technically I have 10 days left...........durn those are going to be long 10 days...........
we have some adjustments to make: K our 15yr old foster daughter who has been with us for 3 years went home on Saturday. Some issues with her got cleared up and the last week was nice. She seemed to think we "only pick on her"........ we reminded her that she is at school and our boys are at home and so she didn't see all the time they got in trouble.............. which isn't true cause they get in trouble when she is home. She is just very egocentric.
She gets home (2.5hours late thanks to her dad) and a few hours later calls us to complain how awful it was and her dad was in a mood and such. DH told her, it will take time to get used to it.
So many times we've seen this, and it hurts. Foster kids who have been in a normal (well, I guess we are normal!!LOL!) loving home where they don't have to worry or fend for themselves everyday, they still have this dream that they will go home, everyone will be happy and live happily ever after. WRONG!!!! most bio parents here have never had to get themselves straightened up, never had to show they wanted to improve conditions and don't even have to have a steady job for that matter!! So I know her dream has been broken rather quickly. She made the decision to go home though. She could've stayed til end of June, she even could've stayed til through high school, we give every foster kid those options of staying on even after they finish foster care. NOPE! she made her decision and now dealing with the consequences.
We have to adjust after 7 years of foster parenting. We've always had a teenager in our house (or 2 or 3). Our boys have always had a big sister around. Now, it's just us, just our family. Weird and empty feeling!
Comments
Jun. 17, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by bigredriver
I never like that feeling when a child first leaves. It's hard not to worry about them.
Jun. 22, 2008 - Foster parents
Posted by Anonymous
Hi there,
I'm in the US and I found your site a year ago.
I just check your site out of curiosity and see that you have a foster daughter. I did not know there is a foster system in Taiwan.
I lived in Taiwan till almost 12yrs old and move to US (Los Angles area). I am homeschooling my 2 kids, 7.5yrs and just turned 9yrs.
Michelle