I feel so helpless today. I have a very dear friend and a family member going through rough marriages. I wish there was something we could do, but we've done all we can. We pray for them, listen to them, and even give advice when asked, but only when asked and even then we are very careful what we say.

My husband and I have an excellent marriage...wouldn't trade it for any other! My dh is sooooo good to me and I to him. So when these two couples asked us how we have such a good marriage, we tried to tell them, but the main ingredient in our marriage doesn't exist in theirs and they aren't willing to insert that ingredient into theirs.....the ingredient is selflessness. I put my husbands needs above my own and he does the same for me. And since we each want what is best for our spouse it all runs pretty smoothly. I feel absolutely adored and so does he (or so he says LOL). Now I'll add the disclaimer....we do have our problems.....but we are determined to work them out and we do. We give each other the benefit of the doubt and remember that it isn't about ME, it's about US, but ultimately it is about God.

I'm not a professional...and feel ill equipped to help them work out their problems. They don't want honesty...they want someone to agree with them, thus the real reason for their marriage problems in the first place.....none of them want to accept that they could be wrong. 

So today I am feeling helpless, frustrated, even angry that there is nothing I can do. So please, God, take over and help out our loved ones.

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Posted by Anonymous

That is so sad. Listening is all you can do isn't it. I think people who don't work on their marriages don't realize it only gets harder after a divorce! I have a lot of changing to do to improve my marriage. Luckily my husband puts up with me as I go. You are an inspiration!

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