May. 8, 2008
"Anger-Relationship Poison" Notes
These are my notes taken at the AHEA conference. Steve and Teri Maxwell were the speakers. You can get their CD on this topic at their website Maxwell Family and you can get some awesome teachings by Dr. S.M. Davis. The one dealing with anger is called Freedom from the spirit of anger.
Anger causes us to lose the hearts of our children! It poisons what has taken years to build! (that alone kinda makes me wonder why I lose it, sigh?!)
Foundation for Overcoming Anger:
*Relationship with the Lord
-are we saved? Acts 16:31
-are we spending daily time with Him? Psalm 5:3
*Recognize that anger IS a choice.
-Proverbs 19:11
-Proverbs 16:32
*Recognize anger as sin, and all sin have consequences
-Ephesians 4:31-32
Some examples of Anger's Consequences
-Moses' anger with the Israelites led to disobedience as he struck the rock instead of pointing to it, this disobedience in turn led to the consequence of not being able to go into the Promise land! WOW, now THAT is a major consequence, eh?!
-Haman's anger toward Mordecai because Mordecai would not bow to him in reverence...his anger burned and he ended up being hung in gallows he had actually prepared for Mordecai! It's a long story but a good one! Esther 2-6.
Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.
Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
James 1:19-20 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
Anger has to be put away, NOT controlled!
-Ephesians 4:31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
-Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy,filthy communication out of your mouth.
Well, to me that even helps decide what movies to watch! If we aren't to speak these things, chances are the Lord is not going to be real excited about us watching movies that have these things in them either!
We are to treat anger as dangerous. For me, it's almost like an addiction! If I've been doing really well in the anger department and then one day get mad at the kids, it has real potential to escalate! It gets easier and easier to be just a little bit louder every time you are angry, until you really can not get any louder so then you start making loud noises by banging your hand on the table etc. do you see how easy it is to get carried away? We really MUST treat it as dangerous! Because it truly is!
Don't make excuses. We can't blame circumstances as the reason for anger, IF time was taken when we started our day, to deepen our relationship with the Lord, chances are we wouldn't be ready to fly off the handle when things don't go our way!! Remember, anger is a choice!
I have not found a single scripture verse that justifies mans anger, not one!
(If you find one let me know!!)
The Maxwells suggest:
Repentance
Confession
Don't have angry friends, Proverbs 22:24-25 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
Pray, Philippians 4:6 Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
Accountability, Galatians 6:2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
A soft answer Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Physical closeness
Fasting
I hope these notes help someone...but I would highly recommend going to the Maxwell's website and purchasing their teachings!! They also have some of Dr. Davis' teachings available at a VERY good price!!
Blessings to you all!
Anger causes us to lose the hearts of our children! It poisons what has taken years to build! (that alone kinda makes me wonder why I lose it, sigh?!)
Foundation for Overcoming Anger:
*Relationship with the Lord
-are we saved? Acts 16:31
-are we spending daily time with Him? Psalm 5:3
*Recognize that anger IS a choice.
-Proverbs 19:11
-Proverbs 16:32
*Recognize anger as sin, and all sin have consequences
-Ephesians 4:31-32
Some examples of Anger's Consequences
-Moses' anger with the Israelites led to disobedience as he struck the rock instead of pointing to it, this disobedience in turn led to the consequence of not being able to go into the Promise land! WOW, now THAT is a major consequence, eh?!
-Haman's anger toward Mordecai because Mordecai would not bow to him in reverence...his anger burned and he ended up being hung in gallows he had actually prepared for Mordecai! It's a long story but a good one! Esther 2-6.
Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.
Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
James 1:19-20 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
Anger has to be put away, NOT controlled!
-Ephesians 4:31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
-Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy,filthy communication out of your mouth.
Well, to me that even helps decide what movies to watch! If we aren't to speak these things, chances are the Lord is not going to be real excited about us watching movies that have these things in them either!
We are to treat anger as dangerous. For me, it's almost like an addiction! If I've been doing really well in the anger department and then one day get mad at the kids, it has real potential to escalate! It gets easier and easier to be just a little bit louder every time you are angry, until you really can not get any louder so then you start making loud noises by banging your hand on the table etc. do you see how easy it is to get carried away? We really MUST treat it as dangerous! Because it truly is!
Don't make excuses. We can't blame circumstances as the reason for anger, IF time was taken when we started our day, to deepen our relationship with the Lord, chances are we wouldn't be ready to fly off the handle when things don't go our way!! Remember, anger is a choice!
I have not found a single scripture verse that justifies mans anger, not one!
(If you find one let me know!!)
The Maxwells suggest:
Repentance
Confession
Don't have angry friends, Proverbs 22:24-25 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
Pray, Philippians 4:6 Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
Accountability, Galatians 6:2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
A soft answer Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Physical closeness
Fasting
I hope these notes help someone...but I would highly recommend going to the Maxwell's website and purchasing their teachings!! They also have some of Dr. Davis' teachings available at a VERY good price!!
Blessings to you all!