today was slow, nothing fancy, we stayed after church for a new members meeting.. Funny thing, never joined, but are faithful so we are members..  We were asked to read a copy of the constitution, which I suggest you read from your church.  I have set up my closet with Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday clothing. And a separate group for church clothes.. Wednesday and Sunday.  We don't have a service on Sunday evening.. If any of you out there know why churches originally started a Sunday evening service, can you let me know.. I know in the old days they used to have after church fellowships because people came from miles around for church and such, but now..I am just wondering how it all started. 

 
I am officially starting my life in the plain setting.  I guess that's what you call it.. As soon as I have enough time and fabric I will be wearing dresses.  I am not saying that those who don't wear dresses aren't modest, I am saying that for me this is what is happening in my life.  I washed all the towels today and we will all have 2 towels.. Sound funny?  I see no reason why we have to have 40 towels. Most of them are ratty anyway, I just can't seem to throw them out.. I must just love doing laundry or something.. NOT   I gave the girls tags, they are actually homemade door hangers that say Monday - Sunday and some that say church.. That way they know what they are are wearing each day and I no longer have to hear excuses of I don't know what I am going to wear.  I fixed 2 dresses for one child today, and am making some culottes for the other, (daddy said they are fine, so they have and wear them).  These will be her good pair, for when people come over and such.. Not the ones she plays in with paint all over them... 
 
Ok, for you plain women, when you hear someone is going plain, do you automatically think they are covering?  What is your instant thought??  Just wondering.. For me it's covering, dresses only, aprons, I know, but that is what I think of.. Glass cookware and cast iron pots and pans, gardening, canning, and such.. I was just talking of this on another group and they were saying that going plain isn't a lifestyle but a way to honor God, and I agree, but to me it's also a lifestyle.  I am humbly praying about my garden this year.  We have never had a good corn crop and I pray this year we do. . . I hate to weed, but I think if we do one row a day or something like that, we'll be fine.. 
 
My husband said the other day. " I am the head of this house and if you don't like it that's just too bad, you had better get used to it now.. I do the bills, I make the rules, I do everything, and say everything and you just follow me.."  I said to him later how pleased I was,  I don't use the word proud often, it sounds like I have too much inward pride about something, but I was truly proud of him.. So pleased that these changes are being made in him.  He is now being basically taught / mentored by Pastor F. As are a handful of other men, including my friend Gingers husband.  I am anxious to see the growth in these men, mine and hers, because I am praying that it will be an obvious change.  Now I can't help but wonder if I'll need Christian counsel because my way of being a wife will completely change.. !!  But with your payers and encouragement, and the Holy Spirit guiding me, I will be fine!
 
I think perhaps part of this going plain is also out of necessity.. Maybe that sounds bad, but when we live like we are simple, no not poor, but when we are happy with what we have and making due with what we have, we are happier as a family.  When there is 'extra money' we are miserable because everyone wants it to do what they want with it... Me, I wish to pay debts, DH wishes to spend some how he sees fit because he never had extra money, so after conversation, it's one or the other..
 
My children are doing remarkably well.  They are handling the changes well, but I saw tonight at bed time, that I need to carry through what daddy says.  If I say it once they need to do it.. It's hard for me to do that.   You  wouldn't think, with all the bible teaching I have had that it's hard but it is.. It's easier to yell in the flesh that spank in the spirit.. Why, because one you can be out of control and the other you can't be.. If you spank a child it's to be a spanking, not a whipping or a beating, but a spanking.. Spankings are controlled.  Beatings and whippings aren't..
 
I am off.. Do you all have a bible reading plan?  How do you read your bibles?  A proverbs a day and a psalm a day, as well as your chapter reading ?  Just wondering.. If we profess to love and serve God.. I think we should be reading our bibles and not just talking about it..  Maybe this should be our book study.. A book in the bible and not a secular book.. My pastor says, why read a book about "The Book" when you can just read "The Book??"
 
Your thoughts on the above ladies??

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Nov. 26, 2006 - What's been happening

Well, here's what's been happening.. The Lord has definately been working on em.  I must say that the first and most important thing I have changed is my bible reading.  It's better, eay better.  I am much more consistant!  That is a wonderful thing.  I am also praying differently. I feel like a new prayer person, who has never prayed before.  Maybe that's a good thing.

 

I am much more consistant and am not doing their chores.  Thats hard.  It's much easier sometimes to just do it for them, but its not better for them. I think, the most important thing is that the cable is definately getting turned off.. No, it's not happened yet, but it will soon.  I am so happy for that!!  I don't answer the phone before 1:00 on school days now, and I keep telling them that I am the parent they are the child and I make the decisions when daddy isn't home and if they don't like it, too bad, they are just to be quiet!  And they are learning to be quiet!

 

Those are the biggest changes that have taken place.  There are more, but those are the first ones.  My attitude is getting better also, I believe I am putting God in a box and saying, it'sm y depression and I have it and maybe Iwon't ever get off my antidepressants, and that's always been fine with me, lately I am seeing that it's me accepting of the situation and not thinking God is big enough to take care of this.  It's a shame that I put him in a box. But, my eyes are opened.

 

I have to run, as i have lots of emails to check and things to do.. Thank you ladies and gents for praying for me.  I needed it and you were there.  Thank you.

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Nov. 15, 2006 - Once upon A Life...

Oh, once upon this life, I accepted the Lord as my savior.  Oh, to think that life wouldn't be perfect.  I sit here with children that are sick, they have been for a since Saturday and it has given me sometime to reflect a bit, on my life actually right now, as I am.  Where I am with my walk with God. 
 
Please, know I am not here for sympathy, nor even encouraging words.  I look for nothing from anyone here at the group, my desire is only to enlighten you, to show you where I have failed and where I need to make changes and have made them. 
 
In my heart of hearts, I don't love my children, the bible tells me so.  If I loved them I would correct them.  Not because of any other reason than that.  If I loved my children, I would make them a priority, after the Lord and after my Husband, not before them.  If I loved them, I would enforce the rules, the manners the time with the Lord that they truly need. It's so easy to say the words, we love the Lord.  But the actions are so much harder.  The bible is very clear to spank your children, if you believe it or not, the bible says to regard not the blueness of a wound or something to that effect.  If you spare the rod you spoil the child.  Not in, my child is spoiled, but in the fact that my child is spoiled like fruit, rotten.  Do you get that meaning.  My Liz shows that rottenness.  Alexis is starting to show the same rottenness. 
 
In my heart of hearts.  I do love my husband. I honor him and respect him and love him, as the bible tells me to.  I am submissive to him.  Although I fall short, the efforts are made more there than with the children. However, I am a flop at the money.  He prefers me to be in charge of it, as he can't handle it, it'll be all gone in a matter of minutes if he has it.  But do I really love him?  Do I really honor him, and respect him and am I truly submissive to him, or do I know his weaknesses and play upon them, use my computer time as an excuse for not having the house 'company ready' as he has so many, many times asked me to do.  I guess I am a liar, I really don't submit to my husband.
 
Shame on me isn't it.. It's truly a shame on him.  I am not the wife I was thinking I was.  Sadness grieves my soul this week and last... Complete sadness and grief. 
 
And now onto the subject of friends.  Why in this world we live in, do we put friends before family?  We are to sacrifice and love and be charitable and giving and honoring and rebuke fellow Christians, we are to do so many things, but that doesn't mean that that these people come before our family, does it ?   Yes there are times when they will, when we sacrifice for the needs of others, but this isn't to be on a daily basis, we aren't to let our families fall apart.   When our children are suffering, don't we care for them, help them?  Or do we help another person.  I mean, in our own families.  I'll give you an example,  My daughter Liz has some serious issues.  To look at her you may see it, depending on her countenance that particular moment.  Her problems are due to my neglect of training her.  Anyway, she must come before friends, training her must be fore most.  Training our children should always be in our mind..But are we also training them to serve Christ?  Or is it just training them to be 'good people'? 
 
I am a sad excuse for a Christian, as Paul said  that he was the chiefest of sinner, I feel that I am the chiefest of sinners. 
 
Ladies, please use me as an example.  Train you children to behave, but also train them to Love and want to serve the Lord. Wasn't it all started like this.
 
God - eternity past and present and future, then he created
Family and lastly he created the
Church.  So, if this is the order of this. (on this part, I would like input, but not on the others that I have written, if I am wrong on anything let me be wrong and pray that the Lord would enlighten to the the wisdom you have)   Friends fall under the church category.  If you need help, call on a friend, a Godly friend who is going to give you wisdom.  Someone who will uplift the Lord, who will show you mercy, but tell it to you like it is.  And ladies, as I have recently been told, remember to take the advice you are asking for.  At least try it.  Don't blow it off as idle words, because even those idle words we speak, we will give account for.
 
Lastly, for those of us who suffer depression or moodiness or whatever, blue days, sadness, constant anger or stress.  See a Dr.   Don't let your anger or sadness or anxiety get out of control.  You aren't helping anyone by not seeking help.  You are hurting yourself.  I recently did a study on the affects of anger in your body.  It affects you brain, you thalmus, you heart muscles.  People have had heartattacks immediately after a fight or explosive moments.  They have had strokes due to the brain being affected.  They have even proven that angry people die earlier than non-angry people.  God is very clear on anger.
 
Pro 22:24 -25
Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
 
Pretty clear isn't He.   Anger is a trait that is not only inherited, but learned.  Yep, I learned it from my dad, my daughter learned it from me.  I also have a chemical imbalance in the brain.  If I go off my medication at this point, yes at some point in the future I pray to be off it, but if I do now, I will cause chaos in my home.  I am unable to control myself at this time due to anger causing damage in my brain, and that damage may be permanent.  Scarry isn't it.  Permanent damage due to something I learned... Kind of like watching people drink and them becoming an alcoholic...kind of.. 
 
Ladies.  It is important that we become  sufficient in our selves, but of God.  If you need help, ask.  But if you desire fellowship, be up front about that.   If you have a friend you call upon, like I call upon my friend Vicki, have an understanding.  She is the primary one I call when I am having child training issues.  I trust her.  She  gives me everything I need in a godly way, when I need it.  She rebukes me and corrects me.  Encourages me and enlightens me.  Be that for others.  Use scripture, be an encouragement.  Lean on God.  Remember to read pray daily.  DAILY.
 
It sounds like I have  just prepared a lesson for a class.  I have, and I am the only student in this class, because this lesson is for me.  For my reminders, for my self only.  I share this to you, only for information, for you to take heed to me and my example.  I don't love God as much as I say I do or I would practice  more.  Soul win more. 
 
I don't want to play church, play Christian.  I am a Christian, but I didn't have my priorities in order... Guess what, I will now.  As hard as it is I pray I will keep them in order.  Please uplift me in prayer.  I have needed it this last week and I will need it this week also.  Kids vomiting and having diarrhea at the same time.. Yuck!!  If they are throwing up in the kitchen garbage... What a mess that was..
 
Lastly, I am sorry this is so long.  But it's been on my heart, that I can't be the only one in this situation on this group.  With the largeness of this group, there must be more than me.....

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Aug. 16, 2006 - More ponderings

Oh, Dear Lord God in Heaven... Help me to make some changes.

 

You know, so often we wish to help others, as women and moms.  So often we desire to teach and to train.  We are to be keepers and lovers and house wives and help meets and all these different things, and different people and all in one body.  Christ was also many things is one body.  He was leader, follower, God and child.  Spiritual and Physical.  He bore our burdens.  And I am ashamed that I don't really bear the burdens of others.  Not properly anyway, or what I deem to be as properly. 

 

Now, don't read this and think I am a failure as a Christian,  or that I am down and out and kicking myself in the bottom.   I am stating fact, a shameful fact.  I NEED to write down those prayer requests and not just say I am praying.  But actually pray.   You know what??  YOu do too.. Do you think you have a good prayer life?  Can it get better?  Maybe not, but it can get worse you know.  I am coming to the upward slope after being down and out from not praiyg and reading properly.  Satan does that you know, and you allow it to happen.  It's our fault.  We can blame life, we can blame circumstances, we can blame the sleepless night, but the fact is, we have a free will... We willingly choose to put it all aside and make something or someone else our God. 

 

I am at fault of that just reciently.  It was a simple little thing, a small matter, someone came up to me and pounced on me telling me  " your hair is your cover'  You see, I cover, and she started this conversation in hopes to say exactally those words to me.  I am terrible upset still and confused.  I don't know how to deal with this. 

 

Any way.  I wanted to give you some food for thought.

 

ETA  Do you know what that means?  Edited to Add...  Ok, so, now what else is happening.

 

We aren't going to be having the girls spend the night anywhere.  The exception to that is my parents house and my aunts house.  Andy's brothers house also.  They are pretty good, but the problem is that there values are different than ours.  I wan tmy children wilth me.  I want to know what they are doing.  What they are hearing.   What they are watching.  This is called Tomato Steaking.  Do you want to know what that means ?  Go here:  http://www.raisinggodlytomatoes.com/  It's a fantastic place.  Wonderful.  It's a great place to get started if you haven't done alot right now.  Or, if you've done alot and want to do some fine tuning.

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Jul. 18, 2006 - So Long

It's been what, just about a month since I wrote in my online journal.  To think, I sit at this computer and pay, while there are others who get paid to sit at theirs.

 

Ok.  I have heard the discussion that covering is for the 'culture' of that time.  So, what other topics in the bible are cultural??

 

Is the Holy Kiss cultural?

 

That is the topic currently on my mind.  lol.  Isn't it a command to greet each other with a holy kiss?  If it is, than it's not cultural is it? So, for those that don't cover because it's a cultural issue.  I challenge you to find for me cultural topics only and tell me do they fit in with II Timothy 3:15&16 "All scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable for doctorine, for rebuke, for correction, for instruction in righteous that the man of God may be throughly furnished unto all good works."  I think I quoted that correctly??  I am not going to check because it's terribliy late, well, it's after 11:00 pm anyway and I want to post this.

 

Since we last spoke, I cut my right knuckle on a glass while washing it. OUCH.  I probably should have gotten stitches.  It's a pretty scar that I have now.  I have made myself 2 jumpers and a dress.  I also made  2 bonnets, fixed a friends jumper colar and armholes, went on a field trip, had a picnic outside and that's about it.  At least that 's all I can think of right now. 

 

I have also been thinking about home church.  What is so unscriptural about them?  there is usually one person in charge, ie a teacher the bible clearly states that some have teacher and some prophets, and some pastors and some evangelists.  The early church started in houses.  They then grew.  Churches in America were in small buildings, small churches, but when the pioneers came, they had to worship in their homes first.  So,w hat's so wrong with them.  We are warned to watch for false teachers.  We have to try the spirits.  Tell me someone, why is homechurching so wrong??

 

Just a thought, 

 

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Jun. 27, 2006 - Yes, today is a new day.

Do you ever go through time when your schedule is just off.. Just not happening?  Well, I have and it is just horrible.  Today as I look around, I see that so many things have fallen by the way side because I make plans during the week.  I will be stopping that.  Weekend plans only.  It will be working best for us.  I don't have a schedule.  Well, I do, just not one that includes the house work.  We have wake up, make bed, get dressed, brush teeth, comb hair, do bible and school.  Then play and lunch and dinner and baths and bed.  But no REAL schedule.  Yes, i have the fly lady, but I haven't done anything with her lately.  I know, It's me.  I am working on my family more right now.  I really need to tie strings with my daughter who is 9.  She is always saying how she is left out and alone and noone cares for her.  I know part of it is manipulation, but part of it is true too, I remember feeling that way as a child and I hated it.  I always felt less, less loved, less wanted and more punished, more leftout.  I don't want her to carry that through her adult hood.  I want her to be secure.

 

I also wish for my children to Love God, not just say it, but mean it.  Practice it.  I am learning now how to do that.  For myself and for them.  How to put my thoughts to words.   I can write anything on paper, but to say them is not quite as easy. 

 

OK, for those that read this blog,  I have a covering question.  What is your feeling/thoughs/beliefs or convictons on children coveringn??

I am in the middle of this personally as I have 3 daughters (and a son).  Let me know.

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Jun. 19, 2006 - The Laundry

Yes, My MIL went home.  But, alas, the Laundry is being done.  I am perhaps 2 loads left to do today, as I don't do laundry on Sunday.  Praise God!  I like being caught up.  We limited the amount of underware, socks, shirts etc. that we have because it was making it just too easy not to do laundry. Do any of you out there have way too many clothes??  Learn from my mistake.  Mount Washmore in just huge.  Toss, don't wash unless you are going to immediately donate.  And when I say toss, toss the mismatched socks,  ripped underware and shirts.  The skirs that are stained beyond measure.  Don't donate rotten terrible clothing. It is a waste of their time to go through all this.  I know, I go through the clothing inour clothes closets at church sometimes and find horrible clothing in there.

 

Ok, that soap box is gone.

 

I started my own IFBhomeschool group on yahoo.  It's  http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ifbhomeschoolers.  If you are a IFB Homeschooler come and join.  I am not really going to do any advertising.  Just keeping things simple right now. But I need more than me to have a group. lol.

 

That's it for now.... more later.

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Jun. 15, 2006 - Sewing and sickness

We've been sick for about a month now or so.  Everyone had something.  But it all came to a head last Wednesday evening after church.  We thought DS age 5 was in the middle of an appendicitis attack.  Called the Dr. but he, (ds) was sleeping and said to wait till morning to get him into a same day.  Turns out ds had strep throat!!  It settled in his lower abdominal cavity of all places.  Well, fast forward.  Saturday morning 2 dd's complained of sore throats, so off to the Dr.s we go.  they both have strep, and the youngest dd said her throat hurt. so alas, they checked her too and she had strep throat!!  We have 4 children and  now a husband all on antibiotics.  Let me tell you, we had better be healthy for a while after all these antibiotics!

 

I am sewing some bloomers and camisoles.  Hoping and praying I can sell them at church.  I would really like to make a little extra money.  I love sewing also, so if I can combine the two... and teach my daughter at the same time, it will be a win, win, win situation.  Praise God. 

 

I am going to a mary Kay party tomarrow.  My mother in Law came up from another state and stayed with us.  She is a wonderful woman.  I love her so.  She has left and now comes the job of keeping up with the laundry.  She got us all caught up.  Night all

 

 

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Jun. 2, 2006 - Some of the things we do...

Well here are some of the things we have changed over the years.  We went from jeans only to skirts and culottes, (pants , loose fitting, non-jean type) at home.  I wear a cover.  The music is conservative.  Classical, homegrown church music, traveling Evangelists, things like that.  I use a Thompson Chain Study Bible not the Schofield any longer.  My hair is long, so is the childrens. No drinking at all, no smoking, no drugs. 

 

I have convictions now, and beliefs.  We aren't just conforming to what the Pastor tells us, we are searching things out to find our own standards.  That's changed for us.  Used to be I felt guilt if I thought one thing againt my pastor,  Any of the small Pastors that I was under.  Now, I have found my 'inner voice' the sweet Spirit that the Lord has given me.  The one who helps to guide me.

 

My husband asked me to get off.  It's late and we need to go to bed.  I have to get up at 5:00 in the morning.

 

Sleep well

 

Prov. 1:10  My son, if sinners entice thee concent thou not.

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May. 27, 2006 - Covering and my family...

'We have no such custom'  That is exactally what the bible says.  My mom doesn't agree with me covering, and neither does my Aunt. But, ya know what, that is alright.  I have to do what I believe I am to do. I really like wearing it.

 

Our fidge went today. We woke up to blood in the freezer from the meat, and thawed blueberry juice running all over the floor.  We didn't lose much food though because today was shopping day.  The leftovers, no biggie, the milk; it was only 1/2 gallon, we had drank the other 2 gallons so I felt no great loss with that, although, the kids did.  They love milk.  Yogurt, only  2 left,  the ice became water, ofcourse.  You know the drill.. clean out the garbage, keep the ketsup and everything else that you can.   Condaments I mean.  Praise God, we had paid down the credit card and could affor the new one.  If afford means the credit card, which we don't like to use as we are so close to getting debt free. 

 

Oh, my daughter, 10 is getting so wonderful.  She is finally helpful without being rebellious about it.  I get a sweet 'Yes Ma'am' or yes mom.  Not the eye rolling, and  huff of the past.   I can only say it's the Lord.  Praise God. 

 

I'm off.. have some emails to answer.. Night everyone in blog land..

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May. 25, 2006 - Covering

I have been wearing my cover for something like 4 days now.  My mom thinks that there is no need for it.  My aunt already thinks I'm losing it because I don't wear jewlwery.  I know, this is homeschooleblogger.com but, This is also my life.  Homeschooling is going, well.  We didn't get as much done this year as I had hoped, but we are going to be doing math and science and penmanship and yes, reading allthrough out the summer.  I am hoping that it will be a quieter summer than all the others have been. 

 

We're going to have a container garden this year.  Tomatoes, cucumbers, green peppers. Those little cherry tomatoes too.  Nothing big.  But something none the less.

 

I wore my cover to church Wednesday night for the first time.  I felt like they were all staring at me.  They weren't, it was just the Devils way of making me uncomfortable in my beliefs.  Satan lost that little battle. 

 

Someday I need to figure out how to make my blog alittle nicer looking.  I need it to be prettier, more girly, but not too girly. No little kid stuff, but maybe a little here and there.  Good night all.

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May. 18, 2006 - So much on my mind

There has been so much on my mind lately.  I have had sick children but joined a small KJV only little webring and some interesting topics come up. 

 

This is what was asked : 


"I'm just curious, how long have you women been going to your church that you go to now?  I've been at mine since Nov. 1995.  What makes you leave a church?  Jay and I have been burdened about this for a year now.   There are just so many issues involved and pray about it.  We just haven't felt lead to stay or leave.  Part of it is a loyalty issue and that's the #2 issue why we haven't left yet.  Like I said, I'm just curious.  I'm not trying to justify any of my reasons for wanting to stay or leave. ""


This was my reply :
How long have you been going to your church?  Since January 2006, for just about the entire month of December we were very ill.

 
What makes you leave a church?
  1. Not getting fed by the Pastor.
  2. Lack of trust the Pastor or Deacons. Mind you, this isn't one happening, he is a man of flesh like you are. 
  3. Money not going to the appropriate place.  Any volunteer donation to a specific place, item or ministry is being given to the church, not to the Pastor, or the treasurer. To God.  If  you give your tithe, they use it where they deem necessary, if you give money for a specific thing, perhaps the bus ministry it should be used for that.  Not for the lighting, but for the bus inspection, repairing a riped seat, special bus tracts.
  4. The general church having a 'judgemental spirit'.  Being put in a box that you basically aren't allowed to get out of.  This allows for no freedom of the Holy Spirit to work in you, for if He does, you are incapable of acting on it at church due to the questioning of  your motives.  People take many liberties in asking inapropriate questions.  Ask me what I got from my bible reading today, not "Where is your husband?"  My spiritual walk doesn't depend on my husband going to church or not.  However, if your husband doesn't come with you to church, this leaves you very vulnerable to judgement and gossip and even slander.  Please be in constant prayer.
  5. Your beliefs change from theirs. Not just beliefs, but convictions.  (The difference is a belief is something you would do, a conviction is something you would actually die for, is wearing skirts a belief or a conviction?)  For example, this is not to cause issues, but we believe in having our children in church with us, should we keep our children out of Sunday School or the Wednesday evening program.  And can we do it without causing any distention in the church.  In our case, we knew by some other couples that wanted to do what we did and it wasn't allowed by the Pastor.  We knew there was no way we could practice what we believed without being in conflict with the practices / tradition of the church we were attending. 
  6. Is your church one that will support you or control you.  Encourage you or belittle you?  Control is not the Holy  Spirit.


I know its long, but there are definately reasons to leave your church.  If you can't have trust you become critical and then bitterness and judgement come it. 

 

We have a couple of failed homeschoolers at our site.  I am one of them.  I did a terrible job the first time I homeschooled and my husband said put them back in school, that I am only teaching them how to be angry. He was so right.  Even today we are struggling with anger issues with our oldest 2.  My youngest was 2 at the time, perhaps a little younger? and he didn't have any ill effects, that i can currently tell.

 

My thoughs reciently have been on headcoverings.  Do I wear one or don't I?  What is my belief?  I have to do a little research, but I won't be wearing one any time soon.  My husband would allow me if I so chose, but if I made that decision I would rob him of his spiritual leadership.  It isn't my decision to make and until he makes a decision I will remain as I am.  I would not want to overstep my bounds and role as a wife and helpmeet to him.  If I did wear it, I would be making him answer for his wife.  Why she chose to wear one. If it's an act of submission then why take a role of leadership in making that decision, thus taking away the 'submission' to my husband.  Does that make sence to you all?

 

I know, it's been a long time since I wrote. I have no excuses. Perhaps someone would be willing to give me more information on why you should leave a church.  Is loyalty a reason to stay if you have no faith?  If you have no growth?  If you are stuck in spiritual sinking sand?  I am Loyal to my husband and to my family and to God.  Is there loyalty to a Pastor spoken of in the bible?   Just some thoughts I have.. Good night everyone... I'm off to get some bible reading in .  I wasn 't feeling good this morning and my migrain has become just a bad headache now..

Nighty night all...

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Feb. 2, 2006 - Another day in my life and thoughts

The flylady has been such a big help to me.  My kitchen sink looks wonderful!  I am actually getting dressed each and every day all the way down to my shoes!!  My hair isn't up in a ponytail any longer!  I even put on mascara for my husband.  (He perfers I wear it,so to please him, and a little of my vanity, I must confess, I do)

 

Homeschooling is so much better.  Pretty much everything is.

 

We left our Church and are going to a  new one.   Our family is already reaping the blessing of closeness.  My children, just to night, all 4 did a craft together.  Before, it would have been one or 2 but never all 4 working toward a goal.  I have removed the boundries I put on myself involving homeschooling.  I always felt that my children had to be doing exactlly what the kids in the church school was.  I know, that I put that one on myself, but since leaving, I am free from that.  I don't recommed to you to leave your church.  You better take a look at the big picture and never, never say anything bad about your pastor.   Our Pastor,(whos church we just left) gave us (DH and I) our foundation.  We may not be in church today if it wasn't for the foundation God gave to us under him.  He was always praying and caring over his flock.  But regardless of that.  It was time for us to leave.  I had apporached my husband about leaving  and he said we couldn't leave, we had to sit and just wait on the Lord to tell us when.   Boy was that hard.  But he was right.  Had we left when I wanted to I would have left full of anger and bitterness at some of the things he had said to me. (or rather us).  It was wise to stay, altough I must admit, running away would have been easier, it also would have been the cowards way out.

 

Any way, the new church is just  that, a new church to us.  I am sure we will see and find problems.  Understanding that, we also know that this is where we are supposed to be at this time in our lives.  Why the Lord directs some to go and some to stay is beyond my comprehention.  Some of the members in our old church have been there for 20 years.  We grew up there, left, and came back after we were married.  Many things happened to us during that time.  We left because we had both joined different branches of the military way back then.   Met again as adults, married, moved because of a job and came back.  How the Lord works is beyond me and my simple understanding.

 

Well, enough for now... 

 

 

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Jan. 25, 2006 - Fly Lady

Oh, my!!  What have Igotten myself into??  I have started taking flying lessons.  I am so excited.  It is starting so simple that I am hoping I can get the rest if the house involved.  What a difference it will make in our home.. To finally have it clean and in order for when people come over, but more impoantly for us. Because we deserve it.  We deserve to live in an orderly home, not only clean, but orderly..   What a great change it will be in our lives!!

 

Check out the link,  You'll find her.. She is awesome

 

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Jan. 18, 2006 - Wednesday Evening

Do you all have a great cook in your house other than you?  I do it's my husband,  he can really outshine me!  Some woman may be bothered by this..Not me...  I kind of like it, especially when i'm not in the mood to cook!

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Jan. 16, 2006 - Does it ever end??

Does the Laundry EVER END???  Quick and simply, NOPE.  If it was just mine, life would be simpler, but praise God for my husband and children who make so much laundry, I couldn't immagine life with out them!  My mom took one of my children for their picture.  We haven't done them in a while and money just isn't available right now.  Seems to always be the case, lack of money I mean. 

 

No school today.  I'd like to ge the house done though.  Letting the kids play.  They are playing so well together.  I like to see that.  They so often leave one out and now it's all of them except the one gettig her picture taken.

 

I am saddened by the lack of work my children put out, but it is my fault for making them this way, now comes the chore of retraining them to be proper people.  Helpful to others and responsible for their own stuff... the trials will be many the failures too.  But regardless of howmany times I fall, I'll get back up, with he strength offered by God and keep on going.   Kudos to all of you who started training their children when they were little.  And huge Kudos to you who have no TV.  Life would be simpler without it.

 

Praise God.  He is the BEST!!

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Jan. 15, 2006 - The first Sunday at the New Church

I loved it.  My husband didn't go, he had a difficult time getting ready for some reason.  The message informed and fed me at the same time.  I could go on and on, but I won't. 

 

The children, they did well.  My daughter, the 9 year old who didn't want to go, ended up having a good time.  Her hair was a bit distracting to her, but she did well.  They all did well.  Our 5 year old son was getting tired though.  Sitting is difficult for him as I haven't been dilligent in teaching him that.

 

I pray you all had a good day at church today also.

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Jan. 14, 2006 - Lazy Saturday

Well, its Satruday.  And again this Saturday they feel it is perfectally fine for them to do nothing, leaving the entire house up to their mom. 

 

Woohoo!!  My dear husband just said that he would come to church with us tomarrow!!  What a blessing.

 

My sister in law just stopped over.  She's helping me pick out colors for the kitchen and dining room and the livingroom downstairs.  She is a blessing.  We chose a yellow a tan and a rust.  Sounds not so pretty when I say it like that, but much prettier when you see the curtains that the colors came from.  I was motivated to rearrange the living room.  My sewing machine and surger go in their proper case, no longer sitting out.  The patterns, thread, scissors all go away.. It'll be a chore when it's time to sew something, but a good way to keep the house in order.  (And if I don't teach my children to respect the house, how in this crazy world will they figure that out??)

 

I just finished typing my letter to our pastor and to our friends.  My husband still needs to read them and give his approval or make changes.

 

On the right I have a blog site that I just love.  It's called The Welcome Home Blog. Click to go there.  http://www.achristianhome.com/Blog/The_Welcome_Home_Blog.htm   I added it to the right and called it "the welcome  home blog".  It was the first ever blog I happened upon and I have no Idea how I even got there!!  But, God is good.  Perhaps He is the one to take me there??

 

Off to finish up the housekeeping.  My husband just finished painting and putting the fridge into the little cubby he and my dad make for me.  The pantry is their next project.  Remind me and I'll tell you about it sometime.  Have a great day and don't forget to do the dishes and put them away before bed tonight, and grab those kids, they can be a big help!!

 

 

One last thing.. if anyone has any ideas on devotions, for not so elequant teachers as me, for girls and boys ages 3 - 9 can you please help me.  We are currently reading a proverb a day only monday - friday, as I have not started structured weekends.   (See above, it'll take me time to get things planned out)  We don't even have a regular prayer time at bed.   Did anyone start out as slowly with things as me?  I feel like a dummy at times.  Why can't I get things done?  that's why I'm doing a one room at a time techinque.  Now is the kitchen.  When we get it down for about a month, we will move onto the next room.  (The diningroom)  Then the Entryway then the living room and lastly bedrooms.  Has anyone tried to do this way and was it successful for you?

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Jan. 14, 2006 - New Things on the Horizon

Well.  I just got my husbands approval to go to the church up the road.  It's a 'family church' which I am excited about.  Although, I must say my children aren't all that thrilled about it.  You see, I have a saved husband who doesn't go to church with us.  Some woman may feel that they don't have to submit to their husbands because of that, but I believe I have to.  That someday my submission may just lead him back to 'church'.  He already has God, salvation isn't in question.  Just his willingness to submit to Him.

 

School is going well.  I haven't been doing it long.  The first time I tried 2 years or so ago I was a major flop.  It wasn't the children's fault, but my own.  I didn't do it for the right reason.  God needed to direct me.  I took God out of the equation and made the decision myself.  Bad choice!!  Lisen to God first and always.

 

So, Sunday.  I am very excied about it.  I've been to visit a short time ago for about a month.  My current pastor didn't appreciate it.  I definately understand that.  Now if I leave, I will send him a letter telling him, however, I have concerns about what will be said to the congragation about my leaving.   So, letters will be sent to my closest friends and a copy will be attached of the letter I send him so they know what was said and the reasons I feel led to leave.  Funny, so many people say they are 'called' to this church or that.  I don't feel 'called' to go there or leave where I am at.  My beliefs have simply changed.  Beliefs about family, and the separation of family in church.  Ah well.. time will tell how all this will work out.  I'll keep you posted.

 

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