"Early to Bed, Early to Rise" Isn't Scripture • May. 14, 2007

 

From Katie:

 

Thank you for mentioning to me (a while back) that you have your smaller ones stay in bed until 8:00.  I have an early riser who would get up at 5:45 sometimes and that would begin my day.  I recently have been having the girls stay in their beds until 7:00 and we are all much happier and they are more rested.  They even sleep longer now, at times, because they know they have to be there until 7:00.  I set their alarm for 7:00 and when they come in to get me we're all a happy group (we used to be a grumpy group when they woke up particularly early). 

 

I thought this would be a hard transition, but it's actually been so easy!  I don't know how you do it, but I let them take some books to bed at night so they have something to do in the morning if they wake up early.  Just wanted to thank you and I also thought that this might be a great topic for a blog because it has really improved my life.

 

Some time ago I just came to grips with the fact that I don’t do mornings well.  I’ve heard all the rhetoric but I don’t buy it; I’ve heard the sermons, I’ve read the devotionals and the blogs that equate early mornings with better spirituality, but I just can’t agree.  For me, seven hours of sleep most often happens between 1 a.m. and 8 a.m. 

 

And so I have trained my little ones to stay in their rooms until at least 7:30.  Many times they hop on my bed and cuddle with me and the nursing baby, other times they get going on their morning stuff.  It works for us.  Our days look like an early-riser’s day, the hours are just shifted a little later.

 

I think I learned this early.  My mom used to put a cup of Cheerios in my crib and that bought her an extra 30 minutes in the morning

Most importantly, what works for you?

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Right there with you friend - May. 13, 2007

Shared by lazyd
We taught all of our children to stay in bed until we get them up which was usually between 7:30 and 8:00. I wouldn't have it any other way.

And, by the way, I'm thinkin' that cheerios is a much safer crib toy then hmmmm....markers! ~Heather
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Alarm clocks - May. 14, 2007

Shared by Meredith_in_Aus
Recently, my dear friend, Sal, and I were talking about this. She has really early risers and the alarm has been a great tool for her to get them to stay in bed, too. But the other day the unthinkable happened, the children slept in...until the alarm went off. Her comment was "the alarm clock is supposed to keep them in bed, not wake them up!!!"

I don't know if the manufacturers knew that.

In Him

Meredith_in_Aus
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Getting the evening time too - May. 14, 2007

Shared by SnowFairy
I'm curious to hear how you get the kids naps, down early enough and to sleep in.

I feel like I'm only ever getting two out of three. (And the naps are *sooo* needed)

Are kids down by 8 or sooner?

We are really... laid back about this, so we've not often got them down before 8:30/9, and even then they're often awake for an hour or more.

It makes me so crazy some times b/c I can't *do* anything (movie, private conversation with DH) w/o a little 2 or 4 y-o voice quietly and periodically telling me they've gotten up to use the potty.

And I know it's a bad idea to start threatening punishment for coming to talk to us instead of just taking care of business, but when you know it's calculated to interrupt and delay return to bed that. much. longer.... :p

ugh. Sorry about the rant. Would love to hear suggestions (including how to wake a sleeping-stone napper-- since shorter naps would seem the first step, if I could get them to waken).
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Untitled Comment - May. 14, 2007

Shared by Dana
With my first son, I would slide a paper under the door to let him know when it was time to get up. If he was awake he would get up, if not sleep.
Question: How does this stay in bed thing work when you have children sharing a room? My early riser (second son) 2 yrs - ish would wake up first. And wake up his brothers 3 1/2 and 6 mo. at 5:45 AM. It was painful to have them all awakw at the sametime that early.
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early mornings - May. 14, 2007

Shared by Anonymous
I am not a morning person....I feel much better if I get up at 8am. I have an early riser who wakes up the second the sunlight hits her face. Depending on the time of year depends on when she wakes up, the earliest being before 6am. So I leave her what I call a "peace offering". It is a bowl of cereal and some watered down juice. This usually is what she wants right away so it buys me some time.
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early mornings - May. 14, 2007

Shared by Anonymous
I am not a morning person....I feel much better if I get up at 8am. I have an early riser who wakes up the second the sunlight hits her face. Depending on the time of year depends on when she wakes up, the earliest being before 6am. So I leave her what I call a "peace offering". It is a bowl of cereal and some watered down juice. This usually is what she wants right away so it buys me some time.
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sleep? what's that? - May. 14, 2007

Shared by Anonymous
Thanks for this post. Sometimes we as moms just need the validation from another "seasoned" mom that it's okay not to be up and "at it" by 6:30 every morning. I am definitely not a morning person, and am still figuring out how to get up before my kids so that I can have a quiet quiet time. :)

Although I like lists and organization, etc., I have been pretty laid back about scheduling naps at specific times, nursing schedules, etc. I can relate to SnowFairy - we've struggled to establish a routine and get the kids to bed early enough that I'm not crashing into bed as soon as they're tucked in.

Here are a few things that helped us:
Develop a routine that works for your family - for us I think that the order of potty/teeth, pajamas on, and THEN books (read in the bedroom, not downstairs) is partly what has finally helped us to have a peaceful evening. My three year old tends to ramble around the room while I'm reading, but I try not to get too uptight about it. Still, it gets his wiggles out because once he's in bed he actually stays there (he used to come down 3-4x/night!). Ideally he is supposed to be listening to the book while resting in his bed and calming down for the night.

Another realization that I had recently in regards to my 9 month old was this: I often wish that he would be a better napper, but I haven't taken the time to think about our day! Once I sat down and thought about it, I was able to implement a better routine which helped him nap for longer and at the same time get to bed a little earlier! For example, when I thought about our day I came up with this rough schedule:
6:30 wake/nurse
9:00 nurse/nap (wake whenever? 10:30ish)
2:00 nurse/nap
7:30 nurse/bed
It helped so much to visualize this! I am not a fan of scheduling breastfeeding, and it is my desire to be flexible in what I plan. It's something that I'm learning to incorporate into my mothering and finding that as I plan the routines of naps and bedtime, then everything seems to flow a bit more smoothly and there is a little bit of quiet at the end of the day for me and my husband.

I'll have to try some of the morning tips, now, for some peace at that end of the day!

-Carole
www.thoughts-of-home.blogspot.com
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Naps - May. 14, 2007

Shared by Katie
Concerning naps, I have found that if I wake them up before 3p.m. (or even 2:30 p.m.)and not let them sleep too long during a nap, it does help them sleep better at night and not use daytime hours for what could be night time sleep.
If I lift them and carry them out to the sofa, the noise of the family or a video will usually wake them(along with me repeating their name again and again and nudging them.) I'd even set them up on the sofa if that's what it takes to wake a sleeper.
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"Early to bed, Early to rise" isn't Scripture - May. 15, 2007

Shared by Mrs. Guthrie
I agree whole-heartedly!! Even if we are in bed at 9:00 or 10:00, I still have such a hard time getting up before the sun!! But I also have to start whatever things need to get done before noon, otherwise we are toast!! If it doesn't get done in the morning, it doesn't get done... So we have to walk a fine line there....
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room darkening shades! - May. 15, 2007

Shared by Julie
My mom came up with this idea and I'm soooo thankful: she bought room darkening material at the fabric store and made a pocket across the top the width of our window, and hung it with a tension rod inside the window frame. For my sons' room, she made the inside of the shade with blue and white stars since their room is red, white, and blue themed. For my baby girl, she made it plain, but it has helped her to nap in the morning and has helped her go to bed at night at 7:30 or so. Try this!

http://accidentalpastorswife.blogspot.com
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Untitled Comment - May. 16, 2007

Shared by Copperswife
I'm so glad you posted this!!! I have never been, nor will I ever be, an early morning person. I think that we, as women, guilt ourselves into trying to be something that we (and our families) are not. We need to do what is best for our own families. If others rise early and it works for them, great!! If getting up later works, that's no less great!!
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It's the way you're wired . . . - May. 16, 2007

Shared by ForSuchATimeAsThis
Oh my goodness did I enjoy this post!! Recently my homeschooling supervising teacher shared with me that they have done studies on how you best learn (bright or low light, music playing or not, needing to move, etc.) and they have discovered that it's as inborn (is that the right word) in you as weather you are right or left handed. Now included in this was if you are a morning person or not!! YIPEE!! I have STOPPED trying to make myself (and some others have tried to make me) into something God did not design me to be. I only wish those morning people that think your lazy, etc. if you're not a morning person would understand this. Thanks for your comforting words, Kendra!
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Untitled Comment - May. 17, 2007

Shared by misty316
I too am not a morning person, I never knew there were very many other people that were not besides myself. Especially in the homeschool world. I thought you all got up bright and early and finished with school by lunch lol. I like to sleep until 8 and stay up until 11 or 11:30 my problem is my kids sleep until 8 with me and they don't want to go to bed at night until 11 either we start getting ready for bed at 8 or 8:30 and usually have them lying down by 9 but they don't actually go to sleep until 11. I have to lay down with my 2yr old so that leaves no quite time for me or dh. Problem is, he is and early riser and has to get up at 4am and is gets home at 7 and is ready to go to sleep by 8 or 830. I have been telling myself for the past year that I am gonna get up at 5:30 have some quite time read on the computer and blog get my shower and get them up and begin at 7 so they will be sleepy at 8:30 and go to sleep. I also let 2yr old sleep 2 hours during the day cause I am trying to get some things done while she naps. Every few weeks I say well I should face it I am not gone get up on time I am not a morning person and never will be.
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What about Proverbs? - May. 18, 2007

Shared by Anonymous
Isn't there a verse in Proverbs 31 that goes along these lines: "She rises while it is yet dark and prepares a portion..." Please don't think I'm trying to be obstinate or judgmental. I do NOT rise while it is yet dark... And while it's not given as a commandment or anything, it seems like it was written as something to aspire to. Thoughts?

www.aspiringtosimplicity.blogspot.com
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What about Proverbs? - May. 18, 2007

Shared by Anonymous
Isn't there a verse somewhere in Proverbs 31 that goes along these lines: "She rises while it is yet dark and prepares a portion..." I certainly do not mean to be judgmental... I do NOT rise while it is yet dark, or even dawn, usually. And while it's not written as a commandment, it seems to be written as something to aspire to. Thoughts?

www.aspiringtosimplicity.blogspot.com
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Rising Early - May. 18, 2007

Shared by PreschoolersandPeace
You raise a good question, one I am not qualified to debate. But as I look at Proverbs as a whole, I see many good principles. Chapter 31 also states that she buys a vineyard, with the principle being that she is wise with her money and turns around to make a profit that blesses her husband and family. The principle of rising up early is not at all lost on me; we all should be diligently looking well to the ways of our households. For some of us, that means rising early while it is yet dark to begin the laundry. For others of us (me!) that means I am up at midnight running the laundry.

I always liked Psalm 127:2-- "It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late..." :D

But I digress. I believe that the principle of a diligent, hard-working, joyful, industrious wife supercedes the idea that one hour is more godly than another.

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Mornings aren't my thing either... - May. 19, 2007

Shared by Anonymous
"I believe that the principle of a diligent, hard-working, joyful, industrious wife supercedes the idea that one hour is more godly than another."

My thoughts exactly!! I am NOT a morning person, but I don't consider myself to be a lazy person either.

Melissa
<a href="http://www.melissa-abernathy.typepad.com/from_melissas_desk/">From Melissa's Desk</a>
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Untitled Comment - May. 26, 2007

Shared by kristigirl444
I know I'm late on this and I'm not sure if you'll see it, but AMEN!! This was so refreshing to read, the pressure to get up before the crack of dawn (or at the lastest, right at the crack of dawn) is so intense among conservative Christian homeschoolers. I have tried to force myself to do that but my body will not cooperate! I'm exhausted and grumpy by 11am if I get up too early. I have always been a night person and I've never been a morning person, even as an infant! The morning people I know are in bed by 9pm-10pm while I'm up until midnight or 1am. Either way, it seems we're awake about the same amount....? Thanks for posting this!!!
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