Family planning is an issue I have been taught about and I thought much about before I was married. I have been advised by many about it. Am I against it? For me and my family, the answer is Yes. Why? Am I not educated? Is it not irresponsible? Do I know what I am in for? What of the future? What of finances? What of my health? Regardless of these questions, we have submitted the matter of birth control to our God’s control.

The previous question and this are closely tied. The blessing of God for a godly family is to have children. I do not know why there are so many miscarriages and infertility problems in my current generation. God has spared me from that and given me a great blessing – to be able to physically bear children.  People now consider a fruitful womb to be a curse. How can they think so when God calls it a blessing from Him? God cries out against the killing of babes in the OT of the Bible and says, “Every soul is mine! You have crushed me!” Psalms 139 bellows out about God’s sovereignty in the creation of each child, no matter how conceived. It speaks of God’s purpose and knowledge of each day in the life of that individual. Life is no accident. It has a beginning, but is designed to live eternally - with God or away from God is another thing.

Everyone was glad when I had my firstborn, as is the usual case. None of my other children were considered as special by others after that. People asked me if some of them were mistakes. God does not make mistakes as I have mentioned. Some have stated that it is okay as long as the children are healthy. In Exodus, God was angry with Moses for complaining about his speech problems. God said, “Is it not I Who creates the lame, the deaf, and the blind?” To me, it is a question of trusting God. It is the question from the very beginning of time. Can we trust God no matter what? I know my God, and I choose to trust Him. WE sing,”I surrender all”, but this area is so difficult to surrender to God. I have come to realize that every child, every person, every soul is absolutely worthwhile and ultimately valuable for the sole reason that God loved them enough to create them and send His Son to die for their salvation. I have personally experienced Him and know Him to be a personal God with interest in the daily mundane lives of every one. Every child is unique, their timing perfect, and their purpose special and God ordained.

Another reason for our decision is the history of family planning. The son of Judah in the Bible tried his method of family planning, which is not too different from modern day methods, and God was incensed against him and killed him immediately. Warning for us! The first proponents of the contemporary “pill” was Planned Parenthood, a pro-abortion agency that has clinics everywhere for women who want abortions. All Christians should abhor abortion! How can we side with those who called it “the greatest breakthrough ever?” Satan has used family planning methods to allow people of all ages to engage in flamboyant sexual activity outside of marriage. It is a “Pandora’s Box”. It has led to failed marriages, dysfunctional relationships, long-term physical and relationship problems in the lives of millions, and disproportional population problems in Japan, China, and Europe. I will not have any part of Satan’s lie! So for my family, I am against family planning. But I do not judge anyone else for their decisions and I do not ask.

Health is often a variable that people cite when advocating birth control. Yes, pregnancy is trauma to the body. But I have researched many things about pregnancy and one thing that medical science agrees on, but has no answers as to why it is- is the fact that with a healthy lifestyle, the more pregnancies you have and the more you breastfeed, the less chance you have for reproductive organ cancers, osteoporosis, problems with the uterus, etc. In my family and my husband’s family, I have had such examples. My husband’s grandmother is the mother of ten children. She is still alive, 98 years old, and her only complaint is that she is outliving her own children. She has seen 5 generations. My father’s mother was a cheerful, loving mother of seven. She lived to be 85 and even though she had manageable diabetes, she only developed a mitral valve problem of the heart in the last two years of her life.

I trust my God. I am not stupid. I have researched every birth control method there is and found none to be biblically acceptable. God plans my family and I am in good hands for He is the author and source of all life. The difficulties and pain of that one year of bearing a child physically is nothing compared to the joys and griefs of raising an eternal life for the One Who created that life.